Shyness

I Need to Know how i can get read of my shyness idk where it came from it just started happening in like 7th grade.

 

vestashlong when you say shyness be more specific is it just with your peers opposite gender, elders or just everyone? I'll try and give some advice but so know details will make it much easier feel free to pm them to me if you don't want it public.

Shyness is often attached to kids with a low self esteem and you must first conquer that before you move on to other things. Just know you are who you are and be proud of it. I used to be in a situation similar to yours I never engaged in conversations etc.One day a light clicked in my head that reminded me that I shouldn't care what others think live life like that and you'll do great just remember not to overthink things. For instance if you want to talk to a girl go and talk to her Don't plan out your conversation just do it and see what happens. I'm not going to lie and say it will always work but atleast you tried! Just like the lottery always says you can't win if you don't play! and I'm betting your odds are better then most lotteries

 

I was shy towards everyone apart from my mother and father from 5th grade all the way through my first year in college. I had a very low self esteem and constantly worried what others thought.

On February 4th last year, I had a HORRIBLE car accident. I had severe facial scarring, a brain injury, etc... I was actually pronounced dead on the scene, but a medic managed to bring me back when he wasn't happy with just giving up.

Since that day, I've learned what other people think of me is pointless to worry about. I'm the best me I can be, and I'm happy with myself. Fuck the scars, the bad memory, learning disabilities. I'm alive, and I'm making the best of it.

Don't let what others think of you dictate your life, when you realize it doesn't matter, it may be too late.

 

No one can help you with this, it's totally up to you for when you'll be more comfortable with being around a certain group of people or place. Shyness is completely in your head, you don't mean to be shy you just can't help it. Best thing for you to do at this point is ask yourself what makes you shy and pick ten things that can help you at becoming less and less shy at the given time.

For an example, if being in a large crowd makes you shy a few of the ten things to help you can be smiling, thinking of a topic that makes you laugh so it distracts your mind where you're at the time, find a friend and go sit with him/her, even if they're not your friend find a friendly face and do your best to make a new friend. Lots of people who are shy usually are not pleased with their appearance or feel like they don't fit in anywhere or belong to a certain group. Try working on some self esteem work outs and start building some self confidence.

 

You can try hanging around more with confident people, who are not very shy. They will boost your self-esteem and you will grow out of being shy.

 

Get more friends, joke around.

Change your psichology, always think positive.

 

It goes naturally. I use to be shy to even order in mcdonalds. (Seriously).

Get a part time job involving customer service should help.

 

Shyness is not something you can help. I think it may be because you are confident only around the people that are close to you. You need to start gradually hang around with different people, some people that you may not be used to. I think customer service will help you a lot, because you will generally meet a lot of nice new people and it won't be awkward because you know the relative subject.

 

Powerful stuff.

OT: Just try interacting with people. You'll get over it.