Considering giving up on love....

Well first of all... thanks to everyone who tried to help me with the situation before. Sadly though I still haven't had a chance to try to talk to her....

I don't know what it is about me... but before I do something dumb or give up... I guess I will try to accept some advice.


I am not a horrible looking guy, I admit I am not the greatest either, but far from bad. Since I have got out of high school I have had the worst luck with girls imaginable to me. Bluntly being said, no one really wants to actually be my girlfriend.

I get flirts all the time, but I always get put into the friend zone before I have a chance to act upon anything. Girls bluntly never seem interested anymore. I just don't know what I have done wrong. Idk just its been really stressful lately not actually having anyone who, well lets dare say it, loves me. I am horrible at meeting new people as well. Not so much I feel awkward talking to people, I just am bad at approaching.


I honestly don't know how to explain my problem... I just feel like giving up on the whole idea of it. No matter how juvenile that sounds, it feels like I am meant to be alone.

 

attitude, self esteem and confidence is all you need to meet a nice girl.

any average guy with confidence can even meet an above average girl

its all about believing in yourself, dont overthink it dont think oh i wanne date her blabla think I WANNE BE HER FRIEND i wanne be someone she knows, once you're talked blabla day 1 etc you'll feel more comfortable.

then you can start thinking about taking a girl out etc

 

Listen man, the way I see it is if a girl can't get past your looks then she's no girlfriend of mine.

Doesn't matter what you look like, it's all about what's on the inside that counts.

Shallow bitches get no love.

 

look this is my friend (the girl) she's average looking but REALLLLLLLLLLLLLY smart

anyway look at her boyfriend

not goodlooking, overweight etc but she still loves him with all her heart.

its not all about looks

 

^-- Kind of makes sense, but looks is usually what attracts people at first.

It seems like you have some confidence issues. I use to be like that, but I decided to say fuck it. I'm going to meet hundreds of girls in my life, why should I shy away from them? If I make an ass of myself to one, so what? It's not like they're going to stalk me my entire life with a sign that says "Loser ->" on it.
That's what my problem was, as much as you or other people think it may be looks. I don't look that great, hell, I'm probably below average. But with the confidence I had, I was grinding on the hottest chicks at a few parties. Because I put myself out there, I showed them I didn't care what they thought of me.
But of course, if they just "love" you for your looks, then that's not a good thing either.
Essentially what you have to do, is you need to try and convince yourself to put yourself out there and show them just who you really are, without being the least bit shy.

You get what I mean?

 

self confidence, chin up
its not all on looks, if you really like her talk to her and flirt here and there.
if your having problems with self confidence, start going to the gym and set a goal. it helped me out

 

Hey OP you're still really young don't let this turn you down.

 

you shouldn't go after girls or do anything special to get attention, just let it happen and you'll meet a nice girl

 

I agree with what xoy has to say. Plus there is a girl for every guy out there even if you don't believe it.

 

I gave up looking for love, just relax and let it come to you.

 

Stop chasing girls - be cool and let them chase you, as the above said - relax and it'l come to you

 

Simple answer dude if none of the girls are interested well then thats it they arent. Thats the whole point of experiencing those things before you get deep into a relationship you dont want to be in. Friends are still good right? why do you have to be in a relationship to feel happy? the first time i went out with a girl was when i was 13 and it was awkward as hell because i only went out with her because she liked me and she was pretty but still nothing serious happened because we didn't know each other that well. What im saying is you build that sort of relationship through friends sometimes. who knows there maybe a girl who likes you but to shy to own up because you jumping on all the other girls?

 

If you see yourself as a bad "flirter" or "talker" then people will see you as that aswell...try to tell yourself, that your the man...and go try to talk to some girls...should work.

 

Honestly, don't be discouraged! A lot of girls today are horrible people. They sleep around and use guys.
The right one will come along, Finding a decent girl is like finding hay in a stack of needles. You're going to get hurt badly in order to get to it.
Good luck! ^^

 

To be honest I'm 24 and I consider myself decent looking and I know some girls are just lookin for that guy that looks like he came from Jersey Shore just jacked. But honestly I've came outta 2 2 year relationships and I'm having a blast, I've found a new girl that I didn't run into at the bar a girl who's fun and smart.