Have you ever been, or cheated on your partner?

if so, why?
To what extend did you cheat, intercourse, sexting/texting etc.

If you got cheated on, did you forgive her/him, how did you cope with it?

Personally I could never cheat on my other half, but since so many do it nowdays I’m curious to see from another POV.

 

i don't cheat or do nothing of that anymore. however in highschool, i wasn't that modest. why? i was just selfish i guess.

 

Care to elaborate? Why did you put yourself in a relationship if you still felt the need to screw around on other chicks? I might be autistic, or just oldschool but I don’t see why anyone would do that.

 

Never have, never will

The thought of hurting someone you were / are so close to in such a manner is... unbearable.

 

because i was young, things get boring, old, stale. i was selfish, many reasons. i just wasn't mature enough i at the time i guess. but i liked girls and had opportunities at took them at the time. but now i would never want to do that to someone

 

Was cheated on by an ex. Didn't even know till after I dumped her. Wasn't with her very long and she was annoying as shit looking back. Didn't really care cause I wasn't in love with her.

I guess this sounds rather evil, but it was when I was very young, and she was hyper and nothing like me at all. Too much

 

Sorry to hear, still hurts as it fucks up the self esteem.

Fair, maturity plays a big factor here.

Can't agree more.

 

i think the majority are cheaters though imo, people cheat all the time, ones you'd never think

 

I don’t know if I agree with that. If your other half manages to cheat on you without knowing then
A) you don’t know her that well
B) you’re delusional
C) You just dont care

I can tell if something is up just by looking my fiancee in the eyes, if shes upset or angry or whatever it might be, even if she is trying to hide it.

 

I would never cheat. Some of my friends treat girls pretty badly (like seeing multiple at once, bending the rules of the relationship etc) and I do not like it.

 

Most people aren't going to actually admit it lol whether on here or in real life

 

Yes and yes

My first gay partner I was dating for about 2 months at the time. I was in the Disney College Program, so I networked with a lot of guys. I wasn't on any dating app, but our Facebook groups were pretty much dating apps in the sense that people would DM you all the time and ask to hang out. It's also worth noting I was actually one of the admins of our college program session, so I was in the spotlight as far as the Facebook group goes.

Met a guy, beautiful as all fuck, was super new to the gay culture so I didn't know how aggressive guys could be, and he made me feel like it was alright to come over for a beer. To stay a little longer. To crash for the night after how much we drank. To get naked and cuddle. That's as far as it got, and I left at 5AM without any sexual stuff besides naked cuddling, but I felt absolutely horrible about it. My boyfriend at the time wasn't really considered my boyfriend, we were fucking, hanging, talking every day, but there was no labels, but I still felt horrible, and I know I still broke trust there. But it was a good learning experience.

And then the same guy cheated on me by going to an orgy at a bath house two years later, so I guess I got my karma in the end


I haven't cheated since then, but as I get older, I find it less and less appealing to commit to one person, and I'm not even particularly promiscuous.. I've dated two or three times since, and there's always times where I catch myself thinking it'd be nice to just... fuck someone else instead. For respect for the other, I haven't gotten close to it like what I described above, but the thoughts emerge sometimes, still

 

5 Months ago my wife cheated on me in the sense of she was speaking to a old boyfriend and a line was very clearly crossed in text im sure they never met as he lived in a different country. I found out cause like @Hex said i could tell something was off when i looked at her i just didn't know what it was a real rocky time we had both been laid off from our respective companies times where bleak fights where constant with the stress of a new home we might lose and a perceived isolation within our own relationship. I cant honestly say i have been able to fully forgive her yet what she did was wrong and hurt our trust to a massive extent but i love her, and its something we have done a million and 1 things to address work on and make sure we can move on from. I cant tell you if this is the right decision or not or if in 3 months it will happen again and ill think im a idiot but i know how hard it can be and if anyone is going through this or has done this and cant seem to understand why it hurt there partner so bad your welcome to add me on disc or msg me here.

 

Been cheated on by a 2 year girlfriend. Thought she was the loml. Seriously gave her everything, but had to break it off even though I didn't want to. Forgave her, but moved on from the relationship. Funny bcus she's been trying for over a year to get back with me haha

 

At first, I hated when I found out my GF was talking to other guys.

Then I started talking to other girls.

Then we broke up.

Then I got turned on at the thought of her having sex with other guys.

I have cheated on a girl, been cheated on, and been the one who's helping to cheat, idk it's weird lol.

 

Honestly mate, I wouldn't be with her. You don't reward bad behavour, she cheats>you forgive her> she will do it again. Then again, maybe shes a miracle, maybe she won't do it again. Who knows? But there are plenty of signs to look out for, and you know some of them now. My tip to you is keep it interesting, don't stop doing what made her fall in love with you to begin with, if things are good and she is happy she has no reason to cheat on you. Good luck man

 

I think an open relationship would suit you perfectly if you don't mind your partner screwing around with other people, open relationships are quite normal these days- and people that master it without getting jealous seem to be really happy. 50 years ago it was unheard of, today its not even a taboo!

Cheating people are often manipulative, and they don't easily let go off their partners.

Interesting.

Finding someone with the same morals are key I believe, its tough tho. Especially in the west, where this cheating culture is so popular. No commitment anymore

 

Open relationships don't appeal to me, I'd prefer to just stay single versus making already complicated matters like relationships even more murky by adding in arrangements like that

 

thanks man @Hex

 

true, plus when things go wrong it can get awkward. open relationships that actually work takes some different breed of people lol that can deal with that type of relationship