Moving and First Move.

ignitiion · Nov 19, 2011

Well, thanks to all of you guys who answered my previous question, such geniuses you guys are(; anyhow.. I took you guy's advice and got proactive about being very proactive with being confident around girls, and managed to meet a really amazing girl in the process.
So I went about the matter of getting to know her, and then I figured out that I would be moving across the country at the end of the year, so, that presents the question: with the remaining time left here(about 8 months), should I try to date the girl, or knowing my time restraint, should I just wait to move and avoid what could go wrong. I just don't want to feel like I met someone great, and get attached, and then get totally broken.
Assuming that I should go after her, what should be the "first move", as I have no idea what to do. I'm generally already flirty, but I don't know how to take it up a notch.. Thanks in advance!

r3dm0nk3y · Nov 19, 2011

Well don't try to get TOO into each other . Let her know that you're moving if you haven't already told her . The reason why I say not to get too involved with each other , such as being 'in love' is because of the fact that when you move it'll be a heartbreaking event and it might even damage her . She can take it so badly that she'll become insecure about herself . Just wait until the right moment and look into each other's eyes , and move in slowly to kiss her . After that see what happens from there . Hope I've helped you in any way .

ignitiion · Nov 19, 2011

Thanks for the answer, just what I was looking for! Great advice, I'll see how it goes over. Thanks again

r3dm0nk3y · Nov 20, 2011

No problem man , I just don't like seeing people and any type of relationship they're in go down . I've got it bad too =\

No Scammers! · Nov 22, 2011

Dont get accustomed to somebody too quick to soon....all im saying.

Fall · Nov 22, 2011

That really sucks man. You should just make the best out of it for the 8 months you can spend with her, and on the last month you should just break it to her. It wouldn't really be a problem going into a relationship with her, but you shouldn't consider in making it extremely special since you're moving across the country. Good luck!

r3dm0nk3y · Nov 22, 2011

Fall said:
That really sucks man. You should just make the best out of it for the 8 months you can spend with her, and on the last month you should just break it to her. It wouldn't really be a problem going into a relationship with her, but you shouldn't consider in making it extremely special since you're moving across the country. Good luck!

It would infact be a problem if he gets into something with her then 8 months into it all he tells her he's moving . That will crush her , possibly leaving her broken , causing her to feel insecure , looking for love and caring in all of the wrong places . . . .

Fall · Nov 23, 2011

r3dm0nk3y said:
It would infact be a problem if he gets into something with her then 8 months into it all he tells her he's moving . That will crush her , possibly leaving her broken , causing her to feel insecure , looking for love and caring in all of the wrong places . . . .

Yeah i've thought of that. Thats why I said don't make the relationship too special, haha. It's better to be in a relationship with her than some other guy, am I right?

IMsoggi · Nov 23, 2011

People that get emotionally attatched to things in life easily are the ones that get upset the easiest as well.

r3dm0nk3y · Nov 23, 2011

Fall said:
Yeah i've thought of that. Thats why I said don't make the relationship too special, haha. It's better to be in a relationship with her than some other guy, am I right?

Well yeah , you've got a firm point there =)

Fall · Nov 24, 2011

IMsoggi said:
People that get emotionally attatched to things in life easily are the ones that get upset the easiest as well.

I actually agree on this, I really do get upset that easily.
But everything is up to him if he'd want to be in a relationship with her or not. Choose wisely.

Dave · Nov 24, 2011

The time restraint will become a huge problem. It's going to make things very difficult, you should try and go for mabye a hook up or friend with benefits, but don't date. You'll get attached and the move will be hell.