my grave did appear, it was at the base of the tree, yes i got my stuff, was alot harder because the tree option was there but all my items were floating in the branches haha
You could have gotten the items by first collapsing your grave and then chopping the tree. The items would have then appeared on the stump, where you could have taken them.
awh jagex fixed something for once :*( it doesnt happen anymore (yes ive failed a few more times at qbd) but im on a radio of 2:1
2 qbd kills for every death haha