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Short intro:

My name is Shawn, I'm male, 20 years old and live in Belgium.
Was a highschool drop-out on the age of 18, currently in my last year after being a drop-out. I realised I really needed to finish highschool.

So what do I need help with? Let me explain that to you.

I've had a lot of relationships, most of them didn't turn out quite good, let's say I really have commited myself to 1 out of the 20 girls I've been with, what I mean with this is that I've only been in love once. All of this was inbetween the age of 16 up till 19.

As of today, I've been single since april 2012, which is almost 2 years. I really feel that I am out of the game and for some reason I feel alot more insecure than I used to be when I think about talking to her. I do not have any difficulties talking to other women when I go out, this is one of the factors that makes me aware of me starting to love her. Another thing is that when I'm listening to Justin Timberlake or anything she always comes in mind. Fuck my life.

The reason for my posting

I think I'm slowly falling in love with this girl from my school, she's only been here from this year but I knew her beforehand as she always used to wait for the bus at a busstop that my bus passed by. I didn't knew her name back then. Now I do know her name and have her added on facebook ever since.

She used to have a boyfriend, they've been together for about 5-6 months (I'm not exactly sure but pictures, statusses etc gave me this conclusion).

Okay now for the weird part, the day that I noticed that her relationship status had been removed, was on the same night that I had dreamed about her, is this coinsidence? I haven't really had dreams about girls for let's say a couple of months/year. I cannot really remember any of my other dreams about girls.

I do not know if she is aware of my existance, we've had eyecontact a couple of time from a distance (pass eachother trough the gate maybe). I've been liking her pictures/statusses ever since (not all of them, I don't wanna look like a creep). What has let me down has that she's never liked any shit of me. I don't know if she is doing this on purpose because I'm quite popular/funny/goodlooking guy on school and facebook (selfpromote op). So Sythe I'm asking you what do I do, at the moment right now I'm way too ashamed to go and talk to her because I'm scared of what her friends will think about me.
Edit: I've never ever talked to her in real life, Facebook, or whatever ... Which makes me 100% sure she knows nothing of this.

Also what I noticed today is that she hasn't really removed any of her profile pictures with her boyfriend, I'm guessing this means she isn't really getting over the break-up or something or she is hoping for a renewal of their relationship, right now I'm fucking clueless. And honestly it's been killing me for 2-3 weeks now.

What do you suggest me to do? I really need your opinions

This is her
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This is her and her (ex)-boyfriend
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This is my most recent picture
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Can I firstly say, and I mean this in a really honest way.

You sound like a huge douche. You should work on that, you know, the whole "I'm really cool" thing just wreaks of High School and nobody cares.

I don't know why you felt the need to tell us how many chicks you had sex with, blahblahblahblah. More boasting here, then you tell us.

You fell in love with a girl you've never talked too, expect her to comment on things from a superficial aspect. Listen dude, you find her hot. You don't love her, you didn't just magically "dream" one day. You're just infatuated with a girl.

This honestly made me cringe, dude is talking about how he has no problem talking to girls yet hasn't talked to her and says he's falling for her.
 
Ow 3 Hit said:
Can I firstly say, and I mean this in a really honest way.

You sound like a huge douche. You should work on that, you know, the whole "I'm really cool" thing just wreaks of High School and nobody cares.

I don't know why you felt the need to tell us how many chicks you had sex with, blahblahblahblah. More boasting here, then you tell us.

You fell in love with a girl you've never talked too, expect her to comment on things from a superficial aspect. Listen dude, you find her hot. You don't love her, you didn't just magically "dream" one day. You're just infatuated with a girl.

This honestly made me cringe, dude is talking about how he has no problem talking to girls yet hasn't talked to her and says he's falling for her.
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First of all, let me tell you that you are a fucking dick.
I have never mentioned that I'm cool, I just said that i'm "quite popular, etc".

Also I didn't say anything about how many female I've had sex with, you really need to go and see an optician you twat.

I don't need people to bring me down, I tried explaining as good as I could what kind of momentum I'm having right now.
 
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I would start talking to her first to see if there is any connection
 
You haven't fallen in love, you have a crush. how can you fall in love with someone you don't know? Just because she is beautiful or pretty or something doesn't mean that you are "in love." You need to talk to her. Just talking at first, then get her number and text then ask her to hang out, ect ect ect. If you have been with 20 women I trust you know the schedule!

Just be open about yourself with her and such, she'll appreciate it.
 
IRL Seller said:
You haven't fallen in love, you have a crush. how can you fall in love with someone you don't know? Just because she is beautiful or pretty or something doesn't mean that you are "in love." You need to talk to her. Just talking at first, then get her number and text then ask her to hang out, ect ect ect. If you have been with 20 women I trust you know the schedule!

