Self Confidence?

I've always been told that I shouldn't care what other think, I see that differently. For some reason I always feel like somebody that I'm in a room with (like school, or a hallway) is talking about me or judging me for something, I've been told that I lack self confidence by a few people. Being in Highschool this isn't something that should be happening, I feel like it's my appearance as if I'm not satisfied the way I look, or the way I dress.

I wouldn't classify this as depression, but more of a fear of rejection. I know rejection is a part of life, but to me I see it as something that can be avoided (i.e asking a girl out on a date, or something), but it's not that I want to avoid it simple by not asking that person out/on a date (this is only being used as an example). When I look at rejection, I feel as if I'm humiliated by the people around me (I know this most likely doesn't happen, but then again I lack self confidence).

Hell, if you read all of that feel free to tell me what you think, and what you do. Have you been in my situation? I planned to have fun my senior year and it's pulling a 180 on me right about now. Your comment matters!

 

I'm 22 now man, and I was in that position in high school, I weighed 360 pounds, really depressed, no confidence and was really self conscious. Only asked out like 2 girls but it was a learning experience. I lost 140 pounds after graduating, I've got high confidence and self esteem, and that attracts women. They like confidence and a strong man, and I mean mentally, not always physically, some women like skinny guys.

Just remember, if you don't take chances in life, you'll get nowhere. It's all about the learning curve.

If you don't like the way you look, figure out what's wrong and try to fix it, just like I did with the weight. After I lost the weight, I still didn't like the way I looked so I grew a small beard to compliment my face and now I have no problems with ladies.

But trust me when I say this, I know many people say it, but it is actually very true. Looks are not a big part of life. I'm not the most attractive man but I can still pull an 8 or 9 out of 10 woman easily, it's all about your game and how you present yourself.

I think I covered everything... I'll keep an eye on the thread, feel free to ask more questions if needed.

 

Hey man, everyone goes through stages like this so hopefully you're just about out of it.

To be honest, some of the guys that I hang out with now were the same way. They eventually grew out of it and become some of the more popular guys at school.

If you're unhappy with the way you look, do something about it! Work out, change clothing styles, get a new haircut if ya want. Just do something new to make you feel better!

Get out and do stuff more, try to be more social. That can go a long ways which will help you out. Showing people you care and are willing to try make great impressions.

Also, 95% of the time they're not gonna be talking about you. And if they are, it may be good things! You never know!

I hope this somewhat helped you out.

 

Try to switch your style up. Change up your routine, try working out or do something that makes you feel impressive. Sport some fresh gear and look dope, and practice talking to people you don't really know. Start simple, ask people you never met before in school "Where do we get "x"?, "Where did you get "x"? Etc. etc."

You could also do this in a local supermarket, walmart, mall, anywhere! Just get into that habit of talking to people if you find something about them that interest you and ask question. That is just my way of boosting confidence. End this senior year with a good bang! Best of luck my friend.