Homosexual Bullying

Hi guys, my name is Alexander (Disturbioso). I was directed to this site from a friend, he said that the members here offer well advised help with good intention. About a week or two ago I came out of the closet, I told my parents, I told my friends, I even told a teacher. Now that I have come out of the closet I have noticed people have begun looking at me differently, I've lost some friends, and people have even begun calling me names. Frankly I'm getting tired of the harassment but I don't want to resort to physical contact. What can I do to make life better...

 

What i recommend is that you find true friends who accept you for who you are, Sexual orientation doesn't matter to true friends.. It may be a little hard when you come out, and Im not going to lie, It's going to get worse, It may seem a bit horrible to cope with, but once you get older, you're life will improve drastically, some people may be insulting, unfriendly and harassing, but its because they're afraid, afraid of difference, they may even feel insecure.

If they call your names, you can retaliate and show your not going to give in to these selfish people, or you can just accept it, if they're calling you names like 'Faggot', then just see it as them showing their insecurity, they have to call you names to make them feel better.

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It's sad that people have to resort to violence/harassment just because they don't like another persons beliefs/sexuality.
I personally recommend finding new friends that will accept you for your sexuality and for who you are.

You can also take up an activity/hobby to help you get your mind off of the people that are harassing you. Maybe take up some self-defense classes like Kickboxing, Tae Kwon Doe or something of that nature. This will not only help you but motivate you to become a strong individual.

I hope your remaining friends understand your choice and respect you for who you are. As well as people learning to accept you.
Good luck for the future man

 

There not freinds if there picking on you.

I would suggest Ignoring all the dickheads and just be happy with the freinds you have, The freinds that support you are the only ones you need to listen to.

 

Find those friends who don't look at you differently for who you are and don't pay mind to those people who call you names. It will become easier for you along the path.

 

I don't have any friends that are HomoSexuals, But there is a few in school, Sometimes they get abuse of people, i don't see the point, if they don't like it, they should just stay away from them, they shouldn't walk up to you and abuse you about it, it's unfair and not right.

 

First of all, I'd like to congratulate you for being who you are. It's extremely hard in today's society to come out, and I respect you for that.
Those people who don't want to be your friends anymore..were never really your friends. Sexual orientation shouldn't effect who or who isn't your friend. You don't need them. Find people who like you for you. People are going to insult you., mock you, abuse you..and it's hard to cope with that. But you're gonna have to be the better man, turn the other cheek. Don't resort to violence, as it'll never achieve anything. These people are just uncomfortable of who they really are and are just scared of difference. Stay strong, best of luck.

 

I can give you the advice I have given many other people before, but the main thing you need to know is that in school, people are idiots.
Immaturity is the main thing, I can give you a line that worked for a gay guy in my school.

Bully: Queer!
You: Do you fancy me or something?
Bully: No
You: Go away then...
Bully friends: laughing at bully

That's basically how it worked for the boy in my school, eventually people gave up and stopped bullying him.
You need to show that you are proud of how you are and you don't give a shit about what others think.

 

just keep your head down and ignore them.

 

Wrong. Don't do this. Fight back, and kick some ass. This might sound like a rubbish response but in all honesty if you want people to leave you alone you're going to have to learn to stand up for yourself.

Always remember that your schools principal is your best friend. Go to him or her and tell her what's been going on and if she could switch you into a different classroom where you'd be able to learn without fear of childish behavior.

Always talk to your teacher about what the other kids are doing, and make sure you're never in an area where'd you'd be alone with the trouble makers. Stick close to large crowds as best as you can and don't be scared to name call back.

 

Deal with it. Find friends that accept you for who you are.. the friends that leave you when you come out aren't that good of friends anyway. When you do make friends, if they are guy friends, make sure not to hit on them..

 

mate dont take there shit im not saying like go on a sucide rampage but belt them tech them a leasson
bullying is a no go zone no matter what
your homosexual wow they should get over it

 

honey, ....

if you're going to be openly gay, you gotta be fabulous about it. You can't give a damn about what people say.
wear your sexuality with pride, fuck everyone else who thinks it's wrong.

 

You should not have done it yet considering your situation around you but oh well you did it so let's face the consequence.

Now you need to find a new social group that you can fit into as the current social group is kicking you out. Yes, bullying is an obvious sign of kicking you out. And when you are kicked out, you often leave or face additional effort kicking you out. Unfortunately, there are often not many choices to make as social groups tend to be similar geographically. People often have to move, or move faraway to places they know may accept them. For example, many homosexual people may move to San Francisco or Massachusetts in the US where society tends to accept homosexuality more easily (just using these 2 as example because I am not familiar with other places). Just a suggestion.

Fighting the system will often get you nowhere. Especially don't try to be a weirdo by "taking pride" in being something the current local community doesn't like in general.

 

Its a thing people do, I'm not gay but I have a friend that is. I've asked my friend how much he gets bullied, he said a lot but laughed when he answered and then said "I don't let other people run my life, if they want to call me gay then call me gay, because thats what I am, gay, it doesn't bother me anymore" but what i can add is, people WONT stop calling you names in high school, its just part of high school.

 

First of all congratulations for comming out, and you have more courage to come out then any of those people who harass you. most of them just do it to look cool infront of their friends who are most likely not feeling the same way as the Dick head who is insulting you does. I know this is beaten to death but just find some friends who are true to you and you trust, ignore the fuckfaces and live on
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FORGET THEM AND HAVE PRIDEE FOR WHO YOU ARE
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