I Can't Stop Fighting.

To get things started off Im very tempermental and have gotten into atleast 2 fights every month. I dont know what it is but ive always spoke my mind, and always been up to throw them hands first and ask questions later. Last week there was a guy talking mess saying i was a douchebag so i confronted him Monday, and i said you keep talking shit imll beat your ass, and he said your not going to do shit and turned his head away then turned back and came with a left hook, so i ducked and came back and popped him in the chin. Hes in the hospital right now because i broke his jaw, and his parents are taking me to court on this. On top of all this ive gotten suspended for the rest of the week when every class i have in school i have to pass. I just need somebody to give me some remedies to keep my mind off of what people say or if theres anyway i could avoid these situations i've been to Jail 6 times in my life and i havent even made it out of highschool yet. Ive never been able to restrain from fighting people. somebody running there mouth i always shut them up. Does anybody have any ideas of how i can restrain myself from getting into so much trouble. Im trying to finish school and be one of the few people in my family to finish school and make my parents proud but i just cant stop fighting, and getting into trouble.

 

Try martial arts, I have been doing Judo and Jujitsu for several years now and it has taught me a lot about fighting.
There is a better way to win a fight than just knocking them out, if I am ever confronted like that or if I am attacked I can hurt them without causing damage such as a broken jaw and you will be surprised how well a good old arm lock works to humiliate your opponent, what would you rather do? Knock him out or make him say sorry (or what ever you want him to say) infract of a load of people.

I hardly ever use martial arts now as nobody ever says anything because they know what I do, so rather than just being able to win a fight ad pritect yourself. It also helps prevent fights.

 

He swung first self defence.

 

I play two contact sports (football, and lacrosse) and use both of those to express my anger. A football coach would really appreciate your aggression as long as you play with in the rules of the game. I also recently got into a fight during one of my lacrosse games and recieved no consequences. Which was mostly because he swung first and my coach was proud of me stick up for myself. Sports can be a great way to express your anger.

 

I think its time you visit a place where you can unleash all that energy and anger. Stuff like this builds up and you have to go somewhere where you will learn how to control these boiling feelings.
My best bet is to take Yoga lessons or go train in Martial Arts. yoga for stress relief and Martial Arts for discipline. Notice how most Mixed Martial Artists don't go out Guns blazing mindlessly? Its because even if the opponent shit talks alot, they are able to control themselves.

That is my recommendation.

 

This.

Martial Arts may not seem like a good idea for a guy who wants to fight (it'll just mkae him even better at fighting!), but it teaches you discipline. By the way, as another above poster stated, if the guys parents take you to court, they have nothing on you. He swung first, and I'm sure there were witnesses who will back you up on that. You hit him back in self defense.

 

You should do mma or something or just take medicine to calm yourself for when you get angry.

 

It's ok saying 'He swung first, self defence' but really you approached him you threatened him and he retaliated. He'll just say that and you'll take blame for causing the incident.

I think it's unlikely you broke his jaw, I think it's unlikely you fight as much as you do. But that's just a personal opinion.

To stop your anger and rage, take up boxing to vent your anger.

 

Smoke some weed and chill out.

 

I'd say try getting into a sport. Maybe learn an instrument. I started playing guitar and it helps with all my negative emotions. Whenever I play, it's like the feelings aren't there and I just get so into the music I feel nothing but what I want to feel.

To everyone; Just because he swung first, doesn't give him the "Self defense" excuse. It depends on the laws in his country.

 

My opinion is to just find a new school.

 

Well a lot of people can't help getting angry, it's just a part of them.


OP, try a martial arts or punching bag. And the he swung first thing can't really be used, since you threatened to bash him, if you didn't say that and just asked why he said shit, you'd have a better chance to get off the hook.

 

My exact advice.

 

the best advise is to quit being so sensitive to those remarks. i mean, why are you actually bothered? Let them run their mouth and say whatever they like.

Also the way you described it, it looks that your pretty proud that you beaten someone up?

Also, learn to control your temper better and find a way in which you can vent your anger without hurting people. If you continue behaving like this, your either going to kill someone or your going to get killed by somebody/ go in jail more times and your life will be shit.

 

Marine...I didn't know this about you.

Look man, what happened happened. I'm a very laid back person, I couldn't give less of a fuck about what people say about me. I'm content with who I am. Some people could try to bullshit you and say "Well maybe you're just insecure about yourself..." but like I said, that is bullshit.

I have times when I want to swing. I really do. But remember, it's not worth it. I've NEVER heard of a high school student going to jail six times...that's ridiculous. Not to mention everything you have going for you, I've spoke with you plenty of times. You're a very sincere, helpful person. Don't get stuck in that hell called prison, live your life and benefit the world like you were born to.

I agree with mixed martial arts. However, it's important to note you don't need to do anything official. I love to fight as well. I have friends that feel the same way, and we all chipped in and bought MMA gloves. Now we just fight each other. We're all close friends, so if anyone ever broke a bone or something we know that no one would ever press charges or anything like that. It also helps you become a better fighter. No more just brute force, but you can control yourself. You get the anger out of you by doing something organized like that, so that when a situation on the street happens you have self control. You're also a more skilled fighter, so say you have a boyfriend and one of her ex's approaches her and hits her. You can defend her. ..now I'm NOT saying beat the shit out of him, no, but if you're reflexes are good you could perhaps catch his hand before he actually hits her? You could just push him away before things get too physical.

td;lr : You're a great person. I know that. Don't end up in prison, live your life and make the world a better place. Take up organized fighting and get your anger out so that you can have self control when something on the street happens.

Good luck, you have my MSN.

 

In New Jersey, there are no self defense laws..Unless they put a mark on you..So if they push you, doesnt count, if they swing at you, doesnt count. Happened to me countless times. They have to leave a bruise/scrape/visually hurt you.

Anyway, I had this same problem in like 7th-8th grade. Fought a different kid everyday, because I was trying to prove myself as being a "man". I dont know why it grew on me, but even today I tend to do it like talk shit to people and hope they get up so I can knock them out. But it's not worth it. You gotta be mature in certain situations. Sometimes, the "bigger" man really walks away. Put it like this, how much easier is it to get in a fight then walk away?

Good luck.

 

Walk away, who cares if people think your being weak, trust me I'd like to kick the fuck out all the people that talk shit to me but in the end it isn't worth it, parents took me to the cops station so I had to have an interview with some bitch that talked to me about criminal records and my future, it actually got to me so now in stead of beating peoples asses, I now simply walk away.

Good luck sorting out your anger issues ect.

 

I personally don't have anger issues, but try letting it out through other avenues. Be creative learn to play an instrument or take up some sports. Do something other than care about what people say, because that is the nature of the beast: People talk shit.

 

Thanks everybody for your input, it all means alot to me. Ive invested in a punching bad and it helps rid the stress and anger i have towards the end of the school day. I've had permission from the principle if at all i feel like i must fight i can leave the school premises and go home to avoid it. Anybody who has ever got to know me knows i'm a really laid back guy and a great person to get to know its just so hard for me to let people talk about me, but i think im going to have to adapt cause i got tons of good things going for me.

 

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