Sex with my brother?

Hey everyone

I'm a little 'lost' with this in my head so I'll try and keep it simple. I'm 16 years old and female. Me and my brother are twins, we don't have a dad as he died whilst serving in the US military before we could remember him very well. So it's just me, my brother and mom.

A week ago I started going out with this guy at my school. The guy was 18. Things went okay for a few days but later found out he was just going out with me to get back at his ex-girlfriend. I confronted him when I found about about it, he didn't admit or deny it, but he basically dumped me along with a load of "you're just another slut" and "no one gives a shit about you". I went home feeling like shit for the rest of the day and spent most of the day in tears.

We had only been going out for a few days (yes it is silly) but I had felt SO SO happy in those few days.

I was sitting in my room crying when my brother came in. He asked me what was wrong and I told him about the guy at school and what he said about me. My brother put his arm around me and told me the guy was an asshole. I felt better after all this and then he offered to go shopping with me tomorrow to make me feel happier and forget about the guy.

So the next day we went shopping and he helped me pick out some new clothes. We had a great time and it had been a while since I had a good shopping buddy.

We got home and I put my stuff in my wardrobe. My brother came in and he asked if I was feeling any better. I said I still felt unhappy because of the argument I had had with my ex-boyfriend. I still felt depressed because I still felt like no one cared about me. I asked my brother why he hadn't gone looking for a girlfriend himself, he said he didn't because he finds it very hard to trust people with things.

I was sitting across the bed from him and asked if he trusted me? He said of course he did as we were brother and sister. This made me really happy, and for some crazy thought that came in my head, I just went over to him and... kissed him. I didn't know what I was thinking when I did it, but he didn't seem to react much to it. After we parted he didn't really seem bothered by it. I was really scared and confused with what I had just done so I quickly said sorry and asked if he was okay. He said he felt fine, at this point mom called us down for dinner and we had to go downstairs to eat.

My mind was a mess when I went to bed that night. I couldn't even sleep, I was just sat up in my bed and I felt suddenly really lonely. I debated going to see my brother to talk to him about earlier, but I was hesitant. Eventually I just decided to go see him. I sneaked into his room to find him wide awake. I drew into bed with him and said I felt lonely. He told me I didn't have to be and we had long cuddle together. We ended up having a kiss again, and then we made out. Things got a little hot and we ended up having sex... =//


This was all a few days back. I'm still very confused on what's going on. We have had sex a few more times when mom isn't around, but to me it feels 'right'. I mean we do LOVE each other, as brother and sister of course, but we do love each other very much, and I think we show that through sex.

Is this really right? We're twins and 16. If I told my friends in school about this they'd freak out instantly, but between me and my brother, it just feels perfect. Like we've found someone perfect for each other.

What should I do everyone? My head is a mess >_<

Lucy xx

 

Personally I think it's wrong I actually think it's quiet revolting but I will try to be as non harsh as possible. I would recommend going to get some sort of professional help because bottom line you shouldn't be sleeping with a family member it's not right. Or if this is a troll then congrats on the troll.

 

Honestly i'd seek professional help, maybe speak with some one who's actually qualified to give you good advice in that situation.

 

I have to ask, is he your blood brother, or by marriage?

 

She said they are twins.

 

^they are twins sooo im pretty sure he is her blood brother.

 

I feel like I've read this before because I knew how it ended. If you were genuine about this, then you need to seek therapy. Do not mention this to your mother, it will ruin the family.

 

I hope you used protection as well, with the combination of not only very closely related genetics, but twin genetics a child born from this would be almost guaranteed to have some pretty serious disabilities.

 

Ask for medical assistance. It's illegal in my country for instance and it's also just wrong to fuck your twin. imho.

 

Way to be open minded people, you might not agree with it but its far from "revolting" and I don't feel that she needs to "seek professional help." Honestly I suggest you re-read the forum rules before you continue to post here

"I will PERMANENTLY BAN OR FORUM BAN anyone from this forum if you post inconsiderately, stupidly, or mockingly."

OP, this is essentially the major problem that you're going to run into. Anything that you do that is against the societal norm is going to be met with responses like this. I don't personally see anything wrong with it but you need to consider that you're going to be met with a lot of difficulty if you choose you peruse that relationship. It just depends on whether that relationship is worth dealing with people like this for the rest of your life.

edit:

Wrong, this is a pretty common misconception. The chance of there being a genetic defect is grossly exaggerated. Either way, its definitely safer to wear protection anyway.

Why would she need to "ask for medical assistance?" Because you can't imagine being with your sister in that way? ugh



This isn't the best analogy but what if someone posted a thread saying that they were having these certain feelings and they were starting to wonder if they were gay. And then everyone posted "gross, consult a psychologist, being gay is morally wrong, you're going to get aids, in lots of places its illegal to be gay, don't tell anyone or it'll break your family blah blah blah." Even if you feel that way at the very least you need to try and be considerate, I'm kind of disturbed by the responses so far.

 

Wow I am honestly stunned that this thread is real. sounds like you're just real shook up and lonely after your douche ex, and your brother is either the same or has read one too many wincest stories on 4chan.

