How Should I Introduce Myself?

[xSe7enxSinsx]

Hi guys, I made a thread about a week or two ago regarding this girl that I like. For those who haven't seen that thread I will quote it below. Anyways, I had a new question. I was wondering when and how I could possibly confront her, so that I can introduce myself to her. Also, what should I be doing, so that I can stay out of the friend zone and show her that I would like to be more than just friends. I would appreciate any and all advice and help you could give me. Once again, I would, also, appreciate it if no one judged me or trolled for any reason, whatsoever. Thank you.



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Well, here I go. School started up again, about a week ago, and I've noticed this girl around the campus (high school). I don't believe in that "love at first sight" crap, but just something about her makes her stand out from those other girls. I haven't talked to her before, but I'm already falling for her. I would like to find out more about her, because I'm not the kind of person who would only date people for their looks; what's in the inside is what counts, in my opinion. I've never been in a relationship before and I'm 15 years old. Many of you may say that "love" doesn't, truly, exist at such a young age, but everyone has emotions. I can't stand this anymore, for some reason I'm becoming extremely depressed. Maybe because I have no one to talk to, about these kind of things or maybe because I'm never going to be able to be in any, good, relationship. Regardless, I want to build a strong friendship with her, that can hopefully lead to an actual relationship. The problem is that I'm not sure how I can introduce myself to her and how I can try to lead up to a strong relationship, in the future. I believe that if someone dates someone for their looks, the relationship won't last very long, but if someone is dating someone because they make them laugh, happy, have a great personality, and are great company, the relationship can and will last a very long time. I would appreciate any help or advice you guys can give me. I would also appreciate it if you didn't judge me for any reason, whether it's because I'm too pathetic to be able to have the guts to talk to her or for any other reason. Thank you for understanding my situation.

 

If you're too shy to introduce yourself to her you can always do the old "accidental" bump into them trick. Once you bump into them just say oh sorry and they say something like oh you're in my math class right? Or something on the lines of that, even if they say no just say oh I thought I recognised you I'm such and such nice to meet you.

 

[RussianVillain]

Offer her help.
If she's lost, show her where to go. Be nice, when others are not.
If you have gym together, try to pick the same classes she takes.
Give her a comment or two in the hallway, GYM, or class periods.
Try to get her as a partner for projects.

Mainly just be yourself. Get close to her friends, who will in turn, get you closer to her. Try to offer her the satisfaction of being loved without looking like an obssessed boy like others. Don't make it look like you want something from her, make it seem as though she is what makes you happy, just seeing her or working with her. Give her thanks for questions she answers and projects you work on.
Comment on her Facebook picture, be nice, not "dayum you sexy."
Real girls hate that. Saying "your beautiful" has more meaning then "sexy."
Ask me anything
PM or post.

Good Luck.

Russian

 

[xSe7enxSinsx]

Sadly, she isn't in any of my classes, and I don't see her much. But when I do, she's usually with her friends. Should I approach her, alone, or while she is with her friends and if so, how should I approach them/her.

 

[<3☻]

Sadly, she isn't in any of my classes, and I don't see her much. But when I do, she's usually with her friends. Should I approach her, alone, or while she is with her friends and if so, how should I approach them/her.

Don't approach her with her friends,
That's going to make the situation all tense and somewhat awkward,
Try to talk to her somewhat in school, try what shoopadoop suggested,
And once you strike up a conversation be friendly and funny, if you can, and once you see shes comfortable talking to you, ask for her phone #, FB, skype etc.
And if she gives it to you, shes obv interested, and then from then on its a caking game, try to text her and talk to her as often as u can, but don't come off as needy and desperate.

 

[xSe7enxSinsx]

I don't have the greatest social skills, especially when it comes to talking to people I'm attracted to, like her. You guys have any examples on how I could start a conversation and what to talk about, or any other info I would need to know.

 

[RussianVillain]

Sadly, she isn't in any of my classes, and I don't see her much. But when I do, she's usually with her friends. Should I approach her, alone, or while she is with her friends and if so, how should I approach them/her.

Don't approach her with her friends,
That's going to make the situation all tense and somewhat awkward,
Try to talk to her somewhat in school, try what shoopadoop suggested,
And once you strike up a conversation be friendly and funny, if you can, and once you see shes comfortable talking to you, ask for her phone #, FB, skype etc.
And if she gives it to you, shes obv interested, and then from then on its a caking game, try to text her and talk to her as often as u can, but don't come off as needy and desperate.

