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Being in a relationship with the first girl doesn't sound like it would be very stable/secure. With the second, you know she has feelings for you and you said yourself you have somewhat for her. I'd say the second choice would be the best fit, seems she would be more loyal. I feel like the first one is too open about being with one if not more people and might actually just be using them for her "bucketlist". Get to know the second girl more and try to spend some more 1 on 1 time without the other.

Edit - It just seems the second girl would be more loyal and you would know she truly has feelings for you.

 

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"This lust for another girl that I'm always around... but on the other hand I wold hate myself for fucking up something with a girl who likes me like this.. and she is great.."

Like I mentioned in the first post, I think you need to spend more time with the second girl. Maybe if you got to know her better, like you've known the first girl for awhile, you would develop more feelings for her.

- I think you're just caught in some sort of fantasy rather then actual love for your friend (the first girl). If you do decide to go after the first girl you might realize it wasn't what you wanted, thus ruining your good chance with the second girl.

 

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All I can say is to spend less time in a group of three and to just make time with the second girl. Try to spend some time away from the first, let yourself take a break and calm down. Be with the second girl and see if you really will miss out on something.

 

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I know EXACTLY where your coming from right now. Currently in my life there is a girl I just can't forget about, but the only way to stop is by doing other things (and by this I mean in your situation if you started showing more signs of affection and attraction to the 2nd girl the 1st girl may back off a bit) also then the 2nd girl may tell the 1st one to back off if she notices a difference when she is with you alone and when you are with the both of them.

 

Interesting situation. Well for first off if your friend 1 is going to go sleep with another guy, you can't control that so I don't see a reason you should feel horrible. Changing your philosophy regarding this is a good idea. Liking someone (and sleeping with them for that matter) doesn't mean anything until you get a commitment from them.

Secondly as regarding the 2nd lady, if you feel as though you like her then you should try dating her perhaps. The feelings for the first lady are an interference for sure, but if you think of her as someone who has dumped you then perhaps you can manage the feelings you have for her.

 

It seems like your in love with the 1st girl. But if she is a lesbian as you said and she is just wanting to "check it off her lesbian bucket list" by sleeping with a guy (you or the other guy) then it would probably make your situation a lot worse if you were the guy she wanted to "experiment" with. What would happen if it was you that she slept with and after you guys did it she just stopped talking or hanging out with you? I have a friend that sounds just like the 1st girl, but you have to think is she(1st girl) a really good friend that you dont wanna lose over sex? IMO sleeping with a good friend usually never turns out well.

Now as for the second girl if you like her and you guys "click" then you should try it. I'm going to Assume and correct me if im wrong and i mean no disrespect but im thinking that your a pretty young guy who has found himself in a tough situation. Your feelings for the first girl seem strong, but if she is just wanting to bang a guy just so she can say she did it you dont want that to be you. If she is a good friend then you dont want to take the chance of losing her over sex. I know it will be hard to get her out of your mind since you obviously have very strong feelings for her, but you got to think what is more important? Sex that could only be one time thing or having a good friend? If the first girl is trying to set you up with her friend then she seems to not be as interested in you as you are in her. Dont take that the wrong way it sounds harsh but im not trying to be. Start hanging out with the second girl more and see where it takes you, you may be surprised with the outcome. You need to find something to take your mind off the first girl for a while. If you like the second girl at all try spending some alone time with her go to the movies or dinner or take her to the mall and go shopping anything you can do to keep you mind off the first one.

I'm sorry your in this situation, but keep your head up man trust me a girl is not worth letting yourself fall into depression. This is just my thoughts and i hope all works out for you.

P.S. If anything sounded too harsh please understand that i was not trying to be rude/harsh.

 

I'd actually stick with the first girl, seeing as if you do date the 2nd girl she'd be like.. "the 2nd choice" and YOU will always know that. If the relationship does go deep in the future, you won't feel as proud. If I were you, I'd just tell the first girl how I feel and whatever the result, it would just be an advanced step to your next move. If she does reject you, it's better to know you don't have a chance rather than lingering on about whether or not you two are a suitable couple.

If you guys see each other very regularly, maybe it's better to just keep a little distance. Through time those strong feelings might just fade away giving you options to find a new princess

 

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Do you happen to like both girls? Or just the one.. if it's just the one girl, and in this case lets say the homosexual one, I guess you could use the "It's not you it's me" quote to the 2nd girl. And maybe explain to the 2nd girl your dilemma. She'd probably understand and might help you since she really likes you