Friendship Issues.

Well, I guess this is the proper section to explain my life problems. Okay guys, here's my story/problem.

Well guys, I have been stressing over one person day and night. This all started 2 months ago on March 15, 2013. Me and my best-friend (Girl Best Friend) got into an argument and I died on the inside. I thought she wouldn't be mad forever at me so I tried to forget it for a day. Days and days passed and it's come to the point where me and her have not talked for nearly 2 months. I kept apologizing for everything that I did and that I want to be friends again. She ignores me. We have 4 class periods together and I always look at her and flashbacks come to me where me and her use to talk every single day. One time, we walked past each other in 4th period and we looked at each other at the same time and didn't say anything. We just took a quick look at each other for like 2-3 seconds then looked away. I knew her since we were kids (Met her in fourth grade.) No one and I mean NO ONE, knows her life story, but me. She tells me everything and I told her that I would never leave her side no matter what happens. Back in December 2012, she started some drama with nearly the grade above her and her grade. People said she was being racist and everybody left her side. But, I never did. I was always there for her. Me and her were like brother and sister. That's how close we were. Few weeks passed and the heat cooled off. Then, on March 15, 2013 (When the problem started), I was called to the office during the beginning of 7th period and everybody was asking what happened. I didn't tell any of them but 1 person (It was a different person). I told her why I was called up there and when the bell rang to start loading buses, I was by her (Best Friend) and she asked me. So, I told her something but it went the opposite way. I guess we took it the wrong way. So, when I got home, I texted her saying, "Sorry" etc. She wouldn't reply at all. She replied after I sent more text messages and she said she was mad at me because I told the other girl first, how I lied to her (Um..?), and that now wasn't the time. I felt like shit because of what happened between us. So, I thought she wasn't going to be mad forever so I thought to myself, "I'll let it cool down between us so we can be friends again." Guess what? It didn't.. When we were ignoring each other (Well, I wasn't ignoring her. She was ignoring me.), she found another best-friend and it's a person that I strongly dislike (Plus, that best-friend was a person that went against her back in December.) They somehow became best-friends overnight? I mean really? Come on now.. She went against you in December! But, I had to deal with it because we weren't friends at that time. Nearly 2 months passed and it was May 1st; I finally had the guts to talk to her and say, "Sorry for everything." She forgave me. But, that's not all. Ever since we became "Best-Friends" again, my whole life started changing. She barely talks to me now. She's dating one of my friends and they kissed and that really made me upset. I guess I'm the jealous type. Then, in 4th period, she flirts/talks to another friend of mine that I knew for a good bit of time now. When I try to talk to her, she's either talking to him, talking to her boyfriend, or flirting with other guys. Her other best-friends (There is Girl #1 = One that went against her back in December. There is also Girl #2 = She comes in the story in a bit.) I can NEVER talk to her because of the people she is with. I try to talk to her but she's always putting me off, ignoring me, etc. I try to talk to her on Facebook but that's a fail. She reads my message but doesn't reply. I text her, she reads it (It tells me), and doesn't reply. The next day, I ask her why she didn't answer me on Facebook. Her answer? It was, "I was playing Minecraft." I asked her about the text message and she said, "I don't have my iPhone anymore. Text me on my iPod." I text her iPod and boom. She reads it but doesn't reply. I asked her about it the next day. And to me, she's making excuses. Her answer was, "I don't have an iPod." A few days later, she's ooVoo'ing her boyfriend and she takes a picture WITH an iPhone. But, I'm thinking to myself, "She probably doesn't have service." She calls her boyfriend while me and him are playing Call of Duty: Black Ops 1/2 on XBOX and I guess that's proof that she's lying to me. School is almost over and her and her best-friends (Girl #1 and Girl #2) try out for our school's cheer leading team. They made it and they have changed a lot since then. Girl #2 has the biggest change, in my opinion. The main person (Supposedly my best-friend"), and Girl #2 have changed a lot since they made the cheer team. They were nice people but they're just mean/rude now.. My principal came up to me during class and told me that he was offering me to move up a grade and I wasn't sure what to do. All 3 girls didn't want me to BUT they acted like they didn't even care. School is out and my principal still wants an answer and I don't know what to do. I am going through a hard problem at the moment. The friendship issue, the "Move up a grade" issue, and the "Changed girls" issue. I also feel like a third wheel between the people I have talked about so far. I use to sit by them but they just moved seats (Teacher made them and it made me pissed off)

( Copied and pasted + edited the seating chart from Sythe user: Bro: )





Time for some questions..


Question #1: Should I tell the main girl how I really feel or anything like that?

Question #2: How should I respond to the Girl #2's change?

Question #3: Should I take my principal's offer and just move up? ​

Serious advice would be helpful. This has been killing me for the past 2 months+ and I just need some support/advice from people. I can't sleep at night just thinking of this. I can't focus on anything because of this. I can't do anything because of this really..


Answers to the questions would be very helpful.

 

Believe it or not I've had a similar problem (as will any guy on here I'm guessing who had a girl 'best friend').

BEFORE I BEGIN, I DO NOT MEAN TO BE PATRONISING/SEXIST IF THAT'S THE WAY THIS COMES ACROSS!!

The problem here is that this girl was obviously attempting to throw signals at you before she used that argument as a tool to break all ties with you. She sounds like the jealous type to me tbh, I mean, not speaking to you for 2months because you told another girl something? Without the rose tinted glasses on, it's pretty obvious that she had a problem with that.

So how does that affect you now I hear you say? It's simple. You STOP attempting to speak to her. You've made the effort for the past 2 months, it's her turn now. Move up a grade, don't let her hold you back, if you do then psychologically she will know she will always have control over you. Girls CRAVE attention, and she's so used to you giving it to her that as soon as you stop she's gonna go bat shit crazy and start attempting to get your attention. Case in point, kissing her boyfriend in front of you. She remembers how jealousy felt when you told that other girl something before her, this is her way of getting back at you.

So my advice to you would be:

1. Stop showing her attention/craving a reply from her - This will immediately set off alarm bells in her head as she's so used to it.
NOTE: by that I don't mean completely ignore her, if you pass her in the street be courteous and say hello etc, just don't go out of your way to speak to her.

2. Move up a grade - Contrary to popular belief among many young people, life isn't like a movie. There's millions of women/girls in the world, don't feel like she's the only one and that your life has to mirror one of those romance movies
Eg Meet in 4th grade, get married/kids etc. So don't let her hold you back! Moving up a grade will look great on your college application.

Hope I helped!

 

You definitely helped a lot Faintlol. What you told me, I wouldn't ask for much more than what I just read. Thank you so much for replying and giving me some tips.