Need Relationship Advice

[AmIaBadPerson]

So I met this awesome girl through a friend of mine and we have been regularly talking on the phone/web chats (nothing filthy though you pervs ) we literally talk for just hours on end, sometimes 10+ hours at a time just talking and asking random questions.

Now I know that she is already taken, as in she is going out with my friend that introduced us. They have known each other for 5+ years and have been officially going out for around 3 years. I told her how I feel about her one of those times, and she told me she feels the same way about me. But I told her that I can never get in between her and her boyfriend as he is a friend to me and that I just can't help the way I feel. I told her I would rather be honest than have to feel that way without ever telling her.

I really just don't know what to do, I really love her I do, I love everything about her and apparently she likes me at least. She talks to me a lot about how her boyfriend ignores her and doesn't care about her. But I just keep telling her that its a stressful time and that things will get better for them and that they both deserve each other.

Any advice on what to do? I would feel like scum if I ever broke them up but at the same time I love her and I hate myself for loving her because I am not sure if I can ever be with her.

 

[Bl0w Ranq]

imo, u cant do anything then just wait.
its up to her if she breaks up or not.
u told her how u feel bout her, now she knows that shes in a weird situation too, she will decide i guess, but dont break em up, u get probs with friend, and u dont want that either.
let her decide who she takes, and talk with ur friend too?
and if she tells ur friend she loves u, u friend isnt going to continue the relationship i guess.
if ur friend loves her that much, he will let her go, to be happy with you?

 

[the_dealer]

Yeah, I believe you can't do anything unless she makes a decision to leave the boyfriend. I mean, you can't force her, or rush her, as that could make her dislike you - you've just got to make it known to her that you have feelings for her.

The only thing you can do is keep talking to her, and just make hints that you really like her. In the end, who knows, she may decide she's had enough of this boyfriend ignoring her, and come to you

 

[Shoop]

How close are you to your friend might I ask?

 

[AmIaBadPerson]

I wouldn't say I'm best friends with him, but he is definitely a good friend to me. I mean I guess you guys are right I can only wait, but she has told me she loves me though. I apologized to her for what I said because I don't want to ruin their relationship and I don't want her to leave him just for me. They have an awkward situation where he lives with her so if she breaks up with him he has no where to go (college students). So I mean if she were to leave him he would pretty much have his life ruined. I just can't really help how I feel and I know my morals just wont let me break them up though so this is quite the dilemma.

Maybe I should just go get drunk out of my mind and go to a strip club and try to forget her. Both of which I have never done. I have just never felt like that about anyone I truly care for her, that's why I can't just break them up.