i am quite unstable minded and seek advice

basically i had an amazing girlfriend who done everything for me we had a baby and time went on we splitt a few times and she went with another lad i took her back gratefull for her to be there as time gone past w eargued alot and now we split again my sons now 16 month she kicked me out i stayed out and shes gone out on the weekend and i phoned her she was with another lad i dont know if anything happened but i automatically went mad and kicke off i got a restarining order now for 3 months 30th jan i really dont know what to do or what my options are or if she even still likes me because we have a strange bond together one minute we want each other the next we dont its a mad relationship but yeah i need some advice on what to do and where to go from here i dont have any where to live and im staying atm ates lifes at a low point reeally

 

Forget about her.. Just look after your kid if you love him/her. Stay at your mates and get yourself a job if you haven't got one already. Then just slowly start sorting things out when you have a bit of money coming in

It sucks to be in your position but when you pull through it, you'll be all sorted

 

Honestly those type of relationships always go in circles. They are usually unhealthy and waste time. You should probably just work on getting over her. Time is the main thing you need. It will get better you just need time. Also remember whether you realize it you control if you are happy or not. Not the situation(though some situations can be rough). Hope for the best for you mate

 

The best advice I could give is that you try your best to forget about her. After a few weeks hopefully the jealousy will loose the edge. It's often the hardest when you initially break up, worrying about her being with someone else at first is horrible. Sends your heart south.
But ultimately you'll get used to that fact and it will not bother you. Just get some of your own girls to enjoy yourself with.
After this, concentrate on your child. And be a great father to him.

 

You guys can either try to fix things (couple therapy, for example) or just break, learn from your mistakes, and not redo them in your following relationships.

 

as if there's really an option to not love your own kid? that's your flesh and blood, it's impossible not to love such an amazing little piece of yourself. I've got one, and three years down the road now...i'll never turn my back. I learned the true meaning of "love at first sight" when she was born.

nonetheless, being on an emotional roller-coaster is never fun. It would seem that, in your case, being on a cordial level with her will be the best option..but simply leave it at that. It doesn't sound like the two of you are ready to commit to each other..and perhaps that's for the best. No matter what you do though, live your life for the well-being of that child!