Serious topic. Need help fast, please.

Hey guys. First off I would like to say that this is NOT about me. It's about a close friend. Ok, well my friends dad abuses him. This isn't physical abuse (He's never hit him, ever), however it is verbal, and emotional abuse. He calls him names, puts him down, and makes him feel like shit. A few examples of what he says:
1) Your so fat, lose weight, girls will never like you.
1.5) You will never lose weight, by the time your in college you will be rolling to school
2) Every curse word in the book
- His father did had Hepatitis C,and was on MAJOR drugs for almost 3 years. The drugs did fuck him up, a lot. The abuse was horrible during the 3 years, but it was just as bad 6 months after he stopped taking them. In the beginning my friend thought that maybe its because of the drugs, and he will wait a bit to see what happens after. It was a bit better after he was off them, but still bad. He yells a lot, and does the same to my friends mother (but not as harsh. He doesn't hit her either). I know all of this because I witnessed some of it, and he told me. He asked me what I would do, and I couldn't answer it. Im hoping you could help.. His grades are also slipping a bit, he's been depressed, and emotionally unstable at points. Hes also told me many times that the worst part of it is, is that like half hour after he does it, he comes up to him and starts talking to him like nothing ever happened Please give me some ideas so I could tell him. Also, if you have any questions concerning this ask me. I might be missing some stuff. Thank you

 

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Thank you. =]

 

have him speak to a school counselor. They will help him out.

 

^ Lmfao Fin, funny, yet such a stupid remark towards such a situation :huh:

Your friend, is a least talking about it, that is always one of the first steps...
His father is obviously not in the best of conditions, and from what has been said, is not fit enough to take care of his kids.
Your friend's best choice would be speaking to someone with higher authorities... although this could end up him moving out of his home, and into an emergency accommodation, etc...

 

Call any number That can help you (most common is 911)
Report the abuse, hope they put him ina reabiliitation center.
If you report it to 911, they might just go to jail...soo... Google xD

 

Yeah. But you know, I was talking to him and he said that he doesn't have to go that far. He says that hes been dealing with it for 3 years and its like a habit to ignore him. However the damage is done.. I don't know, I think they're going to see a therapist. Ill get back to you when i know more

 

I would just google rehabs in your area have his dad go to classes for a while and see how it changes him, also does he have a mom and does she know?

 

My friend? Yes he has a mother, and yes she knows. The father does the same to her, but its not as bad, as children are an easier mark

 

CPS.

Child protective services, or get him to talk to his counselor at school, they could set something up.

 

He should talk to his father.

My friend's father was a drunk. He used to hit his mom and verbally abuse my friend. Well recently my friends mother died from cancer. I was over at their house setting up their computer oen day and his father was cursing at me and making the rudest remarks. Finally, my friend snapped. He said " dad please stop". he said" ever since mom died, you are all the family I got, i dont like it when you talk like this and i dont like it when you talk to my friends like this". His father actually started crying and apologizing. It was an akward moment for me but it was very necessary. Most people will not confront their problems the proper way. If you display your true emotions to someone besides retaliating you will get a much better response. His dad is still a drunk but he doesn't curse at people like he used to. He is much more sensitive to his sons feelings.

 

Thank you for this. However he has tried this approach, and the father just yells and tells him to get the fuck out. Which is how I know that he knows he is wrong and just doesn't want to hear it. But either way, my friend says hes doing a bit better, even though its only 2 days since he told me..

 

If he lives in Canada, he can call Kids Help Phone.

 

We live in the US.

 

Tell you friend that before he goes to any authorities to talk to his father and tell him to stop it. His father may not know what he is doing to his son and will most likely stop if your friend expresses his feelings towards him. If the abuse carries on after that tell him to try talking to a good school teacher that he likes.

 

I'd say speak to some Teacher to contact support for you, and get their Dad taken care of by Distressal/Rehab Services.

GL