Sex

Hey guys, I'm 15 and a Virgin. I don't like relationships at all and have only been in 4-5. I Just like chilling with girls and if there up for it go as far as possible. Anyways recently one of my friends called me drunk saying how she wants to fuck me, and lose her virginity so bad. Please don't think of her as a slut or anything she's very respectable and we have been friends for a long time.
Anyways, I just played along while she talked, cryed and basicly told me everything that she needed to. I didn't agree to do anything with her as she was drunk and I didn't want to take advantage of her. But the next day she texted me saying she remembered what she said and didn't regret it.....




So yeah I was pretty happy and I plan to lose my virginity to her. But my question is am I too young? Will I regret it?

And to those of you who are pretty experienced with sex and girls.
How do you know if you've succesfully pleasured your girl? Like when she's finished and such. And lastly how long should your first time having sex last?

I have a couple more questions that are more personal, for anybody that can help me. But I'm not sure if I want to post them before I see how you guys all react.

Thanks.

 

How old is this girl.

 

The first time isn't as great as you'll expect it to be.. It's still not too bad though.

Tbh, being a virgin/not being a virgin/losing your virginity doesn't mean anywhere near as much as people think it does. It doesn't change who you are.

Some people are like "Im gonna wait till everything's perfect before I do it." Morons. And others are like "I NEED TO HAVE SEX!" They're morons too. Basically, what I'm saying is, if you want to, go for it. Don't worry about anything, it doesn't change who you are, and will have very little effect on your life in the future. But at the same time, don't feel like you have to because of peer pressure or whatever. If you don't want to, don't.

It means so much less than what people think it does. But yeah, from what you've said you seem like an alright guy and she's up for it.. If you want to, just do it. Don't rush into anything, but don't hold back.

 

She's the same age as me.

Thanks for the input man.

 

You're an idiot. Once you've slept with someone, you will never ever see them in the same light again - unless of course your some heartless sex addicted fiend who doesn't give a rats ass about the feelings of women. Whether you like it or not sex creates a bond between two people, and if they're your girlfriend/partner (or soon to be) breaking it off is very much harder.

OR, maybe they respect themselves and they respect the feelings of others - they don't want to rush in to things and hurt people in the midst of it all.


I'm 18 and still a virgin - it hasn't affected me in the slightest and I'm completely respected by all my friends and peers for my decision, and I don't plan to lose it until I feel I share a strong connection with someone.
Personally I think unless you feel that the relationship could be taken further, then you should avoid intercourse with her. It could end up doing more damage than you realize in the long term - and unless you make the mutual agreement to keep things as simple, drama free, and only casual friends-with-benefits sex, once you leave her she will hurt more than you think.

 

Yeah mate. *clap clap* Do you even think before you type?

On topic: Mate, if it feels right, it feels right. Personally, I'm Christian, so it means that I'm waiting until I'm with my wife. But if you think it's time, and she's up for it, go ahead.

On the other hand, you may regret losing it before you've matured a bit more to understand completely what you were doing.

 

I lost my virginity when I was 13 to a 16 year old... :/
I did it without protection, luckily I did not catch anything I didn't want. But if I did I would regret that day for a long time.

I can't give strong advice on what you should do, but you should do what feels right. If your a bit weary about doing it tell her and make sure you both take it slow. you don't want to rush into things and later regret it.

 

I lost my virginity to a girl I was seeing for nearly four years - So Im not some "some heartless sex addicted fiend". What I'm trying to say is, in 10 years time the fact I lost it to her will be irrelevant. In 10 years time it won't matter that I slept with her when I was whatever age. Even now, 3 months after she broke up with me (so I know how much all this hurts people), it doesn't matter that I slept with her. People don't see me any different to what they see you, as someone who has not lost their virginity. You're saying the fact you're a virgin hasn't affected you in the slightest, Im saying me losing my virginity hasn't affected me in the slightest.

