Dont know how im going to approach my crush lol

To start off, i'm a freshman in college, she's i think sopho or junior, she has great personality and of course there are always someone else better than her but for me she's the greatest, i've asked some of her classmates if what was her name (one of my drinking buddies is her classmate in algebra subject) and I got it now, i couldn't sleep without going through her facebook profile, i don't have the guts to "add her" either cos you know i am not that very good looking person and i don't even consider myself to be average however for some people they think i am average it's just me having a very low self-esteem, so how do i do this? add her on facebook and act like just an ordinary friend? I don't have the guts for this cos some of her female friends too are... you know somewhat horrible and they like to spread shit.

TLDR; OP likes a girl who is older than her, does not know how to approach this, has her facebook name, doesn't have the guts to add her either.

 

It isn't all about looks, girls go for a lot more than that nowadays.

Pluck up the courage and approach her in a normal manner, make her laugh and give off slight hints that you're interested in her then see how it goes from there.

 

You're never going to know if your crush likes you by never approaching them. That should be your biggest motivator, also (I'm saying this because I used to have this problem) if a girl rejects you, she's not going to put you on full blast to the world to embarrass you. Girls are going to like someone who's confident, Facebook isn't a way of talking to people anymore, just more of a stalking website (lol). You should go up to her, and just make basic conversation with her. Ask her questions that you might already know the answer to, don't show that you're obviously flirting with them until you build some sort of relationship to where you have their number.

 

Walk up to her... And just fucking do it... YOLO nigga it might work you never know

 

It is indeed very hard to know, if the recipient is also interested in you. Or if you share the same feelings for eachother. I would advice not to rush things, as that can overcomplicate a lot of things. You would not want to end up in the friendzone, so i reckon that you avoid getting "to personal" unless, you actually are in a relationship.

 

I was stuck in a similar situation. Of course I added her Facebook and all, but that's that. You won't get past your position as 'Facebook friend' if you don't say hi to her in person.

Also, why not ask your friend who is friends with this crush of yours to bring you along when they go out? Could be good exposure to your crush.

 

How do you know said girl? You said you asked for her name from a friend so I'm guessing you've never talked to her. Do you have a class with her? Or what?

Anyway, I would suggest striking up a conversation over whatever. Use school, popular tv, band, whatever as an ice breaker. I generally start conversations with the people I sit next two on the first day of class with such topics.

I am not one to advocate for randomly walking up to an individual and asking them out on a date. If you've shared a class with them and they know you exist, then totally do it (people do it on the last day of the semester all the time). Now, if you've never met the girl, then I would not advocate it.

Another approach could be hang out with some friends and have your friend you know (or her friend, whatever works) invite her to come join you all. Few friends, drinking, conversing, mario kart, usual stuff. Talk to her, get to know her. If it goes well, you'll probably have her number. If it still goes well and you don't, run into her and ask her out on a date. Worst case scenario she says no, then you move on and find another individual.

Also, do not go into any relationship with this thought that "they are the perfect person for me, my one and only." You are setting unrealistic expectations on the individual. They are just another person and if your relationship doesn't happen, it means they were not the person for you (oh and it also gives off the tone of infatuation).

While easier said then done, fake it till you make it. Having low self-esteem, thinking you're not attractive, all of that is detrimental to your health. Adopt a mind set that you are attractive as hell. The mindset of "you not finding me attractive doesn't make me not attractive." Coming from someone who used to have no self-esteem, it is possible and it is very good for your mental health. 1st step, stop saying (and later thinking) negative about yourself.

 

You gotta start looking in the mirror and loving ureself...

Trust me girls dont care about your looks if you have confidence and a good sense of humor

 

Yes and no, girls are going to care what you look like because if you're too nice you but also have confidence, you might just be in the ultimate friend zone. On the other hand, anyone can look good, it's just a matter of what you're doing to yourself to make yourself look that much better (trying a new hair style, getting new clothes, etc)

 

Sometime's you've gotta face your fears man, chances are she could like you back but she's just waiting for you to talk to her? Honestly what's the worst you can lose? You'll could possibly regret not approaching her in the future, and regretting missed opportunities is the worst feeling. Keep us updated, hope everything goes well bud.

 

No, don't add her on facebook and lie about being her friend. Just start a conversation with her about anything in a non awkward way, even if it is awkward chances are she won't think anything of it because it is your first contact with her. Even if you aren't the most appealing guy it's just a conversation and overthinking small talk is pointless. You're overthinking the entire situation in my opinion, just talk to her, see what you have in common, see what type of person she is, and go from there.

 

This generation ... smh ...

It's not all about social media. OP is basically asking if he should add her to facebook or not. Go up to her in person instead of worrying about adding her to facebook.

"has her facebook name" - her facebook name? don't you mean her real life name? lmao.

Good luck.

 

I suggest you actually talk to her on real life before adding/following her on any social media.

Also, think about the how you're going to approach her before-hand, introduce yourself and have some small talk, then you can take it from there. You shouldn't seem too interested because that'll make it too obvious, this sounds really arrogant and self centered in a way but try to act somewhat 'hard to get', in the sense that you don't wanna talk to her all the time and you shouldn't be the main talker in the conversation. Make sure you always look presentable especially when talking to her, and give her a good image of yourself and to her friends too, try not to come off as a creep or someone who just wants to get in her pants.

After the first talk, then you can add her on facebook

Hope this helps, good luck mate!

 

Nothing is ever gonna happen if you don't put yourself out there. Add her on FB, message her on there for awhile and you should be able to get a pretty good clue as to whether or not she's interested. If so ask for her number or just give her yours. If she texts you then there's a pretty good chance she is interested and you can take it from there. Worst that's gonna happen is she says no or the conversation doesn't get very far. Never know until you try though. If she's not interested don't get discouraged either. Every girl likes something different. Just be yourself man

 

I'll be honest, women don't like men with very low self-esteem. You need to fix that part before you start thinking about relationships.
The easiest way to get a self-esteem boost is to start working out. A good looking body > face.

Most young women don't know what to look for in a man and will mostly go for the looks. The nerdy looking guy who gets the girl only happen in movies and later in life. The reality is that 7s tend to date 7s, 8 date 8s etc and you need to compensate the difference somehow, may it be money/working out/humor or whatever.

 

Have to disagree with some points on the "low-self esteem" issue that has been raised, from a girls perspective, if you wish to know it;

Some girls tend to like guys with "low-self esteem", tend to find it cute, and that does not necessarily mean you're friend zoned. It means they would rather be with someone, they can care for, and not someone who's just all about his looks. They may want someone that they know they can keep, with out having to question, whether other girls are watching him. It might be possible that your differences is what she may like.


Also, just a bit of confidence will work, try not to go into the thought that she is the one and only, but more so try to just climb the ladder, and it always starts with making some sort of connection, building a friendship, if you're aware of her personality, you'll know what to speak to her about, most times it will come naturally, with a bit of confidence. Making a girl laugh, is probably the best thing you can do, try not to be cheesey, and Gl