Skipping to the "comfortable" phase

[MohtasaUnique]

I just recently got out of a long relationship, and I don't know what to do anymore with a new girl. I'm extremely awkward now. I just want to know, is it possible to completely skip all the new-relationship shit with a new girl that I hardly know, or would it be too creepy? I'm talking about just assuming she wants me to go with her places, or that she's ok with not talking (you know, when you KNOW a girl so you're content with not having to say everything) or that it's ok to touch her non-nonchalantly (not perversely, just poke her or pick at her shirt or something)

tl;dr is it possible to settle down quickly with anyone at all, or do I really have to jump through the hoops with a new relationship...?

 

[Sanctuary]

It really depends on the new girl. Scope out the situation, think about her personality, then make your decision off that.

 

[MohtasaUnique]

Do you think that, if I met a generic average girl, that she'd be majorly put off if I tried to pull a move on her that would otherwise only be easily acceptable for an older relationship?

 

Just try things out. If she seems uncomfortable, you'll probably have to go through all the new relationship business.

 

[xi momo xi]

Depends on your personality, the more experienced you are with girls and with being social in general. But the most important part is finding a girl you have alot in common with.

Some people you just instantly have a connection with, and it isn't awkward at all.

 

[Vallory]

I don't think you should just completely skip it, but you can do things to speed it up a lot faster. Do you play any games together? Anything that'll bring ya'll closer together. You have to make sure that she's comfortable around you too.

 

[Jimmy J]

Since you know the proccess a bit more, i dont think you have to go through it all again, but depending on how she is you might have to go through it again but simply just speed it up this time.

 

[Jimmy J]

Double post, sorry.

 

[shawnwill1210]

just let time pass. when your pop one after looking at even the ugliest of girls youll know your ready

 

[Victoria]

When in doubt whip it out... Works for me. Just sayin. na I'm just kidding.

I am in the same situation as you. Just got out of a long 2 year relationship, though I'm 'talking' to a hott girl right now. Dude just be yourself. You want a chick that wants you for who YOU are. Don't be nervous, odds are she's nervous too. We are all just humans.

 

[AnthonyL1991]

My girlfriend and I just had our 5 month anniversary. We met on facebook, but knew the same people and hung out with the same circles. The first two weeks or so we just had long conversations on the phone every night and got to know eachother and what are likes/dislikes were. It turns out we had so much in common and the past 5 months have been perfect we had an awkward phase for about an hour then loosened up and been happy ever since!

 

[S]

Personally, a strong relationship is based of both the people involved. You can make it as comfortable and easy as you are able to; if the other person doesn't reciprocate your feelings, you may be in for the long haul and probably will end up having to go through all the minor bumps that lead up to a strong relationship.

Its all individual based. Some people get along extremely well, and are capable of establishing a strong and united relationship after a few weeks, and go out publicly with it. Some people require more time.