How do I tell my girlfriend?

Well first off.. This is not a troll, spam my thread and you will be infracted.

On Tuesday after I signed my contracts I will be employed by an entertainment company, I cannot give out the name, sorry.

How do I tell my girlfriend that I will be doing porn without her breaking up with me? I really like her and don't want to lose her. But I am almost certain that she will break up with me.


If any girls or guys on this forum with similar experience... How should I talk to her? Or show I keep it to myself? And if I keep it to myself, how would I explain where the money is coming from?

 

tell her you work online,on a private job,and you shouldnt tell her.

 

Sorry dude, theres probably a 99% chance she'll break up with you.

Sugarcoating you decided to do porn as your career won't work. Unless you want to keep it from her, and lie to her.

 

Good chance any girl will break up with you for having sex with other women.


you can lie to her, however.

Enjoy living a relationship based on a lie though. That always works out!

 

Just straight up tell her and if, in case, she loves you, she will understand. I personally have no experience in this field, but I have always been honest with Haley and hell we are still together so I believe honest works, and love is just as strong as honesty.

 

I know.... This sucks so bad... I have no idea what I'm going to do if she breaks up with me. She's my first girl. Hopefully she can see past it...


Anything I should do before I tell her? Because I have a feeling if I lie about it she'll find out somehow..

 

Coming from a girl's point of view, yes, there is a good chance she will break up with you.. I'd probably do so if my boyfriend did that. But like one dude said, just be honest with her and maybe she'll accept what you're doing. Although it would've been a more wise decision to tell her before you auditioned, so to speak.

 

If she loves him, she will just be even more hurt.

It's not fun finding out that your lover has slept with someone else, hardly anyone in this entire world is okay with that.

 

Chances are I will see you

and about telling her, just tell her its work and there is nothing you feel about the other people you work with, it's strictly business.

 

I have to agree with this.

Your best bet is to tell her straight up. Don't try to beat around the bush because it'll come back and bite you in the ass in the end.

Telling her = A slight chance that she'll understand that it's business and will stay with you. I mean a very slight chance, though. I don't know many women that would be perfectly comfortable running the risk of catching a STD or for that matter, not feel awkward knowing that you have casual sex with other strangers.

Not telling her = She'll find out eventually, I promise that. When she does, it's 100% guarantee that she'll break up with you.

 

She shouldn't get mad. Just tell her that she's still the only girl and you're only fucking guys. You're doing gay porn as indicated in the other thread right?

 

Pornstars don't carry STDs. I think they have to get tested frequently before shoots etc. to make sure of that.

 

I suggest you be straight with her. If she wants to continue the relationship despite the fact that you have sex with other woman, then go ahead. If she wants to end it, just let her go.
You should also make it clear that it is strictly business. You're doing it for the cash, not because you like having sex with others. Some girls are open minded but some aren't.

 

Why would you tell her? >_> If you want to stay with her don't tell her. It's not like you're doing porn forever. It'll blow past.

 

Justin, basing a relationship on a lie is a terrible thing and can only end in disaster.

 

Who are you to say that?

OT:
You really can't have a relationship with someone when you're having sex with random chicks

 

There are pornstars who have a healthy relationship with their partner while doing porn. I know of some.

 

Porn is a profession
it's not for personal pleasure
it's like acting, but with sex
you jus gotta tell her str8 up

 

Ours is.

I say don't tell her, you aren't doing this for a long time and there's no reason to hurt her unless you actually have feelings for your porn-mate(s)