Struggling with my girlfriend.

I will explain it as shortly as I can. Well, all started when we met up, a friend of her just talked about me and she liked me so we started chatting and in the first 5 minutes we were laughing our asses off. L8 that day she decided to add me to facebook so we could start "knowing eachother". After that, we've been chatting for like months and months but the problem was and it IS that we have no money. I am 19 years old and she's 17 now. After 9 months of chatting and living "together" we were able to chat every single day and we started "something" called "long distance relationship" which means shit because you have nothing. I couldn't hug her, sometimes she was crying about why is so hard to not meet eachother up even a signle time, a single day. We were struggling so much. She had problems with other boys, some of them told her stupid things which made me mad and so irritating that the same day she told me that i was in rage and I wouldn't really mind to kill these kind of motherfuckers if I would have the chance to. I can't really tell you guys what happened but you can imagine it by yourselves. It's not just "simple words" it's more than that. I've been struggling along with my "depressions" without letting her know that I was bad since she would think that it's her fault. Some days she was like "I know that you are angry because of what happened to me". I started to tell her that it wasn't that and so on... We're so far. Even now, I was in Canada and she is in Russia, now I am in Spain but i'm just in holidays. My life is kinda shit, sometimes I imagine that someone is talking to her and she can't deffend herself. She usually says that it isn't her fault but whatsoever, I feel mad anyways because pretend like someone is just trying to "talk" to your girlfriend/wife. Wouldn't you just take his fucking head and kick his ass? Some of you are going to be like "oooh, thats normal" but the worse shit is that she's not strong. She's allways crying because we're far away. We did met up in june though, a fantastic week, priceless, i can't even describe it. But as for now, the same bullshit continues and i'm still struggling, thinking and just imagining what is she doing or who is going to talk to her. I don't know what to do, we're just arguing the whole days and I feel bad with myself and my life. Sometimes i don't even want to talk to nobody and I feel alone. I don't know what am I supposed to do, we do have plans though. I want to move to Russia this december so I can live with her but its still summer... I love her... I don't know why am I even posting this here but I have no friends to tell this since i'm not in Canada or Russia. My bro is in army so i can't even talk to him. Barely I can talk to him through phone but that's it. Sometimes I just wanna quit with all and just disappear .. I'm not kidding at all, sometimes I just want to go somewhere where nobody would know me just to be able to forget all and start a new life without nobody.. I feel lonely...One day we did end up "cutting"... I called her whore, bitch and so on.. Sometimes I think about that and I did a huge mistake, I shouldn't even think about that but whenever you feel bad you don't think about what you're supposed to say. But the next day we did miss eachother and we did "forget" that shit and continued with this. I don't know. I'm confused.

 

I don't really know what to suggest here. You are both still quite young and to make such a bold move (to move to Russia, pardon the pun) could backfire horribly. If things don't work out, your screwed in a country where you don't know anyone?

A bit more background information would be nice. I am guessing from your original post that you are not native to Canada? How do the two of you communicate? What will you be doing when your in Russia for work?

Things like this have to be thought out properly. I know moving to be with a girl seems like a great idea but you need a contingency plan. Maybe spend a month with her on holiday, see how that goes. After, spend a few months getting your head around it and to make sure you want it to be a permanent move.

As I said, right now it seems like the best idea, but you REALLY have to think these kind of things through.

What are your parents views on it? Are they supporting your move?

Hope you can fill us in with a bit more info!

PS: Try to write in paragraphs

 

What Dangelo said. Would need a little more background information on the whole thing.

If you haven't met her in person yet, how do you know you will still like her? Talking to someone over a long distance and actually talking to them in person is a whole new world itself. I would recommend meeting her first and getting to know her before you just try to move closer.

 

End it. This is not healthy at all.

Work on your self-esteem issues and try to find something positive that you are passionate about doing.

 

1-I am russian bro, and I know the language. Actually i've borned in Russia and I have no problems moving there since my parents will be there aswell.

We do communicate through whatsapp and we're kinda screwed up coz almost every week we just argue.

