Need help with life.

Alright guys, a little about me. I'm 17 years old in my junior year of high school, my names Rob and

I live in the U.S. I love to smoke weed, I love to play Call of Duty and sometimes Runescape(not

much, but sometimes). I am 6'2, I'm a white guy and I'm pretty fat. I'm constantly playing games of

some sort, and have above average knowlege of computers (I built my last one). I have a problem

guys, my life is going nowhere. I am intelligent but don't study, I make average grades but I could

do much better. I have never had a job. I havn't had a girlfriend in over 8 months. Basically what I'm

trying to say is, I'm becoming a loser. I have many friends, but something about my life is just

empty. I go to school, think about playing games. I get home, play games till late at night and then

go to bed to repeat the cycle. I have 50 days played on mw2, which when I look at it now is just

sad. My dillema here is this; i need to get a job or my parents are going to make me join the navy.

This whole thing started about a year ago when my friend Cody got involved with this thing called

"Sea Cadets". His dad was always talking about it (we were best friends, hanged out almost every

weekend) and so finally Cody signs up. At first, not much changes, just him being gone every once

in awhile. Then his dad starts bugging me about it. I kid you not, this guy will not take no for an

answer! He has told me I should join over 100 times(not making this up) and everytime I said no.

After awhile, I was so fucking annoyed about hearing this that I decided to go, to end this torment of

epic bullshit. I went and it was the gayest shit that has ever been created by man. Basically it was

a punch of preteen country rejects and one college dropout who was running it. They all sucked his

dick so they wouldnt have to do push-ups, etc. He told me i needed to shave and this motherfucker

looked like moses! Anyways, you have to march EVERYWHERE!!! We marched to the lunch hall,

where i was informed that I couldn't have soda or desert (even though they had them here...???) and

to make it worse my friend Cody's dad wouldnt go away following us because he was good friends

with the commanding officer. Basically, this Sea Cadets shit was super homo and I wanted nothing

to do with it, ever. Back to Cody, he was getting gayer with every passing day. Basically

transforming from a deathmetal anticonformist pothead to a kid who does anything this college

dropout says. It sickened me to the fucking core. I SAW how this place had changed my friend and

I knew I would never go down the same path. Skip forward a few months and he's in basic training

talking about how awesome his military career will be, and my parents get even deeper in this

collective bullshit. Now my dad (who is a super dick and always tries to get what he wants) knows

about this and is trying to get me to join! They signed me up without my consent WTF! I told them I

would never, ever join that gayclusterfuck known as Sea Cadets ever and they still signed me up for

it. Basically my mom told me that i needed to do something with my life because I'm going to be 18

in less than a year, which I agree with, but not doing this! I WANT a job but It's hard! Noone wants a

17 year old with no experience in this economy! I've tried and tried but I never seem to do it right! I

dont know what im doing wrong as far as getting a job goes but id much prefer that then to going to

Sea Cadets. If I dont get a job soon I'm going to be homeless, in Sea Cadets, or worse. I want none

of those. So basically what I'm asking here is, how can I make my life better? Im sick of being this

fat guy who only plays xbox all day and could be considered a failure at life. I have a few problems

here; 1, I need a Job, 2, I need a girlfriend, 3, I need a way to get in shape and stop playing games

so much. Oh yeah, and ive started quitting weed because munchies=fat and ive been clean for like

a month and a half now. Anyways, anyone who can offer me some advice, it would be much

appreciated. Thanks for reading!

 

try posting in personal assistance section next time, you get a lot of help there. If you dont want to join the sea cadets, try to get a job. at least any job would be fine. It would be temporary. Once you know what you want to do, you can always switch

 

thanks david. ive been trying to get a job forever, but it just isnt working and i dont know why.

p.s., your profile pic reminded me of a shirt one of my friends had a long time ago.

 

To be honest, you should stop smoking weed/playing video games. You have no ambition. You said you have decent knowledge about computers, so start studying them more. Take up programming, science, or even hacking. Anything thats more productive than playing videogames and smoking pot. Once you get in the habit of doing something productive and potentially career worthy, you'll see yourself making decisions that are goal - oriented. Try getting a job at a place related to your interests, makes working seem less like work and more like play.

 

Stop being a fucking pussy and just go to the navy.

Navy = basic training = weight loss, no games, no weed etc = better health.

You also then occupy money which bitches seem to like.

 

You said that you were above average knowledge with computers, so why don't you try running a service in which you help people with computers that are broken, have virus's, etc. Or if you have a computer repair shop around you, then try applying for a job there. Even if you aren't very successful your parents should be able to see the work you are putting in to getting a decent job.

