Need some advice/input on a few things, Girl/Moving?!

Well, to start everything off, I'd like to thank everyone who reads this, and offers advice to me, I really need it.

I've been friends with this girl for about a year, we've had a "Thing" before, It ended when I started dating my ex-girlfriend last fall, and when she dated her ex-boyfriend, we didn't talk much then from ~ November - April. We really are best friends, we can talk about anything, and everything. Lately, I've been starting to redevelop feelings for her... She set me up with her friend, but we haven't talked that much the past month and a half, and her friend didn't talk to me as much after speaking for about a month, and seemed to lose interest, so my 'Crush' on her faded away. Note, Her friend stopped flirting with me and whatnot, then I think she started.

Now, I think she has been flirting with me, I'm not sure if she likes me or it's just friendly flirting, Before when I liked her friend, she would never want to Skype anytime I asked, but the past 3-4 days all she's wanted to do is Skype, I've been getting anonymous questions on a website such as ; "Do you think she's pretty?", "Post your favorite picture of her", "Is she as hot in person?", etc. I'm thinking it could be her, trying to find things out without asking me, and seeing my reaction on Skype, She was getting the same type of questions about me, or she could just be looking for a males attention, I'm unsure of that though... Got a bit sidetracked there, oops... The flirting part, she tells me she loves me, calls me babe, sends kiss faces, but then she says I'm friend zoned... She doesn't know I've been developing feelings again, but then on Skype Saturday, she brought up that I didn't kiss her on a ride at the carnival in the Summer, saying she would have, etc. It confused me cause she said I'm friend zoned? Also.. Last night I had a dream I was with her, and my ex-girlfriend, my ex is the one girl I known I've loved too, anyways.. me and my friend were sitting on one couch and my ex was on the other with a few of my friends and randoms, and I was sitting there kissing my friend, does that mean anything at all? It kinda makes me think that maybe this could be what I need to fully get over the ex as well, which I am for the most part.. Need some advice here.

Ultimately I'd like to date her, eventually, we have an excellent friendship, I see a few problems though, I need to figure out how to get around, the first being she will bring up the "It could ruin our friendship and I don't wanna lose you as a friend" which would only happen if neither of us could come to grips with a breakup if the opportunity of dating presents itself, I know I could still be friends with her, we're both fairly mature.. Second problem, I'm going to Ontario, Canada, for a few months, but she also knows that and says we're going to Skype all the time and whatnot, which I'll talk about more, but yeah... Third is she could just shut me down simple, I mean, overall she seems like the girl I really want to date, and spend my time with, I'm not good at expressing that though, how should I go about expressing how I feel? I'm really no good with words if you aren't able to tell!

So, the part about me going away for a bit, I currently live in the Atlantic region of Canada, and I'm moving to Ontario for a few months. Reason being, I have Post traumatic stress disorder, anxiety, I'm bipolar, suffering from depression, I was diagnosed with all this at a childrens hospital when I was 15, I am now 18. The benefits of leaving outweigh what I'm leaving behind for a bit, for example I'm going to be staying with my cousin, and his girlfriend, stable household (He's 35-40) So an older cousin, lol, he also has PTSD like me, the same thing happened to both of us. Some other advantages are attending male support groups, being away from a place I've lived from my whole life, a city with a population of 15,000, to a city with a population of 500,000... Wow. The only thing bothering me about this is leaving behind my friends and family, but I'll have more time to work on myself and work on a more stable and better lifestyle, I've yet to tell one of my good buddies, I'm one of his only friends, so I don't want him to be mad at me, what can I do to make any of this easier?

Sorry for it being a bit scattered, I tried my best, it's also 4 am.

Once again, I'd like to thank anyone who read this and offered their advice and taking time to post, much love, and anyone in/around Hamilton, Ontario, What's it like? That's something I've been wondering, hopefully someone has an answer and advice!

 

You should probably use the straight forward method if you really like her. But, as you stated if your not really over your ex you probably shouldn't do it.

A normal friend would not ask kisses and stuff so even she says your friendzoned. Your not. She is definitly in to you. Dreams mean nothing at all, there are no messages in it. Otherwise I would be married now, haha!

When you go to Ontario, you should Skype/Talk alot to here telling her that you miss her and stuff like that. I think she would get the hint. You also stated that you could be friends even after that, so what is there to lose? Grab your guts, tell her I love you. Say everything what comes up in your mind.

Also tell it to your buddy. You will be back right? So what's the matter?

Hope i could help you. You can always hit me up on Skype.

 

Thanks for your reply, I kind of have been hinting on already, last night she was texting me telling me to go play with her hair and cuddle with her and whatnot.

 

Yes I also agree with what YoungBuck- said. I think she maybe wants you to be "the man" in the situation and tell her straight up that you have developed feelings for her. I'm positive a girl who doesn't think of you in a "more than a friend" way would say that you didn't kiss her, it wouldn't of even bothered her if she didn't have those feelings for you.

Also, be sure that you have moved on 100% from your ex because when it comes to girls, our minds can play games.

 

Well, it sure sounds like she's into you. If you feel right about trying to start a relationship, go for it.

My only other advice would be in line with what LA said - make sure you're not just on rebound from your girlfriend. You might think you like your friend, but really you're just feeling residual love from your ex. She may even be doing the same.

 

The thing with that is, her & her ex broke up like.. 8 months ago, me and my ex broke up 6 1/2 months ago, so I don't think it's a rebound. I just am not sure how she would react to it, I don't want to put her on the spot or anything, I'm not sure how to tell her, I'm fairly shy, although she is one of the people I trust very much.

 

Ah, okay. The timeframes help a lot here, thanks.

Sorry if I'm being too direct, but if you've had a "thing" before, what's to stop you from starting afresh?

I was absolutely best friends with my girlfriend for nearly a year before we started dating, and she was nowhere near as forward as your friend is being about flirting and acting affectionate.

Do you two hang out a lot?

 

I don't think there's anything, except from her not being game, she's kind of a confusing girl, I know for sure I'm starting to develop feelings for her though, not sure bout her, we haven't hung out since August, we got into a bit of an arguement and we didn't really talk for a month, but when we started talking again it was like nothing happened.

 

Hm.. Well, the easiest way for a shy guy to start a relationship is to be gutsy for just a second. If you hang out with her and have decided to go for it, I say you should pick what feels like the right time and kiss her. After that, if it works, the rest is pretty simple.

As for what time that is, or if you should really do it, I don't think anyone will really know better than you do.

 

Well, I guess I'm not moving now, I got offered a job here.

I'm just shy to tell her, then I'll be golden, I just don't want it to be awkward when telling her, I'm pretty sure she could like me, because last night my phone wasn't sending/receiving texts for awhile, and she was texting my friend who I was with all upset cause my phone wasn't working properly, and right when she got home today she wanted me to Skype...

I'm really debating on when I should, although I think it's going to be awkward, I think it'd be more like, just kinda normal afterwards if it makes any sense..

 

Well first off, I know its already been dealt with but if somebody hasent been in your life for awhile never choose your future or a location over a woman. sure she's great but there are alot of wonderful women in the world who you're sure to get along with.


Now onto at hand. I'd just say let her know how you feel. Women look for promise of success in men. A lack of self confidence does not convey this. You need to be straightforward with her and tell her your intentions and how you feel.

 

"I'm not moving because I got offered a job here"

That first part made no sense, whatsoever..