I've been with here for a week and it was in little words awesome.

I've been thinking on it deeply and I do like the idea, basically because I don't know how but every single fucking minute I do miss her alot and if a day goes on and goes on I can't just "don't remember her or just don't miss her" it's hard to understand but these are my feelings which i cannot solve.

I did met her in person lol.. xd

I can't do that because this bitch is inside me and I cannot do anything about that... I've tried to but it's impossible.

 

My best advice to you, would be to take it all slow. Tell her your problems and work on trying to come to a conclusion together that does not require either of you to move until you are a little bit older. If you can make things work well with long distance and etc for at least 1 more year, then you can start thinking about moving somewhere where you can be together constantly. I know this might not be considered that good of advice. Everyone makes mistakes, you WILL have fights and there might be entire days or weeks your to mad at each other to even talk. I've called my wife many names and shes done the same to me. We don't let that kind of thing bother us forever, we're usually over it the same day if not just an hour or so later.

You need to tell her exactly how you feel. Ask her to do the same for you. Don't hide ANYTHING. let it all out. The best you can is the best you can do. Remember that and never let it get you down. I agree with a few other people who say moving to russia is probably not the best choice for you right now.

If on the other hand, your faimly is moving to russia and thats why your saying youre going there in december, then just try to do the other things I said and not wait the full year or more.

 

I'm gonna say Dangelo is on the money on this one. Pockets party as well. You can't just have no plan and move to Russia thinking shit will work out. I mean, what are you going to do there? What if you go and things don't work out? At least it seems you have family there, so you wouldn't be 100% alone.

And what I agree with Pockets is that, you do need to work first on yourself. Seems like you have lots of issues going on in your mind, and that is unhealthy. You can't think that by being with her shit will straighten out, even if they do, you can't depend on someone else like that.

I would say try and maybe go for like a month as Dangelo said, if you see things are working out nicely, well why not give it a shot.

 

Thanks for the advice. But I am kinda bad because I am not with her. A year more is just worser than acid and my feelings would die probably slowly because she would say me that someone came up to her and told her to go date and that makes me mad. I don't know but I am the kind of person whose stuff is just mine and I don't like guys to talk to her even.

Some of you might be like "ooooo, this old style retard or w/e" but she's ok with it and even says that she doesn't wants to be friends with any man even girls. Just me, and I do believe her.

It pisses me off that because of the fact that I am not with her other people are just talking to her , disrespecting her and I can't even move a single finger. I'm sorry what I am about to say but that "advice" is kinda bad because I couldn't wait more. I want to live with her, I want her and I don't want to wait anymore. I've been waiting almost a year and I think that's more than enough. If you would know what kind of things happened to her while she was younger you would believe why I am so protective and want to fight the god damned faggots who just told her or did her something.

Regardless of your point of view I just want to state that I want to live with her. I am young but I can work in w/e place and I want to be with her, together because I fucking love her with my entirely soul. You have no idea what kind of feelings I have whenever she cries through phone telling that she misses me and wants a simple hug to relax.. There's nobody who can help her coz she needs me and I feel so damn bad when things like that happens. You might not understand me but I did my best to show you my thoughts about that.. I told myself to do something when I would have the chances to do so which I am going to do no matter what will happen. Thank you for your answer.

Please, read the messages before commenting something because I think you're not even close to what's happening irl...

 

Long distance is very hard, if it's taking a massive toll on you perhaps take a re-evaluation of the situation.

 

Then give me an advice and if it sounds good i'll take it.

 

My advice is you're not going to find life changing advice on an RS Market website. Think logically, is it worth the strain it's putting on you? If not, move on.

 

Sorry, Matresa offered you advice and you say this? He was only backing up what me and Pockets said but in a more blunt way.

 

Youre completely right about that. But i've only posted this to find if some1 had any similar experiences and i'll take ur advice and request a mod to close this thread since I am the one who will risk and not all of the people who post here. Thank you.

Sorry if I did disrespect him but it wasn't my intention at all. Thanks for all your advices and sorry if I sounded rude in any comment. Thanks again to all.