Pretty big topic need older users to answer some questions

Ok here is my problem..... I have been dating a girl off and on now for 2 years we are 2 years apart in age i am 17 she is 15 when i turn 18 she will b 16 by then. Her dad isnt very fond of me because we do tend to fight a bit but nothing ever goes past a strong argument then the makeup. My main concern here is will this be legal since we have been dating before i turned 18 or is this illegal until i get a parental consent form? And how would i get one of these and would i have to carry it on me if we went out to eat or something along those lines? Also we have both been working for most of are childhoods and are planning on getting a apartment together soon money is not really a problem because my parents have agreed to pay for most of my bills while i go through school and i will maintain my job still. I just want to know if it would b illegal for us to still engage in intercourse and live together. And will this consent form cover all of this so we can keep dating like we have or will there now b restrictions on what we can and cant do?

I am also from Oklahoma if that makes a difference or not and i live in the U.S.

 

From Oklahoma law:

A. Rape is an act of sexual intercourse involving vaginal or anal
penetration accomplished with a male or female who is not the spouse
of the perpetrator and who may be of the same or the opposite sex as
the perpetrator under any of the following circumstances:

1. Where the victim is under sixteen (16) years of age;

Everything else is basically irrelevant to the discussion because you are not her teacher and (I hope to dear god) she is not mentally retarded.

Just get her to give you blowjobs until she is 16 then you can do whatever she is ok with.

Oh and at your age I don't recommend moving in with a girlfriend as they come and go at that age and being financially tied up with someone who changes their mind more then they change their clothes is a worse idea than robbing a bank.

 

That, also do not move in with a girl, they're such a fucking pain.

Unless you really do like her

 

I wouldnt have even though of us moving in together but are parents are home 65 days of the year tops. So we practically do live together at the moment. We were both just worried about the future because she didn't want me to get into any trouble but she didn't wanna give up what we have unless she knew i would get into trouble over it. Just i really do appreciate the opinions but i'm thinking about talking to someone in law about this to get a legal standpoint just to double check so i don't get into trouble. But thx a bunch guys i really hope y'all are right

 

I was the same age difference as you are with my girlfriend when we started dating, I just waited until she was 16 just in case. You don't need to tell her parents, it's your business. As long as she's mature and it's consensual, aka she'll vouch for you in court if her dad tries to charge you, then there's no harm done.

America's generally more lenient than the UK with sueing etc so I might be wrong.

 

Like stated before it is all based on state laws so as long as the age of consent is 16 where you are then just hold off until she is 16 and then you can do whatever you two decide.

 

I'm sorry if this offends you, I really dont mean to but I couldn't help but lol at this. I'll give you some guidelines. You dont need a consent form anywhere, unless your having sex in public, in which case if your caught your going to be in shit either way. You will need her parents permission before she moves in with you, but this also doesnt require a form. The only thing is if she moves in with you and they dont say its ok, you could possibly be charged with kidnapping or harboring a runaway.

 

dw i didn't take offense i was expecting some laughs just i was confused and no one would give me a straight answer and my parents aren't ever around so figured id get some opinions

 

As long as you're both okay with the decision you make, it should be alright. If it's not long until she's 16 then just wait it out, it's not much of a big deal

 

shes 16 on april 15th and im 18 on april 30th so its not a big deal atm

 

well if you think it is going to go to marrage, when legality comes in, call your relation ship a very intense friendship, or if you dont see or want marrage, i would just try to dump her but still be friends.

 

A few people in my town were dating a couple 8th graders and they were seniors (wtf right?). But yeah, nobody really said anything because they kind of kept to themselves, and were mature about it. You don't have to go around telling people what you do in your bedroom do you? Just be mature about it, and if you're worried her dad's going to file charges against you or if something like that may happen, don't risk it. I was watching a program on MTV called "True Life" and that specific episode was about a couple people who had sex with 14-16 year olds when they were 18-20, and now they're registered sex offenders because the girls' parents found out and filed charges. They couldn't get jobs, couldn't be near schools, one of them had to move because the place he lived violated a conditon. They couldn't be around kids, no matter where it was, even at Christmas, they couldn't go to the Christmas parties at their extended family. So if you think her dad's going to be a dickhead and get all pissed off if you guys break up or get into a fight, don't risk it.

 

Girls are a pain in the ass all together, but yeah, If they're under 16 then its classed as as rape. Also i think you have to be 16 to get engaged. Not 100% sure. Having parental consent is always good. How would you afford a marrage, Serious pal your too young to think about things like that imo. Think your jumping into the dream with a 'perfect girl' too fast, you'll soon realize what life is about. When you young so much can happen dude. Just a heads up. I used to be the same.

 

im not thinking about marriage at all atm. I have to much on my mind to b engaged etc. But thx for the opinion

 

Yeah, there are serious legal issues at hand here with Adults msitreating minors, ect. Sadly in Australia, if you take a picture of yourself nude before you turn 18 you can be charged with
1) Creating Child Pornogropahy
2) Distributing Child Pornography if you send it to anybody
3) You will also be put on the registered sex offenders list for life, because you send a nude picture to someone as a 17 year old.

It's a really stupid system but it has protected a lot of people so as said before, you're going to have to wait until she 18 if you want to keep it legal.

 

Interesting thing here: A guy that I know went with his girlfriend to California. She was 16 and he was 19. Well the parents report them missing and this huge search ensues and they are found in LA living in a homeless shelter with drastically altered appearances. He is arrested and even though she consented to it she was under 18 and he was charged with kidnapping, taking a minor across state lines while in commission of a kidnapping, contributing to the delinquency. So just be careful about taking her places, moving in with her, or anything like that without her parents express permission. Even if she agrees and you have her permission it is mostly irrelevant as long as she is not at the age of majority.

 

Advice is appreciated. I went ahead and talked to a lawyer. His words were pretty much dont fuck around with her if there is no parent consent. So i went ahead and got a written document with 2 witnesses pretty much saying we can be together but sexual intercourse may not be exchanged when i am 18 but atm it is fine and overlooked. The form also stated that we can be engaged..... And to the people above saying how would you afford it. My parents are pretty wealthy. My father owns 3 oil field work yards pretty much and my mom is a RN not making much but it is her passion.. Thanks alot for all the concern and input it was all appreciated. But i have found the answers i was looking for and there is no need for this thread now.

 

Do not move in with her! You are too young to be moving in with a girl whether you can afford it or not.

Also, in some places even if you are NOT married, if the relationship lasts after 6 months and you break up, she is entitled to 50% of your assets, aka your appartment/house. Don't know if it's the same in the US.

Trust what most of us are saying, this girl could be just using you. First loves are always very BLIND. You think that person is THE ONE for you. Don't be a fool. You clearly thought a lot about this, but not enough...

 

Okay sounds like its all planned. Now just don't give into temptation and play the waiting game with her if you think its worth it. Make sure you find a job and don't rely on your parents wealth. Good luck to the both of you.