Need advice.

[Kahnits]

I have been dating this girl for 2 years.

She used to be one of those girls, that not everyone was into and she had her flaws. She was a really good christian girl. Well I ended up being her first boyfriend, her first kiss and after 6 months I took her purity to say nicely I guess.

We always off and on fought because she had flirted with old guys who liked her and eventually she got REALLY good looking, and so every guy wanted her and it got to her head.

We are heading off to other schools, and its been 2 years that we have been together, we broke up once before and 2 days after that she made out with my bestfriend and shit.. and I took her back.

She recently has been really sketchy, talking to old guys that are into her and flirting BAD with other guys. We are going to different schools and there is no trust.

She went to church and came back and said we need to talk, she said god found her and that he sent her a message again and that we have been pulled apart, I did everything for her, and just hoped she would be the same girl. She disrespected me and played games with me.

Either way, she leaves in 3 days. I told myself I wouldn't message her or talk with her, but I dont know what to do because I think of her and us constantly. She sent me a long message yesterday int he morning saying she wanted me back and all, i waited all day and finally responded and she just played another game..

What would you do if you were me?

~Sorry for wall of text.

 

[MohtasaUnique]

Wrong section, should be in the support forum

If I were you, I'd start macking on other girls, subtly informing her, and watching her reaction. If it's negative, then she still has feelings for you, and if you're up for the challenge, then you still have a chance to have a relationship with her.

If she's happy for you, and/or genuinely indifferent, then there's nothing left for you to do but move on if you value your sanity. If she's a good faker, then you moving on could possibly illicit a more obvious reaction, and you may still have a chance with her.

 

[blazinfasstt]

sounds like she grew up and you didnt

that whole fantasy you had of taking her purity and being her knight is kind of infantile.

fairy tales do not happen often and when they do, they rarely have a happy ending.

imo, move on.

if you have a void left by somethin gyou really like, fill it with something you like maybe not so much.

 

[FireZ]

Let her go to the curb, you can do better

 

[RussianVillain]

Let her go to the curb, you can do better

^
Honestly, why do you put up with someone who hooked up with your best friend?
Was she YOUR first?
If so, I can tell how your attached to her. Your first love will never leave your head.
I've been through a similar situation and I went out, had fun, met some new friends, hooked up with plenty of girls that were much better looking, and just told myself "what the hell was I thinking."
The worlds bigger then this one girl man. There are hundreds even thousands of girls that you will like/love.
While your young, I'll tell you what my father told me;
"You're young, there are only TWO things that you should be doing right now; Getting laid, and having fun!"
Because when you're older with a job, a career and later on a wife and kids, you won't have any fun, but at least you can pass it on to your children.

I'm just saying you should consider letting go, even though it'll be hard, it'll be worth it for you.

Good Luck Bud
Ever need to talk, throw me a PM

Russian

 

[Shoop]

Ignore her and forget her, you don't want to be with one of those girls.
After that I'd talk you your best friend, he took part in kissing her as well.

Personally I would have dropped contact with the both of them as soon as I knew they made out.

 

[xx Sean]

She's taking you for granted. Don't talk to her or message her at all. Never be somebody's backseat!

 

[<3☻]

Basically what everyone's saying,
Don't let a girl play with your head, I know how that feels, and It can and will drive you to insanity or to do something irrational,
You WILL find another girl, and hopefully the next will be a good girl,
You deserve better, and I know you tell your self that hourly,
Better of to of love and lost, then to of not loved at all.

 

[Kahnits]

Thank you all so much guys. I really appreciate it. Just tough cause she was my first and just felt like I thought we were going to be good for a long time, but honestly I'm starting to realize its her loss, after all the stuff she has done. Thanks a ton guys!
This can now be closed


ps. honestly made me feel so much better.. way better.

 

[N01s PeRfecT]

Girls are ridiculously complicated, bud. There is good news though, there are 'plenty of fish in the sea.' She's not treating you fairly, and you could deserve better. Stop playing her games and focus on yourself and what you want (not who you want).