Exactly!

Your main goal is to not seem needy and desperate!
Approach her alone, say something nice, not too sweet though otherwise it would be awkward for a first time.
Approach her friends if they're in your classes etc...
Try to get a lot of her friends to like you, because if friends approve, then she'll approve.
Try to figure out what she likes, maybe ask HER for directions (pretend to be lost) let her walk you to class or tell you and you say thanks nicely and just go on from there.

Russian

 

[<3☻]

I don't have the greatest social skills, especially when it comes to talking to people I'm attracted to, like her. You guys have any examples on how I could start a conversation and what to talk about, or any other info I would need to know.

Well if she isn't in any of your classes and you hardly see her how do you expect to talk to her?
How do you see here?

 

[xSe7enxSinsx]

I mostly see her before school starts and that may be one of the only times I can talk to her, unless I stumble upon her during a passing period or lunch.

 

[<3☻]

I mostly see her before school starts and that may be one of the only times I can talk to her, unless I stumble upon her during a passing period or lunch.

Hmm, well before school, when you're with your friends and she's with hers, and when your passing by her, build up the courage to say Hi to here and shoot her a smile to let her know you think she's attractive,
Other than that I really don't know what you could do, considering you rarely see her at school, or you can just add her FB and talk to her from there and see if shes interested or not and try to meet up in school and talk.

 

[xSe7enxSinsx]

You don't think she would think that it's a bit odd that I'm saying hi to her (randomly), and she's never met me before?

 

[<3☻]

You don't think she would think that it's a bit odd that I'm saying hi to her (randomly), and she's never met me before?

Well you need to start somewhere,
And if you're not going to talk to her in school,
Might as well attempt over the internet,
It's worth a try, or you can just go talk to her in school.

 

[blindkilla]

Write your number on a little ripped piece of paper that says call or text me with a smiley face. Fold it. Give it to her while walking by.

 

[<3☻]

Write your number on a little ripped piece of paper that says call or text me with a smiley face. Fold it. Give it to her while walking by.

Lol, no don't do that, you're going to come off as a little kid,
Unless she's into that..

 

[xSe7enxSinsx]

Well you need to start somewhere,
And if you're not going to talk to her in school,
Might as well attempt over the internet,
It's worth a try, or you can just go talk to her in school.

I'm trying to think of how to approach her at school, and even if I wanted to talk to her through fb or something, I don't even know her name. Sad, I know.

Write your number on a little ripped piece of paper that says call or text me with a smiley face. Fold it. Give it to her while walking by.

Are you serious about this, because to be honest, I've never heard of many people doing this.

 

[blindkilla]

Lol, no don't do that, you're going to come off as a little kid,
Unless she's into that..

There is absolutely nothing wrong with doing that. I don't see how you think it makes you come off as a kid.

 

[RussianVillain]

I'm trying to think of how to approach her at school, and even if I wanted to talk to her through fb or something, I don't even know her name. Sad, I know.



Are you serious about this, because to be honest, I've never heard of many people doing this.

You like this girl, c'mon man.
You gotta first and foremost figure out her name!
Then you have to say something to her in person.
Like if you've been in any other classes together before and so on.
Find something with a common interest, like a band or something.

After that add her on Facebook, or if your conversations go really well, she will add you herself.

You can't rush things, that is most important.

Russian

 

[<3☻]

I'm trying to think of how to approach her at school, and even if I wanted to talk to her through fb or something, I don't even know her name. Sad, I know.



Are you serious about this, because to be honest, I've never heard of many people doing this.

Lol don't do what Blind said, you'll seem like a 7th grader, just try talking to her and find out her name so you can either get her FB or her #
If you get her number and you both have texting, she'll be your future GF

 

I wouldn't do the paper thing if you want her to think you're cool.

Honestly though try the bumping into her trick, just stick your head phones in bump into her then be all "oh sorry are you ok?" with her and as you're both walking to school you'll pretty much have to talk.

Do you know anything about her? Or are you just going for her because of her looks?

 

[xSe7enxSinsx]

Not just for looks, but she seems like one of those shyer girls, and I like that, and usually those shy girls aren't as mean as those other bitches. The reason why I think she's a shy girl is because I don't usually see her hanging out in those so-called "big and popular" groups. But who knows, I may be wrong. Only one way to find out, huh...