Girlfriend Issues

You did the right thing by dumping and her and not taking revenge. As some other guy said, he will respect you when he grows up and will learn that what he did was wrong. Just pretend it never happened, and don't tell it to your parents or anyone else. Hope you find someone who really likes you in the future.

Good luck.

 

Put a keylogger on his pc if he logs on to face book or sumthing hack it and put some rude comments on his freinds profiles etc...

 

I'm not resorting to revenge or violence, in fact we talked earlier.
He apologized and I accepted, we are going to the local nursery tomorrow and picking an apology flower to make it official.

 

Threat your brother that you're gonna tell your parents if he doesn't tell what happened.

 

Man that's a dog act. There's no way I'd be havin' that shit.

 

A very hard situation to handle, I will say. I've had similar things happen, and learned a lot from the mistakes and actions. This could be because there was a lack of sex in the relationship or lack of interest in both parties. Most relationships that involve affairs are lead up from lack of a sex life in the relationship, or lack of sexual interest in the other partner.

If there was a lack of interest, that's not your fault. If she found a lack of interest in you then you are just not good enough for her. It's most likely hard to believe right now but it's true. If you think about it, anybody who thinks they are better than anyone else is in reality on a lower level than the person receiving the insult.

I'm not saying this is the issue here, but it is a possibility with the information given. There would be no other reason for somebody to cheat on a person with no reason given unless it's a nymph. If she is a sex addict then who she does it with doesn't matter to her. It is possible for sexually active girls to become sex addicted regardless of the age. It's uncommon for teenagers to get to that point, but there's rare cases of this happening.

Though if it's been happening for months, then maybe she wanted to break up with you but didn't have the heart to do so which was totally wrong. I'm not saying this to be mean, but I'm just trying to give you open options on why this could have happened.

Fact of the matter is she shouldn't have cheated on you in the first place and just talk to you about it instead of going off and having sex with your younger brother. Violence is not the correct approach here, but simply talking to your brother as you did but more extended could answer a lot of questions you may have. Ask him did she say anything to him that involved your relationship with her. If she was saying something behind your back, you will now know the reason why.

I'd say settle down a bit (even though it's been roughly 8 or so days) and think everything over. It can take weeks, months, even a year to get everything straight. There's no reason to rush this and hints why I'm giving somewhat late advice (just saw your post)

I've had similar experiences and I'll be willing to be open with you to help you get through this if you'd like. My MSN is open if you need to talk about anything. =)

 

Thank you everyone for taking time out of your lives to offer me advice.
I read each and every one of your posts and weighed the pros and cons to each. My brother and I are slowly recuperating and making conversation more often now. My and the girl and no longer speaking and have not seen one another since the incident. The image is semi tattooed into my mind so it will take time before I get over this.
Thank you for everyone who offered me some advice, I really appreciate it, thank you.

 

Sucks man, smack that bitch up and put her in the kitchen.

 

So she left you for you're lil brother? Damn maybe you should ask him what he did to get her and maybe you can get your girl back.

 

I get a feeling he wouldn't want her and nor should he.

 

I agree, at this point he needs to get in contact with her and talk about why she would do what she did. Then with that end the relationship with as much dignity scavenged back as possible.