Ok so yeah...

Background info
Grade: 10
Location: Brisbane, Aus.


Situation

I'm 14 turning 15, I play Runescape (Alot) Cod, occasionally.

But I get bullied ALOT by everyone from randoms at school to some of me best "Friends". I try and be as kind as I can to most people, But all they do is put me down,

Firstly I'm 6ft (Taller that ALL of my friends) I weigh about 55kg (100lbs?) the call me, stupid stuff like lanky etc and I am also not very strong.

Secondly, I have a job at McDonald's which without a doubt every day I get shit about working there everyday, but the thing is I LOVE working there the people that I work with are really nice, kind people who treat others with the up most respect. I wan't to try and make friends but I find it hard to talk to anyone new, Especially girls. I can't look people in the eyes as I'm socially awkward, I stand cross legged (if that makes sense) and when I talk none of what I say makes sense.

I ask myself everyday. Why me? All this nonsience and bullshit all pushed towards me for no reason, EVERYBODY hates me Teachers, friends etc. I also have almost no social life as nobody ever wants to go with me. e.g at the end of last term a few of my mates were organizing to get together and go to the movies and I asked if I could go, and they all said straight to my face no and made some BS excuse.

Also I get my lunch stolen when I'm in class so I go to get some lunch and there is nothing there so I fell hungry for the rest of the day, but the thing that annoys me the most is that the teachers know that this is all happening but they do NOTHING about it because they are all too lazy to get off their ass and say something to someone.


The whole point of this is how can I fix these issues with all of this, I honestly fell awful everyday I come home from school because of all of this.
Also, could someone give me some tips about how to make me fell more confident in myself.

I will add more tomorrow as I'm feeling a bit tired Atm.

 

Bullies are just *insert word here*. You have already tried telling teachers, and nothing has happened. Now I'm, not suggesting you go and kill them all, but you should find a way to stop them. As for working at McDonalds, if you like it, stuff them. You have a job and you enjoy it, so your making money for having fun in theory. Don't let people get to you about it. As for confidence, that just comes I suppose (I'm not confident either). As for saying EVERYBODY hates you, there's got to be someone who doesn't. Never let people take your food. They're already doing all of this other stuff, don't let them take that too. I'm sorry I can't help much more, but if it helps, good luck (If any of this sounded harsh, I'm sorry )

 

Bullies thrive on the satisfaction they get from putting you down, and that satisfaction is derived from your reaction.

I am the kind of kid who has rarely ever been at the recieving end of bullying, and personally, I think I owe that to a few things. One, is that I fight fire with fire. If somebody is trying to bully me, intimidate me, or put me down, I do the very same thing back to them. Most bullies are insecure and/or self-conscious of things themself, and when the spotlight is turned around on them, they do NOT like it.

Secondly, if the situation seems like something you cannot control on your own, another great solution is to simply act like you are unaffected by all the name calling, comments, etc. Over a short amount of time, this will really bug the bullies (whose objectives are to torture you), and they will likely leave you alone in favour of finding somebody else to bug.

Third - If you cannot find relief in anything else you try, you could try seeking help again. Go to somebody with authority who you really trust and feel could help you - this could be a parent, a counsellor, your principal etc. Have this person takes steps to intervene and get you out of there. It will be worth it in the long run if you do not have to endure any more torturous insults.

Lastly, I just want to say that even though you are put down by your so called "friends" and others at school for working at McDonald's, it sounds to me like your job is a great atmosphere for you to be comfortable in, and to thrive in. I would focus as much of your time on that as possible, try to reach out and meet like-minded people from your workplace who you think you could develop a good friendship with. Start surrounding yourself with people who are going to see your good qualities and cherish you for them, not pick you apart for all your tiny flaws (we all have flaws).

You sound like a really good kid, just keep your chin up man. Things will get better.