I HATE him!!!

Long story short, I hate my dad.
He is a hypocritical dick who moans at absolutley EVERYTHING.

I'll give an example of how he is:

I get in from work/college at say 4pm.
He gets in at 4:20 pm he'll come in stomping his feet in the hallway slam his things down come in the front rom and say "make me a cup of tea" so I go make him one, no thank you at all (he doesn't even say hi first or anything). he will then sit there on his laptop all day playing poker barking orders out to me and my mum.
Every day is the same.
Some days I don't get in from work till about 11pm and I like to sit and watch a bit of TV after work, so I end uo going to bed after 1am (which he constantly moans at) then he gets up at like 8 and he moans at me saying I'm a lazy bastard because I don't wake up early. Not only am I a teenager and enjoy lying in I sleep like 8 hours a day which is perfectly normal.

So today anyway, my cousin came around and we plastered the hall and landing together, my dad was constantly behind me saying "that's wrong" "that looks shit" My cousin said to my dad your son did that bit. My dad instantly replied with "yeh I can tell it looks shit" (he doesn't joke around he was serious) It was actually my cousin that did it, he is a qualified plasterer who has been doing it for 12 years and it was absolutely perfect. So my dad just picked at my work all day. Eventually I told him to fuck off and get away or he can do it himself. he backed off a bit but gave the occasional comment.

Later on I was cleaning the hall lifting the dust sheets up and taking them outside, he came home from going to the shop to get some stuff anf said "dickhead, do it right in front of the door, oh your are..." I wasn't right infront of the door at all and it was all getting brushed up anyway so it wouldn't of mattered if I did.

So I sat down and said and not doing any more work till he leaves, he started shouting and swearing and then stormed off in the car (wheel span the car).


That was just today, I haven't put all the details in but you can imagine how much of a dick he was. He is like this everyday. I have been taking it for 18 years now and it's pissing me off.
I've come to the point were I no longer care about him, I have pictured myself killing him before and i kind of get happy when he hurts him self, if he ever accidently cut his throat or something i wouldn't rush and help and probably just wait till he dies, that is honesly how much I hate his guts.

I am normally I kind and caring person and I do apologise for swearing and most likely a few spelling mistakes and grammar but seriously I am too angry right now to even check them I just want to punch his face untill it's completely flat.

I don't earn enough money to move out by the way. The only reason I haven't ran away is because of my mum, she is the best a person could hope for. the best mum ever. I've tried to convince her to leave my dad but she wont, he never hits her or anything he is just verbaly abusive. If he ever hit her I would never ever hesitate, i'd kill him there and then and I wouldn't care about the police.

To you this may sound silly, but imagine this every single day of your life.

I have done a lot of things in my life and he has never helped or supported me for any of it. I truely hate him and I can't take it anymore, I have posted her to vent my frustration, if I don't tell somebody I would end up doing something stupid.

 

Wow....it really sounds like you've got a situation, the best advice I can give you, is be the bigger man, if your father talks down to you, just brush it off, don't let it get to you. For example if he says "Hey fuckface" be like, "good morning, you look lovely as well", surely this will piss him off and make him rage like a mother fucker, which if you say this brings a smile to your face, the best way to make him rage, is to show him he can't get to you.

If you want to talk more, or maybe want some different advice, PM me and give me a bit more detail on your situation, I love to listen and help people, so don't be shy to PM me.

 

You should try talking to your dad, Even if there is no talking, You've got to do something!

No matter what, He is your father, Do what you gotta do to keep your mother happy and yourself happy.

18 Years of pain, Don't give up now.

My girlfriend has the same problem as you just that it's both her parents.. It's killing her slowly and I'm very upset that I can't do anything about it..

and the guy above me has some very good advice lol.

Try being nice to your dad, Maybe he'll rage even more or change completely.

 

Sounds a lot like my stepdad tbh, he's almost 40. hasn't worked a day in his life, and all he does is sit around at home all day telling people they're doing everything wrong. i had to go to college yesterday, he woke me up at 7am to clean the kitchen, i had to get ready for college so i went to do that. he waited until i got home to tell me that i had to finish cleaning it up, just because he's too lazy to do it himself. he does stuff like that all the time. honestly, the only way to get passed it is to just ignore it. that's the only way ive been able to ignore him. anyway, good luck to you sir. hopefully he'll stop being such a cunt soon

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That doesn't work with him, he just continues as normal.
I would PM people but I really haven't got the time, just enough time to reply to the posts.

