Girlfriend help.

Kind of sounds like he asked if she was single and she replied with "haha yes I am right now hahahaha" then went on the include that she saw his instagram, thought he was cute and thought "I should snap chat him". It's one thing to have guys that are friends who flirt on a friendly level (not trying to have the flirting lead to something sexual) but purposely seeking attention from other guys isn't good. There are plenty of other girls out there that you probably shouldn't waste your time with someone like that.

 

Also this. Please keep me updated since I find that you are too good for her, leave her and just see what will happen.

 

Want the screenshot? I can send it from my phone showing what she said... lol. It was under the chat thing if you swipe it right, it wasn't attached to a picture. I'm not increasing post count by doing this (I am but not what you think). I just need advice as this is my first girlfriend and I have no idea what to do + this is a little rant to get my emotions out.

 

I looked at the earlier chats and there wasn't anything like that. I agree she is a big attention whore. I also agree with that last part. Read my recent thread about her.

 

You should have posted your "story" in this thread, no one in general discussion will care.

Anyways it sounds like she's an entitled, narcissistic attention whore. While it is your first gf and it will suck and likely be difficult, break up with her. You don't need her in your life.

 

theres your sign right there, save yourself before its to late

 

First sentence sums it up. Nothing else needed.

 

Ah junior high and school dances. Those were the days. You get fucked up when you get to highschool if you have the mindset that you will be able to stay with one girl for the next four years. If you read all of this I think it will help you understand things better, really I do. Unless she is also thinking like you, it will be really hard to keep a relationship with her.

I remember my girlfriend I had in junior high. I dated her on and off for 2 years. At the start she was really sweet and didn't care about being popular or anything like that. Before me her ex didn't treat her the best and he talked to loads of other girls when he was dating her and didn't seem to care.

I actually cared about her and well, I really loved her to be honest. And tried my best to do everything I could to make her happy. But sadly, us against the world didn't last forever. I didn't do everything I wanted to with her because I was shy and I just wanted her to be happy, and didn't want to mess up with this girl I loved more than life itself. What I did do wasn't enough for her I guess. And now she's exactly like this girl you describe. At first she couldn't have cared less about what all the popular kids were doing and was just sweet and a really nice person. I'm in my senior year of highschool and she literally isn't the same person I knew in 7th and 8th grade.

Everyone in our generation is on snapchat and instagram and they are living the same superficial life in which they must be instantly gratified. Once deep and thoughtful people get sucked into conforming to these rather pitiful and extremely superficial values to fit in with our generation's society.

Our generation rests on this concept of instant gratification, only looking for what's on the surface and making themselves seem as unintelligible and superficial as possible to fit in with the society of our generation.

Think about it. Why are all of these fast, unintelligent, half-deep and superficial characters so popular with our generation. "Lil b the Based god" - couldn't present himself to seem any more unintelligent or flat - yet he is considered one of the coolest and influential figures of popular culture in our generation.

All of the popular music in our generation is about promiscuous, shallow and half-deep women that present themselves in way to seem like they couldn't have less respect for themselves, their bodies, or deep thought and real relationships. (ex. miley cirus niki minaj, iggy, etc.) What's considered "cool" to do in our generation is for girls to go to clubs and give themselves up to as many guys as they can.

This is why your girlfriend has ended up or is starting to end up like this. She is conforming to the values of our generation. If that's the path she chooses to take then you cannot change her. It is really sad to see someone you truly love and care about get lost and go down a path which you cannot follow. It's sad to see someone you love so much gone forever. She might still be there, but she is not the same. If you are not happy with her and she is not the same person that you remember the BEST ADVICE I can give you is to let her go.

I went through so many years trying to hold on to this woman that I loved so much because I could not see living my life without her. After all of the good times we had But what I realized is that you cannot bring back the past, nor can you live in it. You can't change what has already happened or who someone is going to become. Don't try be with someone who will only go half-deep when you want to love them with all of your heart. You either need to step back to their level or find someone who is at your level.

The best advice I can give you is to live for now. Forget about who she was and forget about the good times in the past. Because that is not now, and you cannot bring it back or change who she is. It's hard to let go of someone you love so much but my advice is to look for the other girl out there who is waiting for you that understands who you are and loves you for who you are. Someone who wants to go as deep as you and be loved and share all of the moments and memories you want to have. She is out there, I promise dude.

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Looks long but only took me 5 mins to write.

 

This.

When you really love a girl, it means shes the one you will want to spend the rest of your life with. Can u see urself bulding your future with her? It might be tough if u really love her but u have to consider the facts. If she wont change its gonna be hard to last eventually it will just go downhill. Look for someone who really cares about you and the relationship and not let it get affected by superficial stuff. If someone loves you, she will care about your feelings as well and try their best to make you happy. Gl man there are plenty of nice girls out there, you may just have been blinded by your current one

 

Dude I love you for this, some people these days gets affected by small stuff.

Damn dude long live!

 

dump the prude and get a nude.
Seriously, dump her ass.
She sounds like a terrible human being if she's constantly putting herself above you and isn't able to hold a conversation, let alone look at you when you speak to her.
Been there.

 

Thanks for the writing but I don't really understand too much how that has to do with my situation... I'm not in 7/8th grade I'm in 11th lol. + I know I wouldn't be dating her for 4 years. She doesn't follow the norms of this generation really too much and I don't at all really. I'm just a bit confused about how that relates to my problem. Thanks though for all the help.

 

I agree about the part about putting herself above me + yes. She doesn't relaly ever looks at me when we speak. She ALWAYS has to be right or the "best" in the situation. Even if I say like oh my parents suck. She one ups me and tells me how shitty her parents are. If I say my life is crap she will one up me and say more about how hers is. If I try to say anything like that I just try to get one-up'd. Homecoming is coming up and I for sure do not want to go with her for the life of me, but I have no idea how to tell her that.

 

I agree with this. I've always said this is my quote I created I'll be famous for, "Like is temporary, love is forever". I've always told myself if she says she loves me, I'll say I'm sorry but I just can't say that right now. You're my first girlfriend and I have no idea what love feels like just yet. I do not really believe she likes me as much anymore and all that.

 

Honestly, I'd suggest breaking up with her, and showing her no attention, don't text her or anything, and if she texts you and you feel like texting back, just give short answers. My gf broke up with me three mondays ago, and literally the next day, I acted like such an ass to her through texts and acted like I didn't care and shit, and she was all over my D yet again, three days after we broke up, she came back for more and we hooked up. Granted, we are still broken up because sometimes relationships just don't work no matter how hard you want them to, but it's nice to hook up with them once in awhile if they're great in bed.

 

New question for all- How do I break up with her? Text? At her house?

 

All depends on the situation and how you guys are as people. Usually it's better in person, but if she's crazy I'd just do it through text.

 

I don't want to come off as an asshole/dick who just wants to break up through text though =/ But also I don't wanna have to go through all the crap of her crying and stuff.

 

Just say it to her face. "I love you but this isn't working for me. I think it'd be better if we split." Then ride it out. It's gonna be fucking awful dude, but don't give in and go back - stick to your guns and get outta there.

trust me, you look back and think.. God I escaped something there.

 

Her parents will be there and I only go over to her house to hang out (few hours). It would just be so hard doing that. I might just send her a text to start it out and say "I feel like our relationship is fading". Is that a good start?