Just be open about yourself with her and such, she'll appreciate it.
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Might be a crush, I think it is love, but that might just be me as I haven't felt this in 3-4 years
 
Well by the look of this I can tell you probably think you would match with her because you consider yourself better-looking than his ex. (this is just a possible fact - His ex does look a bit fucked up)

Just add her on facebook, if you haven't already, and talk to her.
I was at work today and we were talking about this type of things, I told them that I, myself, wouldnt go ahead and add or talk to a girl who I dont know (I have been in a relation for almost 2 years now so maybe thats why). But most of the guys there told me that most of their past relations were for randomly talking to a girl, one said like "Yeah I explained the girl I was bored at work so I started talking to her", and it actually worked.
 
I'd say gtfo facebook and get in touch with her. You can stawk her for whatever time you want, she doesn't give a shit about it. This is what makes me so angry at some people and their social media shit.
Its not the fact that "She's on a relationship" on facebook that determines if she actually is, or that fact that she has picks with other guys that makes her date that person. Facebook is a load of bullscrap. You can stawk her whatever you like, know any and everything about her, but in the end, what does she know about you? Nothing.
In the meantime, while she has become your obsession, and I mean obsession in a good way, you're just a stranger. Also this could have bad repercussions in the future.

Imagine that you actually get to talk to her, and while she's just getting to know you, you already know a shit tone of stuff about her, so she's going to feel unconfortable about that when she tells you stuff and you unconsciously say "i know that".

Also, don't take someone as what you see on the front-end. People can show to be one thing and then be another completly diferent when you get to know them. Who knows you might not even like the girl........

TL;DR -> Log out of facebook, Log in to life. Go talk to her.
 
MineMarkPT said:
I'd say gtfo facebook and get in touch with her. You can stawk her for whatever time you want, she doesn't give a shit about it. This is what makes me so angry at some people and their social media shit.
Its not the fact that "She's on a relationship" on facebook that determines if she actually is, or that fact that she has picks with other guys that makes her date that person. Facebook is a load of bullscrap. You can stawk her whatever you like, know any and everything about her, but in the end, what does she know about you? Nothing.
In the meantime, while she has become your obsession, and I mean obsession in a good way, you're just a stranger. Also this could have bad repercussions in the future.

Imagine that you actually get to talk to her, and while she's just getting to know you, you already know a shit tone of stuff about her, so she's going to feel unconfortable about that when she tells you stuff and you unconsciously say "i know that".

Also, don't take someone as what you see on the front-end. People can show to be one thing and then be another completly diferent when you get to know them. Who knows you might not even like the girl........

TL;DR -> Log out of facebook, Log in to life. Go talk to her.
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Thank you for your time, I will consider what you wrote to me :)
 
Hey man, I've got to say that I think your hot (no homo) first of all, if you think she can't get over her ex, then try to comfort and support her. She'll need it, tell her that you're there for her if she needs to talk, this'll show her that she can rely on you, not on her ex as he broke her heart. Let a couple of days go and tell it to her face. Try to be romantic NOT CHEESY. Even if she does say no, then carry on supporting her. She'll see that you don't hold grudges and you're a sweet guy and your more than the 'popular kid'.

Don't try to rush it or you'll sound desperate. Gl mate
 
Uhh there is only one thing you can do. Talk to her? Talk to her on Facebook or person. You're not going to get anywhere with her when she doesn't even know who you are.

And definitely don't tell her you love her lol or anything about how you feel. Just talk to her, try to build a relationship, and see where it goes from there. Also liking her pictures on Facebook means absolutely nothing. She isn't going to just like your stuff back when she still doesn't know who you are. Just send her a message already. It's not hard man.
 
Hey there,

Very common situation my friend :)

I'd say, Start a Facebook chat when she upload a new picture or status. Ask her if she remembers you. If she says yes then just start talking about random things you might have in common. ( Or just talk about the status or picture she posted ).

For example, If she uploaded the dog picture, You'd be like :

Is that your dog? , I wish I had a dog like that , Do you like dogs?

Or I like the way you painted your nails, Do you always have it like that?

Show interest in small things, Especially things that she has different from other girls, For example don't start talking about eyeliner as 90% of girls wear that. Talk about her rings for example ( You know best ).

From appearance you could go over to hobby's. And with a little efford, You might get the conversation to land on the ''going out'' subject. Talk about clubs you visit regularly or places you and your friends go often. Then you can either tell her you should go together with friends sometime ( to make it less like a date ) That way you might get closer to her. If she doesn't want this. At least you know places where she usually goes. ( If you want you can ''accidentally'' meet her there.

If for some reason you can't or don't want to go in that much dept yet. Talk about her boyfriend. Be like,

I see you have a boyfriend :) ( She will either confirm this or tell you it's difficult ). ( Do not talk bad about her (ex)Boyfriend. Instead, Just tell her he looks like a nice guy.

And then when you feel like the conversation is dying, You can end it with saying I'm going to have dinner/eat something :) Nice talking to you. We should stay in touch ( If you feel like she's the type that wants that. You can sense it throughout the conversation ).

Now just start those random chats now and then. Maybe ask for her number sometime. And when the time comes you can meet with a group of friends etc etc. You go from there :)

Best of luck mate,

If you feel like you're in love with her do not just give up. ( Also the boyfriend thing is a pretty good situation for you. Girl seem to fix boy problems with boys a lot ;) )

Demonic
 
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