Should I tell this girl I like her, after 1.5 years.

Okay I love this girl for around 1.5 years, and she seemed the most interested in me at first, offering for me to come to her country & stuff... which I thought was a bit funny since we had only talked a few times and at that time I thought she was a guy. Until we actually met on the cam, and I realized it was the most beautiful women I had ever seen. I hadn't looked through her pictures, & her main profile pic was that of a famous beautiful women, and I've found that guys do that so I guess I just assumed it.

Well I said things like, "I miss you"... & I think what we have done could be considered flirting. We've talked around 5-7 times on camera (never since the problem i'm about to explain, because she doesn't have a cam yet, but soon), and we talk almost every day on chat.

But I received a huge problem (and gift, in a way... since I would have chose this fate if I had known the power it would bring me to bring down some evil esoteric groups in the near future, when I have the money) which is fairly complex, but basically I have some major brain damage which was forced onto me.

Anyways it completely changed me, I know my creativity & musical talent will never reach anywhere near the same potential.

Since that experience, though we have got into some deep conversation & she always says things which makes me think she likes me. I think she's waiting to meet me in real life to make a decision, and maybe she's not even sure if it will work out because of the brain damage (there's always hope for next life though ).

Well I never actually told her I like her, she might think I do... I really don't know because our conversations are complex sometimes. She says she thinks about me every day, & has said I am beautiful, & that she loves me, and that every time she logs on Facebook she only wants to talk to me, & nobody else.

Thing is, I told her that I don't hope for anything more than being friends... since maybe I'm not interesting enough after the problem. Then I said something about if I never mean to lie to her, if I do it it's an accident... or something & she might have caught on, that I still have hope for the next life. She knows how dedicated I can be though, & she might just think I never want to be with her. Also, I'm scared to have a child, after what happened... although I never told her that.

I actually thought I was a pretty interesting person & that I could get many beautiful women if I wanted... before getting brain damaged. Now, I really don't know if women still would find me attractive since I'm not as interesting & after the brain damage I even look different & sound quite different.

Well the last message she sent me was basically, this... except a bit different since English is not her mother language and I don't want her finding this site somehow.

"i don't want to change you"

"I want you to have a beautiful life"

"I want to make your dreams come true"

So now basically onto my actual QUESTION, which is that... should I somehow tell this girl I like her or infer it. Because I don't want to be an ass, cause if she really isn't sure I like her she might go with another guy. But, at the same time... I love the mystery, not knowing that she likes me... I don't think telling her will change that. But I don't know if it works the other way around.

Am I being an ass by not telling her? Should I just go for it, and hope for the best... but that could make things awkward in real life if she doesn't like me too.

 

Well I dont mean to put you down friend, but online stuff never works out.


Wait, thats not true.... My friend I talk to online lived in Mexico all his life, met this girl in CANADA and moved to there earlier this year to go to college and be with her.

However, it is very rare that those types of things work out. At first it might seem great and all, but after awhile an online relationship gets physically lonely, and it is of course sex-less. I think the only reason my buddy stayed with it until he was over 20 years old and moved to be with her is because he was a virgin and didnt have sexual urges towards other people. If you are a virgin and serious about making goals and moving to this girls country, it may work out.


And to answer your question. Yes. just let her know, type it out xactly as you feel and if you get rejected, big deal oh well youll find love somewhere else. Never fear speaking your heart or mind, as you may very well regret it later.

 

You say she doesn't have a cam? But you guys have cam'd several times.. meaning it's only you showing the cam?
I'm not sure how it's done, but once a GUY added me pretending to be a girl and played a video of a girl on cam. So yeah, don't get your hopes up thinking it's a girl considering you guys have only cam'd 5-7 times in 18months..

But for the sake of argument let's say I'm wrong and it's actually a girl.
I don't mean to be too vague but.. you guys have never met IRL so I'd hold that thought about telling her you like her. What if you guys one day actually met up and she's a completely and totally different person? And vice versa, she might not like you after seeing you in person due to different expectations, second thoughts etc.

Online, anyone can be anybody. For all we know I could be a 10 y.o. kid giving you advice.
But nevertheless, you shouldn't get too serious about a girl over online chatting. Should meet up and actually get to know her IRL, that'll help you make a decision on whether you want to be with this girl or not.

 

If it's real and you know it is, go for it. There's nothing that should stop you in a situation like this. If you're unsure of any part of it, go for it anyway. The worst that could happen is that she doesn't like you back, in which case, why would you want to be with someone who doesn't feel the same for you? The mutual relation has to be there, and if it isn't, it shouldn't bother you. As for worrying about losing a good friend (which is usually the issue in these situations), go for it anyway. You probably wouldn't be friends in 10-20 years, and you will have other friends; one of which will be "the one." Nonetheless, go for it if you feel it's real.

I liked my best friend for three years and nothing ever came from it for the longest time. We texted 24/7 for those three years, we had every class together for those three years, we rode the same bus, we hung out every day; you get the point. He never spoke up. Eventually, after about 2 1/2 years, I called him a douche for never growing up and asking me out. That's when he asked me out for the first time. Things are weird that way.

 

To put it simply... Why live thinking "what if"? go for it! Life's too short man.

 

Personally, I'd say don't bother with it. It's over the internet and she's in a different country. But really it's all up to you.

How old are you are by the way?
Over or under 18?

 

I would just tell her the way you feel trust me girls love it when you are actually open with them. Even though there is a situation with your brain if she actually cares about you then it won't be an issue. I would just tell her how you feel and see where it goes from there, you only have one life.

 

Firstly. . You talking about loving her and then liking her, Whats it going to be? They are two very, different things. Its incredibly difficult to suggest a course of action seeing as this is 1.5 Years over the internet? And she is overseas? She asked you to come to her country? You really want to leave it all behind for some girl you sweet talk on the internet? By the sounds of it, you haven't even seen her on cam so there's no direct evidence of her existence, for one and a half years? What?

I call trolls on this one, Maybe I'm missing something but this is really fishy. . .

Look, Perhaps girls do weird things but this is over the internet. . A beautiful girl is doing an international relationship with a guy shes never met? I hope for your sake buddy that its not some 14 year old kid pulling your leg.

All the best, Sad to hear about your brain injury but, I guess all I can say is stay close to God and things will work out!
All the best!