Girlfriend shit. lol..

So I've been with this girl for nearly 4 months. Its been relatively good, then I messed up. But that's not important. Though, recently she and I have been distant. I think its because of stress with school, her brother comming for holidays, and the surgery I got her to take (tonsils, she was deathly afraid). All of which happens within the next 3 weeks.

I don't know... She even noticed I was on edge and stuff. I don't think she has done anything against me. Oi, she still wears the bracelets she made us, which to her symbolized a promise to work together after I messed up for is both to work on our issues.

Its annoying me. I feel distant from her.. Even the past week I was doing a like status thing on Facebook but it made her mad since I commented about my ex being pretty, whom also is trying to mess us up. So I stopped talking to her. And won't. She said she was over it but I know she was lying.

What should I do.. I know she loves me and wants to strengthen our relationship...

Help? D:

 

TBH I'm probably not the best person to take advice from but I really think just try to spend more time with her and try to be less distant, give her alot of attention will make her feel alot better

 

Yeah according to my inside girl, aka, my girlfriends best friend. She is upset cause of the like stays thing and me not paying attention to her emotions. Which I really need to since she has a lot of stress now. I guess I really need to be there for her and pay attention to her..

I love this bitch, yo.

 

How you messed up is relative. If you cannot tell us [people you'll never meet] then how can you handle this problem?

Talk to her, communication ends distance, period.

 

Okay well she was pretty much avoiding me and I called her out on it. Because I was upset with it. And it led to a fight and I brought her past against her and how she compared me to her exes after they abused her. Sexually mentally and physically. I'm not them I can't hurt a women. We've has sex and some slot but still. I called her out and used that against her.

In the end we broke up and a week later she came to me saying her head was clouded from her past and because it was the 2 year mark since she was.. raped I guess you could say. So she made the bracelets as our promise to work on issues to avoid that happening again. The fight. And to work out issues.

It was both of our faults but I lit the fire with words.

 

Women are highly emotional and complex creatures, whereas men are usually quite a bit more simple and straightforward. Although some of the things she gets upset about may seem a little ridiculous to you, for example liking the wrong thing on facebook, on some level this probably somehow means a lot to her and that is why she is upset.

You also noted that she is going through some stressful things in her life right now, and just like any other human being, this is likely to rub off on you in one way or another. I know that when my girlfriend was moody it used to annoy me sometimes and I wouldn't really want to be around her - but maybe by being more attentive towards her feelings and talking about how she feels and trying to cheer her up, will help her see that you are making an effort to pay attention to her emotions and support her while she is going through whatever it is she may be dealing with.

As for the feeling of distance - that has got to be one of the worst feelings ever when you love somebody yet you feel like there is just this invisible gap creeping in between you. Don't let that happen bro, the best way to combat that distance is to communicate with her as much as possible. Stay close, talk about how you guys are feeling, talk openly about your relationship and things that are going well and things that maybe are not going so well. Spend lots of time togoether doing fun things and just work on closing that gap in between you.

It sounds like your girlfriend may have some deep issues that she carried on from her previous relationships. You can help her get over these things by gradually earning her trust and showing her that you genuinely care for her and are someone that she can go to when she needs somebody to talk & share her feelings with.

Good luck bro! Women are so fucking strange sometimes so I feel your pain.

 

You messed up, she'll probably always hold that card against you.

But yeah, stress will bring people apart, just have to show her that when she is with you she needs to relax a little bit.

 

Tip: Don't call your girlfriend your "bitch"

You can't love someone if you're going to say I love this bitch.

Just spend more time with her, hang out with her more, and actually have fun/want to hang out. Don't just do it for her. If you're not having fun or want to be there, you're not in love or want to be with her.

If you do have problems and fight, focus on what's going on and don't just get mad and start yelling random shit.

 

Problem number 1, you just called her a bitch. That probably has some something to do with it. But besides that try to be more open and available if she wants to talk.

 

We'll first off I don't think we have the whole story...

You said she compared you to her exe's who sexually abused her? That's pretty harsh for just a small fight. Did you touch her against her consent?