Putting my life together.

Hey, my name is Gilles. I'm now 19 years old and I'm trying to put my life together. Everything I got in my life so far has been gifted to me, I have no motivation to do anything in life. I have dreams and I have goals but they stay dreams and they stay goals because I don't have any dedication or motivation.

I will be graduating this year, I've studied something that was way to easy for me but I didn't do better because I've never studied, I can't remember a time where I've studied more than 1 or 2 hours. I want to go to college not here (Belgium) but I'd like to study elsewhere America/Canada that's one of my dreams. Planning on getting my TOEFL next year and trying to get a scholarship so I can move out.

When I was younger I used to play football and I was good at it, I got scouted by Ajax when I was 8 but before they actually got back to me I fell off a balcony at my aunt and had to recover for a long time.. after I recovered I never got to it anymore... I also would like to play football again, but again I never get to it.

I also never got a job and I would really like to gain some money, any suggestions?

I'm extremely skinny and I want to gain weight before I actually going to play football for a club again problem is I dont know anything about nutrition and stuff so if there is anybody that could help me with that, that would be great. I guess I'm just looking for some motivation. I don't know why I am like this, I want to achieve things but I never get to them because I am lazy or always find excuses not to do something.



Sorry if there are any spelling mistakes in the above.

Gilles

 

Hey bud, sounds like you're wanting to change but just don't quite know how to. This is something I've experienced myself, and have helped a few people through. What I generally recommend tends to work wonders if you put your heart into it, so here goes:

I highly recommend you just get out there. Do something new: anything. Ever wanted to try rock climbing but never had the courage? Search up a local place and give it a shot. Ever wanted to try kayaking/canoeing but never found the time? Go out and try it. Point is, if there has ever been something that you've wanted to do, but for one reason or another have not, now is the time in your life to do it. You're 19 and in the prime of your life, why not simply try new things? An example that really helped me: I was 16 and isolated. I'd be on the computer all day every day. I had little to no social life, and wasn't really headed anywhere. I was getting a 2.5 GPA average and not headed in any particular direction. I wanted to change, and I did. I went out and tried to play a couple sports. I learned how to kayak which I love to occasionally do on weekends. I also met a few guys in a class and tried out for an ultimate frisbee team. Next thing I know, I'm in love with the sport and playing at the collegiate level. You never know what life has in store for you, you just need to go out and explore it.

As for gaining weight, it sounds like weightlifting is where you'll want to head. There is a section for that on Sythe which you can post threads and discuss in, I'll link it below:


http://www.sythe.org/sports-health-fitness/

 

Hey, thanks for your advice I can relate, I'm pretty much isolated myself didn't know how I got this way previous year I was going out much, I had many friends but I lost touch with most of them.

I'm going to move to The Netherlands soon where I don't know anybody. So I guess that gives me a chance to go out and try new things .