[Guide] How to be confident! [/Guide]

How to be Confident


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Confidence is a thing I always struggled to achieve when I was in middle school. I grew up in a relatively quiet family and never fully engaged my self in strong conversations with my friends, sibblings or parents. I had a hard time talking to people because I always thought they could see right through me. Right through my glistening skin, and right to my mind. I thought they could see how unconfident and unsure of myself I truly was. I didn't want anyone to find out about my incompetence so I stayed clear of it all. In a sense, I was the loner; the odd man out. After middle school ended, I wanted it all to change. I didn't want the past three years to reflect who I was in high school. I wanted to start fresh, anew and different. I wanted my social life to improve, and I wasn't going to aim for anything less then to be fully confident. Confidence wasn't something that came overnight for me (Although the plan did). Confidence is something that took many months if not years to obtain. In this guide I will teach you the basics skills to becoming confident in yourself, that will be sure to help you live better and to the fullest.

---Table of Contents---

• What is Confidence?

• How can I become Confident?

• Conclusion

What is Confidence?



Confidence is a word with many meanings behind it. If I was being precise and politically correct, I would head straight to the dictionary and copy out the definition for you ; but that's not what I'm here to do. I'm here to tell you from my prior experiences what confidence is, and how it affects your life. Confidence may be always being sure of yourself, maybe confidence is always being sure of others? Maybe confidence cannot be described in a sentence. Maybe true confidence is being what you want it to be. Think about it. Think about the flaws in your life. Whether it be lack of social skills, friends, relationships, marks in school. Whatever it is, would you not agree to obtain this 'thing' requires some type of confidence? Confidence is needed in our lives if we wish to excell in what we do. You can go through your life choosing to not make decisions, then many years later live a life of regret and shame for not taking action when you could've. Or you could get out there right now, have some reassurance knowing whatever you do, you'll turn out alright! Before I go on, I want you to look at it like this. There is no such thing as 'No confidence'. There is just people choosing to not be confident. We all have it inside ourselves, and we are all able to portray it to others with a little bit of practise and preparation.


How can I become Confident?

There are many methods of improving your confidence, but there is one I have found that rises above all else. This method of improving your confidence is simply changing your mindset when making decisions that require confidence and reassurance. If you are in a situation when confidence comes to play the simple thing you must ask yourself is "What's the worse that could happen?". Picture it. You see a really pretty girl in school you've been dying to hang out with. You're thinking of asking her to hang out this weekend, but your mind is holding you back. Your mind is telling you "What if she says no?! Then it will be awkward and scary!". I want you to completely IGNORE this. Tell yourself what's the worse that could happen? Well the worse thing that could happen is she says "no". After that what? Completely nothing! Nothing lost, nothing gained! If you want to improve your confidence you have to get used to doing things you normally wouldn't. And a great way to go about doing this is to keep asking yourself "What's the worse that could happen?" If you think about it 99% of the time the worse that could happen is absolutely nothing! It won't affect you an hour later, and as I said before nothing lost, nothing gained. If you truly want to become confident and cannot bring yourself to it immediately, at least play the part! That's right, act. If you act confident around others, they will get good vibes and want to talk to you more. If you act confident, eventually it will come naturally. So if you really cannot be confident, play the part!



Conclusion

In conclusion, although gaining confidence won't come overnight, it certainly won't take forever. The key is determination. If you believe and stick with it, you will succeed. If you ever feel down, or come into a situation where you didn't act the way you wish you would've; don't get down, but don't completely ignore it either. To gain confidence will take practise, and if you fail: Try to analyze the situation, figure out your mistakes and fix it for next time. My final piece of advice to you is to repeat the phrase "What's the worse that could happen?" over and over again inside your head. Heck, I consider myself a very self confident person and I probably say it 50 times a day. Also don't forget to try things you're scared of! The more things you do that is out of your comfort zone, the more confident you become! Finally, have fun! My life has improved significantly more since I've practised this method of confidence, and I don't regret a thing; and I'm sure you won't either!



Yours truly,
-Dalton.

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Next time write the guide in microsoft word first, then copy paste it and format it here.

 

I prefer to work directly from Sythe, and save copies as backups as I go.

 

I do too, it makes putting up the pictures easier. Okay, you've got a lot of good ideas to be honest and I actually think you convey them well...Maybe find some more relevant pictures. I don't see the correlation between the first one and the whole guide, and I'm sure you could find something better. This may also be more of a misc guide than an Outdoors/Physical one, don't you think?

 

I was deciding between the two. The 'Physical' aspect lead me towards the being outside, demonstrating your confidence. That is somewhat Physical? Lol, but in all honesty. If it's necessary to be moved, by all means. Sure.

 

The more chances you take the more comfortable you feel with taking chances , it's as simple as that. It took me 19 years to learn that shit. But for real, that is one cheesy banner at the top. Good post though mate