Sexuality

First of all, I just want to start off saying I LOVE having sex with men but I can only truly ever love a women? I don't know if this means I'm gay, bi, curious or whatever. Like I have only ever loved women in my life but I never dare of having sex with women but only feel comfortable about having sex with men and wanking to gay porn?

Could someone tell me if this is a phase, I'm 17.

 

A question for you... Have you ever actually had sex with a woman?

For now I'd say you're gay and confused about it. Have you told anyone that you're gay?

 

It's very common for people around your age to be curious. You don't have to label yourself as gay, straight or bisexual, just do what you feel is right. You might change your mind, you might not, doesn't make a difference.

If you want my opinion, I think you're just curious, if you don't feel you can really love a man.

 

As said above, 17 is an age where most teenagers are confused about their sexuality as they are just starting to experiment things like sex.

From what I read, right now I would consider you gay? With no intentions to offend. If you enjoy having sex with men and you're still confused, then I'd suggest going out with some women to see if your feelings change

 

@Shoop : Thing is I haven't TOLD anyone I'm gay, not one person on this earth that I know well e.g family, friends, etc.

@RwmRS2 : The labels are what make it so difficult because at the end of the day, you fall under one of those categories right, so it makes you think.

@Interegate : I've been out with so many girls but the thing is (this relates to Shoops question too) when it did get serious, they would offer me things like sex, etc which would pleasure any other man but I would break up with them and my cover for breaking up with them was that they were a slut which stopped me getting any verbal abuse, etc from guys calling me a pussy or scared. But no I haven't had sex with a women (I just find it wrong) BUT I can only love a women, weird..

 

So you have had sex with Another guy?
As of now I would say your more bi than anything. There is no shame in being gay or bi. Be yourself, after all, those are just titles and mean nothing about the kind of person you are.



Edit: also, sexuality is hardly ever a phase. You are born the way you are

 

Sounds like you're gay but feel that you're trapped if you get me, have you told anyone?

 

Do you live in a family that is strongly against homosexuality? You might think you couldn't love a man because you would disappoint your parents? Idk, just a thought

 

Can be. A lot of teens have wandering thoughts about people of the same gender, males and females. It's totally normal.

 

If you are breaking up with women by insulting them, it doesn't really sound like you truly want to love them...

 

Well not quite at that age are people still confused, I cant say i know exactly what your going through but im gay and im 20. At the age of 17 I was in love with having sex with men but I was in love with a women its quite confusing but not so if you think about it, I always had dreams of getting married and having kids and all of that stuff but I knew I couldnt stay on the same track and be happy. Soon in life its going to get to the point where you have to make a choice does a man make you happy or does a women. Your going to have to put your life in prospective to set up for your future, you cannot always be a man whore but Love women in the same aspect you cant stay in love with women and have sex with men. Sexual activities bring feeling/Love into things and this is where the most confusion comes in are you actually in love with men or just the sex, now with women do you love sex with women or are you just in love with the human aspect of every man there is a women and for every women there is a man. You really have to do some soul searching to figure out what you want in life, and its possible going to be one of the hardest decisions in your life.

Now with all that being said here are the 2 options and it was laid out in my mentality.

Being with a guy:

The world is basically against you, you will lose friends in this process and go through a phase where you will basically hate yourself because you tend to let everything that other people say to you get to your head and make you feel bad about everything you do and because you are in love with men. People are going to judge you that just how the world is. Now weather you let that hinder you is your own decision its the choice you made and you have to deal with it. Now there is also a good part to being with a man. Well first if thats what you want to do you will be happy also you will have a common goal in life. Prove others wrong men can also make men happy.

Being with a women:

Well there are loads of things I can tell you good about being with a women, Kids, family, friends, no one hates you all these things are good, but in my opinion men hold more of a bind that a women, i believe its harder for a man to love than a women and the binds are harder to break, Saying it takes about 50% effort to be with a women because its the way of the world. It takes about 150% of effort to be with a man because of the things you will go through and things you have to put behind you and stick it out together because its not the way of the world.

Well man its all your choice most likely if you are in love with having sex with men but you love women it will be hard for to you linger to one side because sex is mostly confused with love and comparability. Basically saying if you are in a relationship with a women and you tell her you love her but your having sex with a man most likely your actually leaning more toward the man because its something of spontaneousness and its what you want and feel you need.


Actually I would love to hear more about what you are going through maybe chat on skype or something it kinda feel like you are going through exactly what I was going through when I was 17.

 

Sounds like your still in the un-label-able-curious-stage. Do you care if your gay? Love can come in all shapes and sizes, you'll be able to love a man, you only think you can only love a woman because of the way socieity constrains our brains to think and feel like that. You've never seen an ad where the husband yells to his OTHER husband to get him a beer instead of the wife, its just natural and instinctive you feel like you should be with a girl but if your deep down true feelings are only being sexually attracted to guys and you don't find women attractive sexually at all, then your probably gay. Is it really that big of an issue? I hope you make up your mind after your teenager years and after you've experimented around a bit because i've heard stories on Tyra a few years back about Gay men who are completely homophobic and they feel that your not a man if your masculine and they set dates for themselves to brainwash themselves straight. There are even,sadly, some closeted gay people who are married to women simply because they don't want to embaress themselves around society and thier family so they meet a nice girl, settle down and have kids. It's really sad and i hope you don't enter any long-term loveless relationships just because you feel you should only fall in love with a women.

 

I think you should be bi. Have you even thought to have sex with a woman? Do you have that feelings on woman? Do you want to have sex with woman? If yes, then you are a bi, if no, then you are gay.

 

Ill also link you here:

http://www.sythe.org/personal-support/1518834-my-life.html

 

I'll be honest with you, I've had a "gay" phase for a 2 month period. I can relate, and my passed. I'm not sure it will come back or not, but if you are wanting to change this about you, find something that replaces the urge for men. Personally speaking, be who you are though.

 

I think you are gay your just trying to fit into what society wants you to your so used to the idea of liking a girl being god you dont wanna let go of that do YOU man if your gay dont hide it cause its not gonna change

 

In my honest opinion, there is a HUGE difference between...being CURIOUS about sexuality, and actually being Bi, streight, or gay.

If it's what you feel is right now, then do it, don't think twice about it, because that's just going back on yourself, be who you want to be and don't try to be something you aren't.

Later down on the road, if you still enjoy having sex with guys, then you have your answer, but if you start having interest in women then go from there.

If you haven't had sex with a girl yet, maybe try it and see how you feel about it? if it's something you don't ever want to do again, don't,

Good luck

 

Honestly, just do what feels right and come natural and don't let people sway you from being whom you are.

 

You are just curious and nothing more,doesn't even matter...if you wanna have sex with men do it, if u wanna taste a fine lady,do it ( with consent ). Can't say i understand you,sorry, but that doesn't even matter haha.
Good luck finding yourself.

 

You're gay, you may believe a man should only love a women but that's because the people around you, that should be giving you support have most likely drilled your head with homophobic garbage. If you're scared to come out, that's normal if you already have came out good for you. Don't deny yourself happiness because you feel like you should live someone else's beliefs because they're not yours.