Round 2

For those of you who have read this thread. http://www.sythe.org/personal-support/1595904-girl-problem.html this is the second part. So we have went on some dates since all of this happened. She claims she likes me a lot and I like her a lot obviously but we are sort of at a stand still because she is scared I'm going to hurt her like other guys have. Now because she has known me my whole life you think that there would be some comfort within that but apparently there is little to none. Now she wants me to wait until November to become official to give it some more time which I have no problem doing because in my eyes she is worth it. But here is what really bugged me and let me just say I don't get jealous easy and I wasn't so much jealous as I was like is she playing me hard? On her phone she had a picture of another guy as her background and I was kind of like well? You expect me to have a picture of us on mine but on yours you're allowed to have another picture of another guy? I don't know if I am over analyzing it because I tend to do that a lot of if I should just break the tie now. Opinions thoughts?

 

What's her relation to the guy on her background? It could be her brother or something.

 

There is no problem with you waiting, its just why she expects you to wait so long.. I'd be questioning this.

 

That'd suck if you guys are looking to get more serious. I'd just ask who it is and such, see what comes of it.

 

^This

It seems a little weird that she would have a picture of another guy on her phone, just approach her about it in a non confrontational way and see what she has to say.

 

Apparently it is her good friend that she has known for while it still bugs me though but not much I can do about it. Also @ ssarek I have known her family a long time and it's not her brother.

 

Did you tell her that it bothered you? I get jealous pretty easily so I definitely feel your pain :/

 

Just jokingly say something about it & see what she says

 

Well the thing is honestly I'm not jealous. It just sat with me wrong like I'm sure that she likes me it's just something that you don't usually see.

 

UPDATE: The more I think about it the more I think I should just be completely straight with her about it all but I'm afraid if I do that it may lead to problems especially if they're just friends I will look like a complete ass.

 

I have a somewhat similar experience with a girl and I walked away. Mostly cause it was my 1st year in university and I figured it would likely get in my way with studies and cross out a lot of fun stuff that happens during college. Basicly I thought I was too young for a serious relationship and believe me that would have been a SERIOUS ONE. She knows my family and I know hers from 6th grade (when my family moved). Our families get along and the 1st thing that came to my mind when she actualy admitted liking me was "I have to marry her or make her dump me" as else I'd never be able to go home and face her family/brother ( ).

We talked about it and decided it was better that way. And now almost 2 years later I have to admit it was the right thing to do.

There are more than one girl out there for you and and I'd say this to you "Walk away". Having to deal with too much stuff from the beginning isn't good for you and that girl sounds like someone who is playing it safe. With that I mean someone who has got tired from dating jerks and now decided to try out the "Nice guy".

 

Only thing I've noticed is women always seem to go after the "bad boys" which makes absolutely no sense to me what so ever. It's almost as if they enjoy being treated like shit.

 

Don't wait. If she wants you to wait or you want her to wait, it's not going to work out. I met the girl I'm with now and knew that she was who I wanted to be with. I ended my 4 year relationship after knowing this girl for a week and have never looked back. It's the best thing that has ever happened to me.