I really like a girl i met out on the town, how do i play this?

1st of a little about me i am 22 i live in england and i nearly got married 2 years ago (was 4 months away/ found her cheating on me) i found it hard at 1st but now i am over it i of course i have been with girls since but nothing i would class as i would cosider as serious or would want it to be either.

so ne way i was out last night (tuesday the 3rd september in england withmy best mate hes in the army on leave and he usually pulls everynight lol.

well we went to this rock place and its abit of a shit hole (sorry for my french) but its cheap and they play good music (called sugar cubes)
so my mate got with some lass and it was kicking out time at cubes (2am) and this other place was open till 3 so we went there.

when i went in there she was just sat there i just couldnt stop looking at her i really liked her (this wasn't the drink talking) she kept looking at me a few times also but she has a nerdy bf(some 1 i wouldn't never believe she would go with) well i built up some courage to go talk to her (that's a big thing for me) and i was saying who i was and what not and i said like i noticed you when i 1st walked in. she said she noticed me at sugar cubes im just like wtf she was looking at me before i even saw her.

ok now this is where it gets tricky she told me her name and didn't give me her number she told me its her birthday next week and i should come out, i added her on Facebook and it seems she don't go ob much i know where she works but i don't wanna go there wtf do i do?

i don't want to come across as a stalker but ever since seeing her i cant stop see her smile in my mind and i pretty much have a crush n her (more than the irl i was going to get married to) is there any feedback what to do i believe in fate and i know its right just the way we looked at each other.

and btw i can't just let her go either is some thing or some 1 means something to you you should go for it or you will only regret it for not knowing if it could of been something amazing.

 

Let me see if i read this right..

This girl has a boyfriend and you're trying to do to her boyfriend as your wife did to you?

 

not so much if its ment to be then clearly there not i would never make a girl ceat i know how it feels and i dont think its even her bf i think its her best friend

(im not a dick im a nice guy)

 

Your intentions demonstrate otherwise, you don't fuck with a girl until after shes done with a relationship, whether it's meant to be or not that's not your business to interfere 'till after.

To your wife issue, i would have beat the fuck out of her then the shit out of him.

 

Yeah that would solve everything wouldn't it? Fool. You're too bitter to post here.

And just send her a Facebook message, asking whether she has a boyfriend. If not, ask her if she would like to meet up... So what about this birthday party of hers? Do you know where it is?

 

The biggest thing to do here is to wait until you know she is available. I don't know the state of your relationship but maybe establish a good friendship first. Absolutely nothing wrong with that. Do not interfere in her current relationship at all or that will make you come across as desperate.

 

You sure that's her boyfriend? Is he on her facebook pictures? She could be eyeballing you up as a fallback if things go wrong with her current relationship. When (if) she's done with her BF she would probably contact you more.

 

Listen dawg, if you're lookin for a serious relationship right now with this chick and she cheats on her boyfriend with you, there's a pretty high chance she'll cheat on you with some other guy like your ex fiance ho did

 

Just my two cents tho, id just let things come together. Shoot her a facebook message, ask her if she wants to come out for some drinks at that pub you were at, see how shit goes. Ja feel?

 

ye i understand that i really am the nicest lad id rather be friends with some one than not (and id go out my own way to make some 1 happy its just that she noticed me before i did and sicne then i cant stop thinking about her, its isnt just her looks more than anything its her smile that gets me, my heart sinks when i think about her smile(its been 2 days now i went on the pull tonight but i just wasnt intrested.)

i just dont want to come across as a stalker i really do like her but that the worse i want to come across as that why i wont go to her work im preety much sure its not her bf (its my gift in life that i know that isnt not going on or something is wrong/ hence i knew my gf was cheating before she told me or before she even made it clear)
maybe i should just wit to tuesday to send her a kinda birthday message (since going on the town with my mate and seeing her i feel like i seriously need to grow up and start sorting out a career for myself)



* i know when you want to impress a girl you want to be the very best but i feel i want to better myself and i know i should do that anyway not for the girl but for myself), but when you fall in love for the 1st time (proper no teenage stuff/thinking you have) it just feels right i didnt feel this way about my ex who i nearly got married to (i had a few chances to talk to people on the thursday night but i just wasnt intrested.

do you think shes just a head fuck or do you really think she ws intrested and actually wanted me to come out next week sicne she saw me in the place before (clearly she saw me since she said where she saw me)

Do you think i should go for it and any advice ( preferable girls because i dotn want to come across as a dick im kinda old school and more of a gentleman than anything?

 

Maybe I've missed it but you still have not answered everyone's question - is she in a relationship or not?

 

You're sending her a casual invite to go drinking again some time. There's literally nothing creepy about it, if she says no just say no big deal maybe some other time.

Besides, you're stressing waaaaaaay too hard over one chick, i dont even know why you're getting so wound up about getting into a relationship, buddy you almost married a girl at age 20. Give yourself time to get a steady career like you said and get your life together before you even begin to think of going steady with someone.

 

Try to act normal. Don't be like "oh i wanna know you" and be all creepy sort of. Talk to her on Facebook and ask about her relationship status. If she have a boyfriend, let them be happy. If no, make your move accordingly.

 

ok thanks for the advice

 

id say let it go find someone available