parent problems

The begginnging of this summer my mom got hooked on "bathsalts" after a summer of rehab she made a half blind schistofranic friend. she took him home till he could find a place to live and he lived in our camper trailer. my mom spent way more time with him way more than my dad and my dad knew it. my grandma heard that they were having problems so she came over from accroos the country for a week. i came home from school on the day that my grandma was leaving. the fence was knocked down my mom wasnt there so i just assumed she was at her "friends" house and my dad was fizing the gate. my dad then said that my mom got pissed and drove through the gate. i though she was just being bitchy at first but then she came home the next day and they just started screaming at each other. she left again and came over that night when my dad was at work. she came over and i saw that she started smoking and drinking after 15 years and she said she was getting her own apt. she kept pressuring me and my 3 younger siblings and asking who they wanted to live with.

 

Well who do you want to live with?
By the sounds of things your mum has hit hard somewhere...
Try and get her off the drink and smokes, just say something like "Are you going to smoke and drink if we move in with you?" and if she says yes then simply say you want to stay with your father until she gets her life sorted out. She will realise what she is doing wrong and hopefully sort it out.

BUT she could take it the wrong way and flip out, it's up to you whether you say something like that or not.

 

i agree with shoop ya know she has seen some hard times and you should try to be supportive if she wants to get better but it all comes down to who you wanna live with and can you mom take care of a 3 year old you dont want her to get pissed and do something crazy with you guys in the car try to get her some more help marriage counseling? what does your dad think in all of this?

 

You CANNOT let a parent guilt trip you like that into living with you. If shes in as bad of a situation as your making it out to be, rather you love her or not, it would be for you and definitely your younger sibling safety to live with your father. Tell your mother that once she's done with whatever phase, or relapse shes going through, you will consider it.

With how your making it out to be, i wouldn't even assume child visitation as an option; and it's not something i would want for my children in this case. You need to let your mom know that its not safe for you, nor your brothers and sisters to be with her when she's like that; and that you will surely be living with your father until it's over.