Prob just talk to your brother, tell him that this is shit isn't cool, and then never speak about it again. I don't think you need professional help, yeah it's pretty fucked what you're doing, but you're not really hurting anyone and if you just stopped doing it and forgot about it everything would end up fine.

 

It's that twin connection ya know.

In all seriousness, I'm often very accepting of these type of things... I know some people who'd be willing to do similar things, and people who have (White people, all of them.. dunno why that is). As with most FWB relationships, you gotta be careful... there are people who do this all the time, and there are tons of accepting communities out there. I don't think that I would ever do this, but if you guys are both comfortable with it then roll with it, be safe, and make sure it is what you both want.

The fact that I know a few people who would (supposedly) do this if given the situation makes me think I either know a lot of weird freaks, or I don't know... eh, not going to go further with this. I don't even believe this story is real.

 

We are very comfortable with it. I don't know if we'll just keep on doing this or if it is just temporary with me feeling unhappy. When we do it I'm more of thinking of how much I love him, rather than just the actual sex.

Thanks for the responses so far everyone

 

Please stop arguing everyone, I thought this place was for honest, personal support.

I suppose so... I don't think I need help at all though. I mean I feel happy, and he's happy. Isn't that all that really matters in a relationship?

But again, I don't think I need help. I feel fine, in fact, really happy...

And he's my blood brother as I stated in the OP. We're twins.

I don't know what you've read in the past but this is real and did happen a few days ago.

I don't feel I need help as I don't see any problem with my brother. He's sweet and he's always been there for me. We've never been this 'close' before but I feel like I love him more than ever (as brother and sister). And no, I won't mention it to mom, we don't really want to tell anyone (hence the anonymous posting).

:/ Well everyone's to their opinion... I don't view it as disgusting though, we are of the same age, and have known each other since we were born.

I'm on the pill. And no, we don't want kids together...

I don't see how its wrong. We LOVE each other. Isn't that what's important?

Thanks for that. I knew I'd get these kinds of responses, though I didn't think they'd ALL be like that. I'm glad I didn't include my username here.

Why does someone need to seek professional help if they're sleeping with a twin or such? I mean if there was a big age gap then yes, therapy. But we're both 16, and we trust each other more than anyone else on the planet.

Doing drugs is illegal, yet I see people going on about it all over this forum every day. How is that any different in terms of breaking the law?

And as I said before, we're not planning on having children, and we use protection. We don't want kids together.

Yeah, I guess I am still lonely after my asshole of an ex-boyfriend broke up with me.

I have spoken to him about 3 times now about it. He just seems indifferent about it. When it comes down to sex which happens like twice a day now, he's not like "ok let's have sex" he's more into 'love' than sex. If that makes sense. The way we see it is we love each other, and this is just a way of showing we love each other very much. I don't know if we could call it "going out".

We are very comfortable with it. I don't know any other people that do this in real life but either way I don't think I'd want to go tell other people. I don't even know if we'll keep doing it, or if will just be a temporary thing because of what happened with my ex.

Thanks for the responses so far everyone

 

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Incest


http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/animals-and-us/201210/the-problem-incest



"defect (Figure 1).
A group of genetic counselors reviewed the research on the biological consequences of sex between relatives (consanguineous relationships). They found a surprisingly small increase (about 4 percent) in birth defects among the children of married cousins. Incest between first degree relatives, however, was a different story. The researchers examined four studies (including the Czech research) on the effects of first degree incest on the health of the offspring. Forty percent of the children were born with either autosomal recessive disorders, congenital physical malformations, or severe intellectual deficits. And another 14 percent of them had mild mental disabilities. In short, the odds that a newborn child who is the product of brother-sister or father-daughter incest will suffer an early death, a severe birth defect or some mental deficiently approaches 50 percent."





not sure what you were trying to say?

 

Damn this thread is getting heated. I honestly think this is a troll, why would you ever think of doing something like that to your sister? You must have some sort of illness etc and if you get pregnant from your brother ... your going to be on the news etc.

I really think you should get someone to help you out if this is legit. lol

 

I also think and agree with the users above that suggest you visit someone professional about this issue and get a positive solution.

 

This is a pretty delicate and complicated subject to be honest.

As long as you're both of legal age, there is no age gap, there is no abuse going on and it is all consensual, AND you are using protection, then I suppose its okay. If something like that gets out though then both your reputation is pretty much ruined. I would try and see about maybe looking for someone other than your brother. To be honest as long as you're both happy and being safe, that is all that I think matters. Society would disagree though.

 

This. OP you are dancing a fine line, both legally and morally not to mention the complete and total rift this will cause in your family. If your parents find out you my find yourselves ostrasized for years on end or worse yet.. forever.

Idc what anyone says, this is NOT right. There are some SERIOUS risks involved here. You dont need a man or sexual companionship to be happy, if you are that reliant on other people i once again STRONGLY urge you to get help. You are so young, this is going to follow you the rest of your life so choose your next move wisely..

EDIT: I reallllllllllllllllly hope this is a troll.

 

This is wrong on a whole other level. If this is a troll then just.. wtf.

If not however please seek proffesional help and not something a forum can offer you.