Men's Magazines vs. Rapists

[xOneDown]

http://jezebel.com/5866602/can-you-tell-the-difference-between-a-mens-magazine-and-a-rapist

Many of the rapists quoted in the study talked about coercing women or having sex with them even though they were initially unwilling. However, so did the lad mags. Horvath says, "Rapists try to justify their actions, suggesting that women lead men on, or want sex even when they say no, and there is clearly something wrong when people feel the sort of language used in a lads' mag could have come from a convicted rapist." A lot of these stereotypes — that women say no when they really mean yes, or are "asking for it" by going out with a man or wearing a short skirt — have indeed been normalized, and it's sad but not surprising that they appear in a lot of lad mags. Defenders of such statements like to frame them as innocent, or even helpful, observations. But perhaps the news that they sound just like rapists will make people — and magazines — rethink their words.

That's pretty disgusting. Do you guys read these kinds of magazines? Honestly, I found a lot of the quotes from the rapists to be much more settling than the quotes from the magazines.

Is this a bad thing or just the natural state of the mind of today's men?

 

[kill dank]

Usually it's true. I feel like women practically ask to get raped by the way they dress. If I walk around carrying a bag of crack out in the open, and I walk past a crack head, chances are he's gonna try to get it.

 

[Sypherz]

Good analogy.
That is all I have to say.
Also, rape is bad.

 

[Divine_God]

Usually it's true. I feel like women practically ask to get raped by the way they dress. If I walk around carrying a bag of crack out in the open, and I walk past a crack head, chances are he's gonna try to get it.

No one is asking to get raped, however you look at it.

I understand the flaunting of their body's but NO ONE says FORCIBLY HAVE SEX WITH ME WITHOUT MY PERMISSION.

Women do use their sexual attractiveness as a tool of power over men, but NEVER is rape acceptable.

 

[Hexium]

I agree with kill, showing off their panties/thongs under tight clothing in plain sight. (I see this everyday)

 

[K-3-V-1-N]

Feminist bullshit. I could go through all the statements individually to show how they're acceptable, but that's too many. Here are the only ones that were unacceptable. If you find another one you think is unacceptable, post it and I'll tell you why I think it's okay.

7. You know girls in general are all right. But some of them are bitches . . . The bitches are the type that . . . need to have it stuffed to them hard and heavy.

By a rapist.

12. You do not want to be caught red-handed . . . go and smash her on a park bench. That used to be my trick.

Is "smash" English for fucking? Or is it saying smash her head on a park bench? If it's the former, it's alright, and if it's the latter it isn't. From a lad mag.

14. I think if a law is passed, there should be a dress code . . . When girls dress in those short skirts and things like that, they're just asking for it.

A forced dress code isn't right, and even though women dress like sluts doesn't mean it's okay to rape them. But still, this one is from a rapist.

 

[thatguy1234]

i think some things that were said were true. the magazine seemed like they were trying too hard to get women, like wannabees. you can see the difference between the context of the statements from both parties. the rapists said some things to express themselves but it was just them being themselves and saying how they do their thing. but the magazine seemed like they were trying too hard to say something and being over vulgar like they didnt know what they were talking about and just put stuff that they though would be relative to the topic rather than what they truly felt.

but raping is no way acceptable no matter how much a person exposes themselves they are never asked to be raped. personally i dont see a purpose in raping someone, you can always fap or be a trick and get a prostitute if you need sex that bad. but im not a rapist so i wouldnt know how they feel, maby they do it for the thrill .

 

[Reem]

I agree that someone girls do what "ask for it" But when groups of men go around single targeting young girls/adults. It's just wrong. They should have the book thrown at them. I understand there's mixed opinions. But It shouldn't happen in modern day society.

Nice article.
-Reem

 

[Ivy Bridge]

There's no morally justifiable reason for rape, but I do feel that a lot of women don't realize what they're doing when they say/do the things they do. I have NEVER known a woman to be forthcoming about her feelings, and many DO in fact use their "assets" as a means to control the men around them. I like kill dank's example, except in these cases it's more like walking right up to a crackhead, asking if he wants the crack, but never giving it to him.. then the process repeats endlessly. Sooner or later you'll run into a more crazy crackhead who will resort to physically removing the crack from your possession.

I'd never try to have sex with a girl who was very obviously not interested. A lot of times, girls will say pretty much exactly opposite of what they really want. Hence every time I ask my girlfriend what she wants to do or what she wants to watch on TV, I get the typical "I don't know", which is woman language for Teen Mom or something. The magazines really aren't in the wrong because a lot of what they are saying is true. It's just the extremists who take it literally to mean that every time she says "no" she means "yes" that gives the whole thing a bad image.

 

[kill dank]

There's no morally justifiable reason for rape, but I do feel that a lot of women don't realize what they're doing when they say/do the things they do. I have NEVER known a woman to be forthcoming about her feelings, and many DO in fact use their "assets" as a means to control the men around them. I like kill dank's example, except in these cases it's more like walking right up to a crackhead, asking if he wants the crack, but never giving it to him.. then the process repeats endlessly. Sooner or later you'll run into a more crazy crackhead who will resort to physically removing the crack from your possession.

I'd never try to have sex with a girl who was very obviously not interested. A lot of times, girls will say pretty much exactly opposite of what they really want. Hence every time I ask my girlfriend what she wants to do or what she wants to watch on TV, I get the typical "I don't know", which is woman language for Teen Mom or something. The magazines really aren't in the wrong because a lot of what they are saying is true. It's just the extremists who take it literally to mean that every time she says "no" she means "yes" that gives the whole thing a bad image.

Excellent point. You said what I was trying to say, only better. I think the main thing to take out is that women need to realize what they're doing. Even though it may be unintentional, they can't say they don't carry some of the blame if they're provocative and get raped.

 

[PubStar Life]

Usually it's true. I feel like women practically ask to get raped by the way they dress. If I walk around carrying a bag of crack out in the open, and I walk past a crack head, chances are he's gonna try to get it.

I don't think how someone dresses can really be related to their likelihood of being a victim of rape. That is just an ignorant statement, honestly, the saying 'guns don't kill people, people kill people' is easily applied to this situation.

Girls don't dress up in skirts asking to be raped. Rapist Rape, it has nothing to do with how a women is dressed. Honestly you should think about what you say before you come off sounding like a super ignorant jackass.