Suicidal friend

[malakadang]

I really like the idea of taking her riding as a surprise actually. I've got no idea how I'd go about doing it though, I think she'd usually go to a certain barn to do it but I have no clue what/where it is, if it costs anything, pretty much everything. I think she'd be just as surprised and happy if I were to ask her to take me and show me the ropes, thanks for the idea.

As for a 24 hour period, she doesn't really have anything she's committed to and does regularly (besides job hunting I'm hoping, but I've never really been with her for that), so to my knowledge, pretty much everything I said before.

I'm not sure where you live, but farms are a great place to start.

I think her 24 hour day cycle is a major contributory factor to her depression. Personally I think her depression would be severely mitigated if she had things to do in life. Eg. If she had a job that may give her a sense of usefulness I think and would result in her feeling less depressed. Also volunteer work may help her, it may seem ironic for someone needing help to be the helper, however It IMO will give her a sense of usefulness, and she won't always be sitting at home thinking negative thoughts but rather outside and thinking about her job at hand.

Hope I helped bro, GL; I think your doing really good thing, and I can see you really care for her.

 

[madhacker14]

You could always intervene and call somebody that can get her into an institution, if you really care for her. I mean, if I had a really good friend who was serious on the threat of killing themselves, I would call their parents, the police, etc. Anything to get them help.

You could comfort her like crazy, make her realize she has someone that really does care for her. As suggest above, do activities with her, offer to take her places constantly, etc. Mention how you feel, try to make the conversation deep, and make sure she understands.

I wish your friend luck, and you as well.

 

[pu3r neon2]

I think one of the effects of 'smoking pot' is psychological mood swings, depression etc. May not be at the root of her problems, but it may not be helping her condition either.

(Just my input, some of the above replies have valid points also)

 

[MegaMatt]

I think one of the effects of 'smoking pot' is psychological mood swings, depression etc. May not be at the root of her problems, but it may not be helping her condition either.

(Just my input, some of the above replies have valid points also)

You are probably right, but I think it's helping her cope more than anything right now.

 

[hoxile]

Try to show her how much you care about her and make sure she knows that she has loads to live for.

 

[malakadang]

You are probably right, but I think it's helping her cope more than anything right now.

Actually Cannabis is like a key, and your brain is a lock.
Cannabis has been known to sort of unlock your brain and cause depression, schizophrenia, bipolar among other things.

 

[MegaMatt]

She seemed a lot better this weekend. She started psychotherapy a couple days ago, so I think that's gonna help her. I can see she's taking a lot of good steps towards stability, and I'm no longer in as much fear of her killing herself. She knows it's not her time, although I do think it could still happen. She's reconnecting with her ex a bit (who really didn't do any good for her) and I've told her straight up many times that it's a bad idea, so I hope she remembers that before letting him get too close.

 

[kxracer1219]

You have to tell somebody. Better to have her alive then to late.

 

[Bro]

I have helped at least 4 suicidal girls.

I have come up with a list on how to help these people

1. Be sure to convince them that YOU and EVERYONE AROUND THEM loves them and would be heartbroken if they died.
2.Use google to find way more fucked up situations than they are in to appeal to there sense of "I have it the worst that is why I'm taking my life"
3. always make sure they have a way to contact you if they need to talk
4. a not manly option but cry with them explain how you feel about them.
5. tell a trusted adult so if it gets that serious you could go to them with one call/text and they could be at the persons house to stop them
6. this i feel is the most important
ALWAYS TELL THEM AT RANDOM TIMES that they are beautiful whether a call or text no matter what just always tell them that. it brightens there day and shows them a lot. I hope this helps and if you need help on what to say pm me or msn me ill be glad to help.

 

[Aloe12]

Hey, do you mind getting ahold of me I would love to give you a few tips, I have actually taken a few suicide prevention classes, for my job and would love to beadle to help you out a bit.

 

[DoNt_Be_HaTinG]

The best thing you can do is try to be with her and cheer her up etc, as for the job situation tell her you will go job hunting with her (ie. handing out resumes etc, help her type out her resume..) As for the suicidal part of this I would recommend not sending her to a Tollfree number as those are usually not what suicidal people need, usually they just need someone to be there for them (ie. this could be you for this girl) and also counselling or help groups could help her to see that many people are facing these problems also and will help her fit in and maybe open up about what she is experiencing which could eventually help her out of thinking about killing herself, just a few ideas. Remember, every person is different. I personally have helped a friend out who was thinking of commiting suicide and this is just what i did from my experience etc. Help lines are basically there for the person to talk to at the last point etc. so they do not help too much, if you need anything or have any questions throw me a PM, i'd be happy to help you out with my information etc. Hope it goes well