How do you tell some one you love them?

How do I tell my dad I love him with out actually saying I love you, we are both very manly and we would never say it. My Dad and I work together, Live together do pretty much everything together but sometimes I can be hard to live with and at work I am very aggressive (can't help this, its part of the job).

We are not into buying each other stuff either...

 

Sometimes it is best just to be straight out with it, you'll often find they are in a similar predicament as you are in this situation. I think you and your father really need to take down your "manly" emotional walls, be more free with your emotions. People like to know where they stand.

 

Kiss him!

I don't know, just spend more time with your dad after work? You guys can go out out for a drink together or something like that. Spending time with someone usually let's them know you care.

 

I have the same problem, there really is no way to express without getting all awkward haha sometimes I just act real random give him a hug or just spend time with him and crack jokes and stuff. A father and son bond isn't expressed through words really its just how you act around each other that you can tell how they feel about you. and that sounded so cliche but you know what I'm trying to say haha

 

It takes a bigger man to show your feelings. Just say it. If he doesn't say it back it doesn't mean he doesn't love you.

I'm 26 and say it every now and then to my old man, he rarely says it back, but I know he feels the same.

Or you can just thank him for being there and that you appreciate him.

 

I would say keeping a bond with your dad is something that should be kept between father and son. How masculine you are shouldn't really keep you from telling him you love him, even though love is one of those touch topics.

 

Is there really a need to say it? I am the same with my dad/brother, we don't say I love you or anything, but the "I love you" is implied. They already know you love them.

And if you are hard to live with, why not try becoming easier to live with? Force yourself to have a much more optimistic attitude.

 

Me and my dad are the same way. I'm determined not to be like that with my kids, though. I'll say it every now and then to them.

 

I think it's already been mentioned, but going out and offering to pay for things such as a few beers and a meal, can't remember the last time I said 'dad, I love you' it's more of an actions speak louder than words concept, to me anyway.

 

just say it. my dad and i were like this for years and my dad has never heard it from his dad, i just said it to him one day when we were drinking some beers and he said it back, the end. sure it was kinda weird but we talked about it sometime later and he said it lifted a weight off his shoulders because he had some sense of guilt.. he simply wasnt raised that way. he said it to me when i was a kid but thats a bit different, lacking the whole man to man factor. we dont say it often and it really made for a cheesy moment (thats why we ended up talking about it later). more often than not these things go without words and we havent really said it sense.

 

Say it in sign language lol

 

I myself am "very manly" but I tell my daughter I love her every time I'm aloud to see her (dont ask, my baby mammas a real cunt). So, simple. Manliness has nothing to do with speaking your feelings when its something as personal as love, especially between a child and father. Just simply say to him "dad, I love you". I personally have only met my dad once since I was 3, I say "met" cuz I cudnt evn remember what he looked like. And I fear the same will happen with me, but to my daughter, the differance would be if i had the choice I'd have my little girl 24/7 and my dad wants nothing to do with me, only came to see me back when I was 14 cuz he was trying to get out of child support.

So the situation might be different for me, as I want my child to know I love her even tho her mother constantly tells her I want nothing to do with her and tries to keep me away from her. As you and your father obviously spend plenty of time together its not out of desperation for wanting your father to know what sum1 else is telling him is a lie like it is for me.

So as I can't understand as I want nothing more than for my child to know I love them, your father probably knows 100% that he loves you and you love him too. So telling him might be completely un-needed. As from what I can tell you may very well have a emotional connection that does not need words. However, if you have a personal "longing" to let him know you love him. Just simply say it as I said above.

Speaking out about your feelings makes you no less manly. You could cry, explain your love in the deepest of ways, write poetry and still be "manly". Manliness is about how you hold yourself. The way you define yourself. And what I find most important, kicking sum1s teeth in if they try to walk all over you. Manly men can also be soft hearted and loving men. Just cuz ur soft hearted and loving doesnt mean you wear a skirt and tuck ur dick between ur legs, or that your a pussy. It simply means that you comfortable with expressing your emotions. Holding things inside, in my opinion makes you less manly than letting people know how you really feel and think, as alot of times it takes sum HUGE balls to let people know how you really feel.

Edit: Thumbs up to me for having the best advice on this thread?

 

Just make him feel like you appreciate him for how he is/does for you if you aren't ready to flat out say it for now, say things like "Thanks for being such a good Dad" and stuff along that line and I'm sure soon you'll be ready to just be able to say "I love you".

 

You're lucky to have father who cares about you. My father didn't even say hello to me when he had been working outside the country for almost 8 months.

 

I tell my dd I love him all the time.. But just say stuff like "thanks dad I really appreciate it" or something similar. It'll show him that you care about him.

 

The best way, is the simplest way. Not everything has to be complicated and complex in life, and a lot of the time its not the best way either.

If you love somebody, be upfront, blunt, and passionate, don't beat around the bush or complicate things, just do it sir.

 

Express using your feelings from the inside