My bf got punched in the face, and I was crying

It all started on Saturday, and finally ended in a bad way on Monday night, around 9:00pm.

My neighbors, who I never even talked too, suddenly sent me a text message using my friend's number. His name is Jonathan, and his brother's name is Jordan, and they both are twins. My friend visited his house and was there, his name is Kevin. They were chilling, and I was just in my room when I received a text message from Kevin. It said something like

"Hey Diana, you have become so sexy. Have sex with me, leave Edwin ( my bf ) and fuck me. Or we can be sex buddies if you want."

I was disgusted by this, and I immediately rang up Kevin. As soon as he picked up, it wasn't his voice. I figured it was Jonathan, my neighbor. I was really angry, he apologized but I kept on yelling at him, and at the end, I said "mother fucker" to him. This pissed him off.

I told about this to Edwin. Now, Edwin isn't that well-built as compared to those two brothers. He was obviously angry about this. Moreover, Jonathan texted Edwin and was cussing the shit out of him, and he was putting the entire blame on Kevin. He was acting innocent. Edwin had a talk with Kevin face to face, and Kevin said he didn't do anything. So, Jonathan was at fault.

Those two brothers don't like Edwin at all. Not to mention, Edwin already got punched before ( years back ) by them, thrashed also. This was before we even got together, so I don't know why he got thrashed before.

Now on Monday, Jonathan texted him again, saying that if I don't apologize to him, he will bring his men and they will hurt me, and kill me, too. This pissed me off, so I went to his place with Edwin and my friend, Ayan. I was talking to Jonathan and Ayan lost his temper and shouted at Jonathan. This made him even more angry, and they started to fight. Edwin tried to separate them, but his brother, Jordan attacked him.

I was unable to do anything, I was helpless. Being a girl, what can I do? I can't fight with them. I can't do anything. I started to cry, they were fighting in such a dirty way. Jonathan was against Ayan, Jordan was against my boyfriend. He punched him, Ayan got his head bashed up against the wall. I lost it when Jonathan picked up a huge rock to hit Ayan, I cried really hard and said I'm sorry, and said that it was all my fault. This stopped them. They again threatened me, saying that if I don't act properly against them, I'd be in trouble. I didn't say anything else, I was just worried about Ayan and Edwin.. But the worst thing is that, there were people on the road, and no one even bothered to stop the fight. No one helped.

Then I was crying for 2hrs straight. I was in such a shock. Ayan had to visit a doctor, and Edwin's cheek was swollen. I felt like it was all my fault. If only I had kept my cool temper, then none of this would have happened. Moreover, it was humiliating. Jonathan boosted about it to his friends, like how he punched Edwin AGAIN. But Edwin tried his best to protect me, and Ayan too. Just because of me, they got hit by those two bastards.

And the worst thing is, they are my neighbor. I have to go pass that place where they fought everyday to go to school, and it will always remind me of what happened there.

I just don't want to deal with those boys again, it's best if I avoid them.

Even though I was in such a shock, and was crying so much, my boyfriend... he just hugged me with his swollen, color-changed cheek... and said "I love you, it's alright now. It's not your fault."

 

Sound like the twins are behaving really obnoxiously and are pure dickheads, using their size and numbers to assert their power. I doubt you can take the passive approach (ignore them), as they don't seem like they will stop bullying you.

Btw, you haven't mentioned how old are you/your neighbours.

If you're still young perhaps get the parents involved? If not, you should have get the cops into it. You probably still can, i'm pretty sure the texts are a form of sexual harassment.

You've got to do something about it, the twins need to be taught a lesson.

 

It is most definitely NOT your fault. Your neighbors are dicks, that's the most simple way to put it.
Your boyfriend was right protecting you, what do you expect him to do, sit back while they talk shit to you? It's highly unlikely they have "men" to come and kill you and they are just talking complete bull.

If you get any threats at all, tell the police.

How old are they?

 

This, it's their fault for thinking they're bad ass or some thing, If they threaten you again call the police, your a girl, they are guys, that's considered menacing, which is against the law in most places.

 

I woulda did the same thing as the brothers,

A. if you don't want people txting shit like that to you don't give out your number.
B. if you didn't like what was said you should have deleted the txt and ignored it.
C. instead of dropping it you made it into a deal and brought your bf and friend into it and they got the fuck knocked out of them? maybe you should have called the cops on you when they threatened you instead of trying to act solid and talking to them yourself or trying to bring your friends to their house to talk to them. which was the cause of the issue. your friend didn't like they way he was talking tried to act tough and got put in his place.