Talking doesn't work either, he just says ok and then the day after he's back to his old douche bag self.

 

Ahh..

Bare for another 2-5 years more and leave.

Don't see any other ways

 

give him/your mum an ultimatum.

get them both to sit down explain your situation. if you dad interrupts you tell him to stfu and this is exactly what you mean. Maybe your mum will see it as well.

Tell him to either start being a dad or he won't be one to you anymore. Dis own him. Tell you mum that you love her but hate him and if she carries on letting him treat you/her like that then you will leave/disown her as well (the mum is more of a scaretactic, you wouldn't actually leave but I bet if she saw you packing your things she would probly kick him out > you)

If she doesn't just sleep ruff for the night stay at a gf's house/friends house. she will panic he won't give a fuck. Cause an argument between them = gg you win.

 

sounds like ur dad has some internal issues going on right now...i seriously doubt he would but u should maybe try to explain to him how u feel and see if he wont persue counciling so the 2 of u can get along better. i lost my dad at 17 and id give anything to have him back (no pity plz...seriously) and it makes me sad when a son and a father have a bad relationship. i know u think u hate him but fixing that would definately lift a huge burdon off ur chest and if theres anything u can do to work towards that id give it a shot

 

I suggest you to first talking to him, and if he doesn't listens, look for help with a member of your family, maybe a grandparent, an uncle, a brother, a cousin, ect. Tell them your situation and ask them if you and your mom could move in until he calms down.

Or you could contact a famlily organization in the UK [or wherever you live] (guessing you live in the UK because of "mum") and they would help out.

Best of luck

 

Hmm that really sucks, half of my family are all aggressive, hateful people who love to pick on people and get at people just to hurt them. It got at me for a longgggg time and i couldn't help but being pissed off and hating on them. But eventually, after like 3 fucking years, I've just learnt to let it go. Basically some people just can't change as much as you would like for them to get it. At least I don't treat people that way & venting out to my girlfriends and boyfriend helps heaps. Sometimes there's just nothing you can do about it but finding ways to deal with it and move on does

 

Well... He's at it again...
My mum won't do shit, my cousin won't do shit. I seriously think I'm going to kill him, it's easy to do and all my worries in life will go once he is gone, gone for good, he's a prick.

 

Well... He's at it again...
My mum won't do shit, my cousin won't do shit. I seriously think I'm going to kill him, it's easy to do and all my worries in life will go once he is gone, gone for good, he's a prick.

 

Don't kill him, I know it's very painful for you, but think about the consequences.

 

Stand up for yourself, people take advantage when they find out they can get away with it without consequences. Tell him straight what you don't like and what he needs to change if he's going to continue to have an active role in your life.

 

Killing him has to be the worst possible thing to do in this situation. As other people said think about the conscequences. Even if he hits your mom, killing him would be an awful thing to do. You would go to prison, maybe be there for the rest of your life. Say goodbye to Sythe, friends, etc... and say hello to fugitives, that would be an even bigger dick to you than your dad. Killing your dad would basically put you in an even bigger situation, and the people in prison are 5x worse than your dad, so you would have to deal with them too.

All I'm saying, is killing is not the answer. You've dealt with this shit for 18 years now, and you can deal with it for another 2-5. People have the same problem as you, and they get through it. So can you.

 

Why don't you ask one of your friends to stay awhile at their house while you sort shit out with your dad? Give a month or two break from him, and then come back and wait till you're done college, and then move the fuck out.

And on the last day of moving out, take a shit on his laptop.

 

I honestly dont know what to say...
And I dont know what to tell you, but Ill tell you one thing.
Id lose it on him & beat the...
'nuff said.

 

Well...
I have stayed at a friends house for a few days, (that's why I haven't been on Sythe) my mum is considering leaving my dad now and I really hope she does.
Now I just go and take the dog for a 3 hour + walk everday just so I can get away from my dad.