Stuck in a HUGE mess....help? :(

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Quick question. How old are you? Does her boyfriend visit her as much as you do, or do you know?

If you are in love with her then it does not matter who she is going out with. If you do not tell her your feelings she will never know. Also if you wait to much longer she could be gone moving somewhere else, maybe with another guy. Simple thing, as hard as it will be, just tell her how you feel. Preferably tell her while doing something she likes, like walking together.

 

P.m'ing you as I do not want to give out too many details on here.(about age and such)

ANd yes, I know that like she needs to know but I just don't know how to go about telling her.....if done the wrong way it can come across extremely weird. It's such a hard position to be in...especially while she has a boyfriend...

 

I wouldn't touch it man. Just think about this... So your thinking about trying to date this girl, because you have feelings for her, but you don't know if she has strong feelings for her current bf. And like you said her bf lives far away so it's an distant relationship. Soo...
1. What if another boy tries to do the same thing your doing that actually lives near her because your "distant."
2. You'd be home-recking, now I don't know your age but if your atleast 16 or 17; getting into the middle of someone else's relationship is just down and dirty. Knowingly getting between another couple is just wrong, you wouldn't like it to happen to you.
3. If you do go through with this, and she doesn't feel the same about you; you just ruined a friendship which will never be the same... Remember their are alot of girls like the one you are explaining... Almost every teenage girl is outgoing and a party-goer.
4. Think about this, if you do get her, and you guys have this 3-4 hour distance between you. She could do the same thing you did with her with another boy.

 

Without giving a specific age, are you a teenager? Or are you a young adult? <25

If your a teen, then dw about it, just have fun.

If you a young adult then:

I'll give you one point of advice before giving you the rest.
When she looks at you, into your eyes what do her pupils look like? Do her pupils dilate whenever she looks at you? If the answer is yes, then it suggests that she likes what she sees. If the answer is no, then it suggests that she hasn't really thought about a relationship with you.

Just try hang out with her 1 on 1, ask her out to a movie or a concert and see what she says. Typically most girls would say, "Like a date?" It's your call from there, depending on how long she answers, generally the longer the better. Just watch her body language around you, however the major problem you have is that 2-3 hour distance relationship.

Personally I would just forget it, as the distance is a major factor; however if your really determined just watch her body language towards you.

Remember if she looks at you (for longer than a couple seconds eg. conversation) and her pupils dilate (get bigger) it suggests she finds you attractive, or likes what shes looking at.


If you like her that much, then go for it, but chances are you won't get her, or it won't work out down the road.