As for you playing Xbox a lot, try just spending more time getting out with friends and less time on your Xbox. I know it's easier said then done, but if you stick with it you will eventually find yourself actually getting out with friends more. I'm not saying to completely stop playing your Xbox as that's kind of unnecessary, but at 17 years old you should be out partying with your friends and having a good time. With that said, if you actually go out and do things with people then you will eventually find a girl that is right for you.

Finally to end this off, I want to say that I know what your going through. When I was younger my parents would force me to do all kinds of things that I never even wanted to do. Basically your parents just want what is best for you, and you have to understand that they are doing what they do because they love you, and want you to go far in life. If it becomes to much of a problem, then try sitting them down and having a talk with them about it. Tell them that you are nearly 18 years old, and what you want to do with your life is your choice.

I hope this helps, and good luck!

 

Thanks for the input everyone (even Covey) i think im just gonna sell my xbox, because if i dont im just gonna keep playing it.

 

I think selling your xbox is a good idea actually! And covey, joining the navy is a huge, life changing decision. If military isn't the career he wants to persue, that does not by any means make him a 'pussy'

 

^^thanks.

 

I have a friend in the same situation. He goes to a private military school and it's like he has been brain washed. Keep living life man, my only advice would be to get out more. Don't join the military, and if it really comes down to it you could get a minimum wage job pretty easily. Apply to a local restaurant or Cinema.

 

My comment was half troll....so thanks for biting

 

lol @ covey

Thanks for the advice jo3s.

 

I should have known

 

Search up carb-cycling stay true to it, finding a job is easy you just have to look for it and try hard when you lose weight and get money u get bitches, if u still cant get bitches pm me and i'll tell u about the fking secret weapon,but honestly the navy doesnt sound to bad

 

Show your parents that you are able to change and get your shit straight. First of all get rid of the X-BOX, it doesn't matter what you do with it but it seems to be the one of the main problems. Just get rid of it. After wards decide what you REALLY want to do in your life, your still a junior in high school so you have 1 year left until it hits you hard. For the rest of this year think of it as time where you can change your life ; lose weight , better appearance , build self esteem , find a job , school , find a girlfriend , and etc. You should make a list of your priorities and check them off just so you don't lose track.

 

FishFishy pretty much summed up everything. Though smoking weed isn't really your problem, just toke up with your friends instead and have a good time partying and shit. You have formed a habit over the years by choosing to be alone instead of with your friends, so it takes more effort and motivation to change it. You definitely aren't the only one going through the same thing. I went to a military school when I was 16 and of course hated it, but so did 99% of everyone else. It was basically a school filled with rotten kids, so mostly everyone became worse and those that were good when they came, became bad. It was everything you would expect out of a military school with everyday being exactly the same except for drill on Wednesdays, though for the majority, the discipline that came from high ranking students didn't help things and made things worse a lot of the time. The only positive thing about it was all the entertainment and fights going on. I saw teachers run out of the class crying and then quit and watched teachers and students punch each other.

Also know that your parents can't force you to join the navy. When they said they signed you up, they lied. That's illegal. You're almost 18 and you'll be graduating soon. Just go to college if you can, though you may need a break after high school to figure out what you want to do with your life. Everything will be up to you.

 

Just do all those things you love in moderation and all will be well.

Also, please don't double space your threads any longer.

 

Alright im back, my only computer broke on me for 4 days so i havent been on. anyways im getting rid of the xbox, its on craigslist right now. The next thing im going to try to do is get a job. The list idea was a good one, i think ill do that. Thanks everyone for the help!

 

You weren't probably given deserts/soda because of your weight.

In the UK you need to have extreme levels of fitness to join the Navy/Army
( Be able to run 1.2 miles in under 11minutes )

Your friend stopped smoking pot and is doing something with his life ( even if he has to listen to a douchebag ) respect that

Start studying and do something with your life, dont complain about it

 

okay no offence but your the biggest douche atm. Now for reality, you play computer games all day, your obese, your losing friends and you suck at studying. Its a great choice to start a new life and clear things up, Im not here to critisize you or troll to you

But first of all, give the navy cadets thing a try, it might sound like one of the most gayest and douche things in the world I totally agree on that but Have some motivation. Im sure a navy career in the future wouldnt be that bad.

Look your not educated right? so there is no other job oppurtunity in the world that will get you a descent income and benefit for the rest of your life, These days the unskilled and uneducated people= losers who end up working 7 days a week and people who don't have any savings or enjoyment in life.

Anyways good luck ,