How do I become less shy/gain more friends?

I don't think that would work. My experience is that I'm shy when meeting people I've got to know over MSN/Facebook.

 

BRO GOD DAMN IT I WISH I WAS WITH U IN UR CLASS i woulda backed you up had this problem everyone thought i was wierd because of freshmen year some kid liked hanging with me not to be shallow but i didnt like him that much but hes still my friend and cool. coming sophmore year my moral was low on talking to anyone sure enough i get put in a class with one of the most coolest kids ever no homo though lol it was a soccer player we end up sitting next to eachother he gets to know the real me and he just brags to everyone about me and how funny i am boosts my popularity up major. thats how it worked for me you basically need a friend or need to find it in urself to just be loud bro take risks no matter how stupid u look.!

 

yeah , I agree with what Tyson Said earlier in the thread , basically relationships are a two way thing you give an you take. They talk to you ,you make conversation back

 

It's something you will have to work on for a long time.

When people start small talk try and elaborate more on what you say.

For example if someone asks "How are you doing" rather than responding by
saying "good" or "good, you" say "I am doing pretty good, how are you?"

 

It's probably emotional feelings. Have you had anynthing sad that happened previously?

 

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, I duno about your age etc (didn't bother looking at the first page) but i moved house when i was 14 and found the best way to make new friends for me was to go to the nearby park and play some football with the locals 3 years on and i have some great friends there and im not shy at all all i can say i guess is find some common ground for me it was sports for you it might be something else.

 

Dude above gave you a great tip. Play some sports, but don't be cocky. If they talk about things that you're interested in, go along with them. If you have just met someone though, don't try and outshine them and play smart or arrogant or something. That gets you no where.

 

Confidence....

People that are shy normally lack that.

I think you need to find something your good at, and expose it.
I'm sure if people see you at prime you'll feel better about yourself in
general.

Try joining a club, sport, or after school activities.

I highly suggest something that involves teamwork such as drama, team sport, study group, something that involves having to know each other and becoming more in tune with those that share similar interest.


As for when people come up to YOU and talk. Don't shy out, they came to you. Your self confidence should sky rocket!!! They want to know you!

I suggest the next time someone says "hi" to you, you should reply back with "hello, how are you?" that opens space for more conversation or a simple "hey, what's up". Try not to just end things in a simple hey or hi. That shows your not really interested and your cutting it short.

Remember when talking stay in the realm of comfort. Talk about things you know about, and if they start talking about something you don't know much of or anything about, don't sit there nodding. Ask questions, people don't know everything and it will widen your knowledge of things and show your interested in what they have to say.

Keep your head up. Smile when people talk to you in a friendly manner.

Oh also if someone is just being a straight up bitch for no reason. It's honestly best just to shake it off, or mock them as they walk by.

hope this helps.

 

There is a lot of people in the world who like people that can be quiet.

Not encouraging marijuana, but when you smoke it, you feel a lot less stressed and a lot less worried about things...