 

I honestly completely understand your boyfriend wanting to defend you. If anyone at all, ever talked like that to my girlfriend, even if I got beat the crap out of me in the process, I would certainly make it clear if they ever even THINK about doing or saying anything like that to my girl, or any girl for that matter they'll surely regret it. Fucking imbeciles, pisses me off to simply read about it.

This isn't really your fault at all, just two little cocky immature kids that think they can just do as they please. If something like that ever comes up again, don't even hesitate going to the police. You can surely get them fucked over badly, or hell you can even get a restraining order so they can't even get near you.

Don't just 'give up' like that, make sure those freaking assholes that call themselves 'men' get what they deserve.

 

I know he was trying to protect you but if he aint about that life he isn't. I don't see the point in someone trying to go over to someone when he knows it will end bad and not only that, but the fact that there are more than one person that will be there.

If this would ever happend to me a way of retaliation is gather up a couple friends and catch them late night and show them that it's not all fun and games. That would probably get them the message.

 

Both of them are 18 year old, while I'm 20.

 

1) I didn't give out my number to Jonathan. I said he sent me a text message using my friend's phone number, in this case my friend is innocent 'cause he had no idea that Jonathan sent me a message.
2) I could not ignore it because I never talked to Jonathan, never at all, and the first thing he sent me is "I wanna fuck you", it just sets the image at first sight.
3) I did not want to involve my family or the cops ( 'cause the society in which I live is, everyone knows me and my father, so they will obviously come and talk shit about me if I do ). And if I don't tell this to my boyfriend, then whom am I supposed to tell?
If your girlfriend is in a situation like this, I wonder what you'd do.

 

If my girlfriend were in a situation like yours, I'd try to deal with the problem myself - try to intimidate them, mention calling law enforcement, etc. If that didn't work, I'd probably risk something physical, and if that still didn't work, I'd call the police (or get my girlfriend to). Half of what they're saying based on your first post is illegal almost anywhere. It's harassment at the very least.

 

Then in that case they will most certainly go to prison.
If you tell the police and give them evidence of text etc (and the simple fact your boyfriend has been punched etc) they will get involved and your neighbours wont do anything anymore, if they did, they'd end up in a small cell and you wouldn't see them again.

 

Well if they are threatening to hurt you and even to go as far as killing you, simply contact the authorities. So unless they want to end up in jail with some people who would make their life a living hell, they'd probably stop the bullshit with you. You shouldn't take any risks now days. Even I you have known them or a long time, you never know what some people will do.

 

I agree. They sound like big bullies is all. They are just talking trash. Nothing bad is going to happen to you. You must understand this. If they threaten you, or knock on your door, merely call the police and tell them. A squad car or two will show up, it will scare the SHIT out of the two boys.


It is definitely not your fault, or your boyfriends fault. If someone was bitching at my girlfriend, I would totally do the same thing, regardless of how my girlfriend took it. That is just not cool. Just stay away from them and refer to the police advice.

 

im not going to waste my time reading any other replies to this thread, so if this has been said before w/e

move away

seriously

fuck trying to fix this shit, cut all contact and move to somewhere else. it's the best possible idea. this whole fued sounds like a lot of bullshit

 

you know what, you should get some pepper spray, to be honest thats 10x worse then getting hit in the face by a punch. obviously use it responsibly but those two bullies sound like they may not stop unless given a reason to such as law enforcement so id keep that with you since you live so close to them also good luck

 

I would highly suggest talking to someone you can trust and are close to. No one here will be able to help you as much as someone you know in real life.

You need to try and make the right choices in life, maybe you have made the wrong one here. Seek advice.

 

With reading your original post only I would say this to you. You're not in the wrong to me it sounds like men being pigs and at the end of the day they didn't get what they wanted so they were going to act childish about it. I would file a report with the local police station so if anything were to ever happen in the future it was on record.

 

Agreed with alena report it for the police as sexual and physical intimidation/threatening

 

Beauty about being a wog in a large family, call up the cousins, litterly.

But nah I'm kind of crazy if I was in your spot I'd just find out what college/work they go to send them fake texts to meet up at a place and proberly leave them there to rot after you pour a bucket full of acid on them. That's just me. I hate dicks in general