Is sex THAT important?

It's as important as the individual couple perceives it to be.

Some couples classify as "asexual", while others engage in sexual activities multiple times per day. Everyone has different needs.

We can't assume that everyone wants the exact same things from a relationship, therefore it can only be determined on an individual basis.

That being said, couples that have a "healthy" sex life, where both partners' needs are being met, are usually more successful when it comes to their relationship.

 

[Ganja Scape]

Scientificly yes its needed to ensure the reproduction and survival of our human race and lets not lie it dosent feel to bad either. The grey area is where does sex begin and making love end? I believe individuals of a higher intellegence see both love and sex as only needs at the core. Emotions and feelings are just part of ones ego, but this is going down the rabbit hole further than what you asked so lol.

 

[Strong]

No it's not, hence the virgins on here lol

 

[TribalAIO]

It's very important in a relationship, I find that if I don't interact with my partner "on that" level for 2-3 days, I feel like a dark cloud of gloom is surrounding me; I just don't operate correctly. It honestly depends on how much release it gives you, not ejaculate, mentally and muscles. If you wait til after marriage, it really is like a scratch-off. Some people don't mind if they're not compatible, they just love the person so much it makes it good. But, some people can't connect unless they're compatible. Depends on the person =)

 

Its really a personal preference some people can maintain a relationship without having sex and some do it 24/7 =D

 

Haha the common stereotype of fucking on the first date. If she does it, shes definitely just a fling.

I kinda disagree. I mean yes often that's the case, because it's often pure sexually. But I have been with a girl recently who I had sex with on the first date, but just because our connection felt good, our mindset was on the same level I guess. Ended up dating her for a few months and now broken up, but still not broken up due to the fact that we had sex on the first date or whatever. She only had sex with 2 other guys before aswell, which in my personal experience is quite rare these days.

And regarding OP's question. Yes sex is that important, it shows love apprecation and attraction to one another. Obviously it shouldn't only be about sex though, it's just kinda a big critical factor.

 

[Tuxedo]

Absolutely without it, for me anyway, It would not be a relationship.

 

Absolutely.
Now, its definitely my opinion
(or genetic code)
But sex is SUPER important to me.

There is a good book out there for relationships, Its called "The 5 love languages"
By Gary Chapman.
The book dives into how each person, man or women, recieves love.

Each person see's and recieves love differently from one another, so its important to know what "language" your partner speaks.

With that being said, the 5 languages are:
1. Words of affirmation
2. Physical touch
3. Acts of service
4. Recieving gifts
5. Quality time

Now here's the reason for my diving into this:
Each person has usually two primary langauges that they recieve and feel love from (they can have more, but usually its two primary)
The reason SOME people -including myself- might believe or feel that sex is a MAJOR make or break deal, is because of their language.

I myself feel loved primarily from:
Words of affirmation & Physical touch.
I literally feel unloved if my girlfriend and I go long periods of time
without having sex.
Now, this can be due to my genetic code/the way I was raised/ etc.

I feel as if you were curious whether or not Sex is important to your siginificant other, you and her should take the test together.
Its always best to know how to show love to the person you are wanting to be with.

You can find/take the test here:
http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/couples/

 

[dbowkillsu]

I myself belive that sex is not fully needed but it will help strengthen your whole relationship or it might break it you never know but if both off you guys fell that you guys don't have the need for sex or are waiting till you guys meet your goals like your career, or anything off that sort then i believe you both should be fine with your relationship, i think that if both off you guys have somewhat the same aspirations it also helps make the relationship bond super strong because a lot off people have that need or want someoen to listen to them just be there to get that comfort

 

[Biaootch]

I think its really important to have sex with your partner. It helps you and your partner feel closer to each other.

 

[Lvl 75 Def]

It's very important in my opinion, intimacy in any way is. I also think i'd be very frustrated if my partner would want to abstain from having sex. It's a basic need and it's healthy for a relationship.

 

Sex determines our existence, so I believe it is vital to us as humans. Some like it more than others, but I'm sure anyone can find a good companion somewhere

 

No sex is not impotent at all to me anyway,
It really depends on the person,
for me it's not impotent due to me not having sex myself to such late age (15) than not having sex for long period after that (19) in them 4 years I had few girl friend never did anything with them as I didn't find it impotent.

Sex is over rated -.- , unless it's with some one you love.

(In past year and half by sex life has been very active now that I'm 21 , I find girls in college to be super horney for some reason)

 

[Scapian]

Yes sex is basically the main reason of being in a relationship personally anyway. It helps do so many good things to your body for example release stress, increase self esteem and many more amazing things you would never think of by having sex weekly and often, just google it.

But i can give you a tip if you have never had sex before.

Try and have it with another virgin which makes it so much more comfortable and relaxing when actually doing it. If your a male and your doing it with a first timer then its probable not going to be the best experience for you but once the girl gets more comfortable and loosens up a bit (literally) you will both enjoy it allot more. This is the case with me anyway when i was 15.

 

[5yeezy]

I think that it is the most crucial point of a relationship, but depending on religion and some couple's beliefs, they might have abstinence till marriage or something of the sort

 

[Subsonic GFX]

It's more like: chances are that she has shagged a fair amount of men before you and might shag someone a few weeks later after getting drunk at a party

this is why i don't have a girlfriend every girl now days have shagged more than 10 people haha.

 

[Diamond Apple]

It's very important in my opinion, intimacy in any way is. I also think i'd be very frustrated if my partner would want to abstain from having sex. It's a basic need and it's healthy for a relationship.

This ^

 

[Shredderbeam]

this is why i don't have a girlfriend every girl now days have shagged more than 10 people haha.

What's wrong with that?

 

[whydontyouhaveaseat]

To keep it short and simple, yes.