People see me as the same guy. Im trying to say, it really doesn't mean as much as people think it does. Either way, whether you want to lose it or whether you don't want to lose it. People don't judge. And Im trying to say to him, in the grand scheme of things whether he loses his virginity to this girl or some other girl in a couple of years time, it doesn't really matter.

 

Be careful dude, no matter if you believe you have a strong bond or not it can all change. This past summer I had a girlfriend who I had been with for over 2 years and I was ready to take our relationship to the next step (sex) and then all of a sudden she goes completely cold and breaks up with me and has another guy now. Just be very careful because this can mess you up emotionally.

 

You just have to weigh the options.

Pros of having sex:
-You have sexual intercourse with a member of the opposite sex
-You lose your virginity

Cons of having sex:
-Possibility of STI/STD
-Possibility of pregnancy
-Could fuck you over

Really, I'd do it. If she is also a virgin, the chances of you getting an STI is so small, especially if you use a condom. Same with pregnancy, if you were a condom, and pull out early, she has a 99.999999999% chance of not becoming pregnant.


Other than that, just expect your first time to be, well, kind of awkward.

 

I don't mean offensively but in a way it sounds like you are her pity fuck.

I don't even think you or even her for that matter are ready. Do you call a person who calls drunk asking to "fuck" you respectable?
Are you ready for a baby if things go bad? Are you ready for the commitment? Do you even have a job? There is always a chance she can get pregnant.

 

I didn't read anyones responses above and I'm not going to, but I'll give you my honest opinion and I'm going to say do it. She sounds like a lot of fun and pretty respectable. Your first time will always be your first and you can never get that back.

Sex is meant to be beautiful and I think the only regrets you'll have is if you don't make it special. Don't do it at some random location, try your best to make it a blast for both of you. You're young, just don't do anything stupid.

 

Don't make it complicated. Use a condom, do it, and you won't regret it.

 

Age is not a factor in determining one readiness for sex, maturity is. I was 19 when it happened to me, and I dont regret when it happened. You may or may not regret, depedning on how it turns out. Are you going to date her afterwords? Will it simply be a one time consensual encounter? Think about that stuff before you go through with it.

Regarding your other specific questions on sex, the blatant truth is, unless you are a natural stud, it wont last long, and it wont be mind blowing for her. Not saying she wont enjoy it, but females who are virgins typically dont even know how to get themselves off, let alone have a guy do it for them. Just try different stuff out, and if it sounds (because how she sounds is a big indicator) as if she is liking it, roll with it.

Good luck to you

 

Alteranz is very right about this issue as soon as you sleep with someone you will see them in a whole new light, so think about it very carefully if this girl actually means something to you

 

Thanks but this kind of pissed me off. Maybe you don't drink so you don't know. But when you do you definitely aren't the same as when you don't.


Anyways thanks to the rest of you guys, really helping a lot.

 

I'm sorry if I pissed you off. It wasn't my intentions, but I don't think a girl who doesn't know her drinking limit is deemed respectable in my eyes. Again, I mean no offense.

 

Your not too young; Shit, i was 13 when i lost my virginity. I don't think you'll regret it; afterall, sex is just sex. I'm 15 now, nearly 16, and sex for me now is exactly the same as it was. Not being a virgin hasn't changed my life one single bit. It is up to you to make the decision, not us.

I too found this offensive. i had sex many times with myy ex-girlfriend, and she drunk alot; she was an entirely normal girl. Are you trying to emit the feeling that all female drinkers are not respectable?

 

Again, I wasn't trying to be offensive. I apologize.

 

I actually agree with you, seems like she just wants to have sex just to have it. I deduced that from the fact that she likes to drink which means she is a sociable person who falls into peer pressure. She just wants to pity fuck for the sake of losing her virginity. I say give it some time, if you both still feel like you want to do it then go ahead. Also if you don't care that she is using you then go ahead as sex is just sex. Personally I am saving myself for marriage or the right girl but everyone is different so just do whatever you feel like doing. There is no one here who can decide what to do in your situation, just do what feels right.