Have a crush on a girl whos 10 years older than me :s

I made a thread some days ago but I dont know why it hasnt been approved yet :s So yeah.. I recently started working and there is this girl who's 29 years old and I am 19.

She phisically looks my age, I am bigger and taller than her (taller than most of my work-mates also, who are around 25 to 30 years).
So basically I started talking a lot with this girl, and I noticed several times that she stared at me in a different way than normal one. We had deep conversations when we were alone just us two (during breakfast we often go to eat together to a place near the work) and I can feel there is a connection.

The only problem here is that she is 10 years older than me! I mean is this normal? One would hardly notice that our age differs so much.
Would it be okay if I keep on with this? Or should I just stay like now and keep being friends? I know this is very wierd and I never got myself into things like this... Never though this could actually happen to me but well..

I am here asking for suggestions or if someone experienced a similar situation as mine.

Thanks in advance.

 

You're an adult, do as you please.

Your maturity levels will be way mismatched, no offence (I'm 19 lol) and she'll probably want to settle down and enjoy different things to you. Are you really at an age where you want to settle down and not end up there and leave her on her own because it's way too much too soon?

I'd say stay friends but there's not really anything wrong with it since you are both consenting adults.

 

There's nothing wrong with it, when i met my current gf i was 19 and she was 24 (not quite 29) we ended up just fine. If there's a connection then i see no problem with it.

 

Age doesn't matter. If you truly like her, go fall her There's nothing wrong with that.

 

Dude your doing good lol. Keep up the good work

 

Go with it my friend..I've seen couples with 5-15 years age difference across the globe. Most of them end up just fine.

 

There's nothing wrong with dating someone older than you are. If you feel 10 years is a big difference then don't pull through with it. There are multiple people I know, who date people a lot older than they are.

 

19 to 29 is way too much of an age gap... Unless she's not emotionally matured or you're not a normal 19 year old.

Plenty of things can be said if I had the proper story, but life is only lived so live it. See where it goes, it'll be awkward if things get serious. Imagine meeting her parents, imagine your parents meeting her. Just think about how ready she is to settle down.

 

Ages is just a number, once your over 18 it shouldn't matter at all since your legal. Also don't be afraid to be judge about it.

 

I agree with you. Age is just a number and as long as you love her, it's fine :love:

 

As long as you love her, go for her, age doesn't matter, keep talking to her and find out if she is truly the one. Friends - Best Friends - Girlfriend, work your way up!

 

Age is just a number

 

Once you're legal it doesn't matter. But as Roary stated your maturity levels will be at far different places. She will be wanting to look to start a family soon I'm sure and you have to know that there will be that gap and if you're willing to address it.

 

Many people may say age is just a number, but I've been involved in a situation like yours..

When I was 18, I was dating a 27 year old woman. I didn't think anything was wrong at the time. I just kept saying "age is only a number". Fortunately, the relationship only lasted about 3 months, before I realized what a bitch she was, but that can be a different story.

Anyways, now that I'm out of that relationship, I can look back and say that whole situation with our age difference was fucking awkward, and gross now that I think about it. What would that old of a woman want from and younger guy like you or me? Someone's emotional age isn't quite with them, whether your maturity is higher than your age (my situation), or her maturity was much lower for her age.

Either way man, good luck with it all, and give what I just said a read over, and think about it.

 

10 years isn't a big gap, i'd assume it would at most cause a social problem. if you're happy, go for it.

 

I saw only a portion of the title and thought it said "Have a crush on a girl that's 10 years old."

I can relate to that, but now that I see the actual story, I can't help much. Good luck, and don't over-think it.

 

To say 10 years isn't a big gap I think is relative. I think 19 to 29 the gap is "big"...but I'd say 30 to 40 isn't. I say that simply because you guys may have different goals, wants, and needs. Shes almost 30, she's probably looking to settle down with someone and have kids. If she already has kids or a kid she may be looking for someone to semi-fill the roll of some form of father. Granted I've dated a couple girls that had a child (between 2-5years old) and they always said they weren't looking for a 'baby daddy" but everything they talked about alluded to such!

I guess you'd have to take a real hard look at yourself and what you want. Not only right now, but in the future. Put yourself in a couple hypothetical situations...what would you do if you guys were together and she said she wanted to take it to the next level. Like have kids etc. . . Due keep in mind where you're at now and where you'd be in a year or two (girls I've met move quicker than that). It would just be a shame to date her and then fall totally in love with her only to find out you guys have different goals at the time. But you could get lucky and shes a total party girl...which is a blessing, but more of a curse. In that case, cheers! Have your fun, and take it for whats its worth

Also think about how socially awkward it could be! You're 19 shes 29, not a big deal and definitely not a deal breaker...but you can forget about hitting up bars with her and her friends on the weekends for the next couple of years. Which would definitely put a strain on the relationship.

I'd say go for it personally, try and figure her out. Get a grasp on what she's looking for! Once you do pull the trigger and ask her to dinner or something! Good luck bro!

 

If you two are comfortable with the age gap, go for it. It's not like it's illegal or anything.

 

To me, love is all that matters and u shouldn't be bothered with what other people think. Wish you the best of luck in your relationship bro

 

Just saying, love has no limits, my friend.

My mother is 41 and my stepdad is 81. thats 4x the difference between you and this girl

Although it's a different story, I'm just saying.

Personally, there's nothing wrong with it. If there is love between you both then why not just go for it. Who the fuck cares what other people thinks. If they think negatively they're probably just jealous since a guy like you is able to have a senior girlfriend.

It would probably be hard, but I don't know your current relationship with her. Getting a senior as your girlfriend/wife would be hard, as most would just consider you as a friend and nothing more.

You should just try in my opinion. There's nothing wrong with trying. Try if you really love her, since you will at least show that you do.

Goodluck