RE: you guys are my only option for advice.. Please help

So im sure most of you have read the original topic that I made concerning my fiance that no longer has feelings for me. I have been trying to give her the time and space she has asked for but today she tells me shes not sure if she will able to fix it. I told her we are a team and should be fixing our problems together instead of her trying to fix them on her own. Anyway.. My question is.. If it doesn't work out, how can I convince her to put the house in my name, it's currently in both of ours, but she can't afford it on her own, and i could. I need advice on convinceing her this would be best thing to do, instead of foreclosing and ruining both our credits. My fear is she will be stubborn and say shes not leaving at which point i would feel i have no choice but to just stop paying the bills and force her to realize she cant do it.

And i really dont want it to come to that but i need to be prepared if she truly doesn't want to fix it and i cant just be her friend and room mate like she wants. Its not healthy to still have feelings for someone while they live in the same house and potentially date other people.

 

Hey bud. Sometimes there's no fixing things. When my ex first broke up with me I had the same thoughts how could there be no fixing it? Why would she try and do it alone when we were always a team. Those thoughts are gone now, we've talked a few times and you'll definitely be better off maybe not soon but eventually buddy!

On the topic of the house tell her that obviously there's financial implications with the decision and that you respect her decisions and understand that sometimes things change but you can't let it ruin both of your futures. If she doesn't see that I'd seek professional advice from a lawyer potentially to try and salvage your credit rating.

I understand fully where you're coming from in terms of not being friends with ex's there's always going to be resentment on the side that got broken up with especially under circumstances like ours. My ex wanted to stay friends realistically I wish the world for her but won't have anymore than "oh hey hows it going" or like condolences when people I met during our time together pass, but I agree you cannot remain in the same residence.

If you just wanna chat about shit add my skype, Entrr.Sythe .

 

Well who is the co signer for the house, you or her? If you call the police when it comes down to it, they will tell one of you to leave since you are not married. Usually it would be the co signer, but they will only make one of you leave if there is violence going on, or if the other person has another place to go. If there is no violence and you both have no other place to go then chances are they'll tell you to take it to court as it would be a civil matter in which the police are not authorized to get involved with. Going that route would take at least 8 months to get a final verdict. If she really doesn't want to be with you then just let it go man, honestly, there's plenty of other fish in the sea. Sometimes people just grow apart and no matter how bad you may want it to work it's just not going to work.

 

To add to this even if you convinced her to stay or whatever would you really want to have to babysit someone's brain like that? That's not how love is and I'm you know that. Trust me lots of other good girls out there I'm currently seeing that for myself.