Help with life/girl issues

Hi sythe, This will probaly be pretty long but i appreciate all advice.

Well it all started in 2010, i'd been in the same class as this girl for 11 years but in the last year i really started to develop feelings for her. i was very shy in school when it came to girls and did not know how to approach her or even tell her i liked her. finally on the last day of school i told her and she was so sweet about it, we started talking on facebook every day after that.

after a few weeks of talking, she randomly deletes me on facebook i tried to readd her but she ignored the request and did not speak to me again. i tried to message to ask her whats wrong and no reply. its been nearly 3 years since then and i can not get this girl out of my head.

i've had a few relationships since then and yet this girl is still on my mind. i dont know how to get her out of my head if anyone can help me with this it would b so much appreciated.

I am also pretty depressed with my life atm as a whole, i lost my job, stopped talking to alot of friends, and have no money. i dont know what to do

 

perhaps it's something you said? Maybe copy and paste a good chunk of the conversation right before she deleted you so the viewers of this thread and see if you said something you shouldn't have.

 

Well it was quite a while ago, so i dont think i cant get what we said

 

No, dont show any convo. That is private between you & her. She most likely did not share the same feelings as you did & could see where your journeys were headed & wanted to quit it before you had gone in too deep & suffered greatly. You told her you liked her & she was good about it, but she could sense that in your convo's you were beginning to show deep feelings for her.

Not wanting to hurt you she decided out & thought that if she did not talk or even have any ties with you, you would forget her & move on for other girls. Perhaps she did not think herself worthy of you. Many reasons could drive a girl to do what she did.

You have to move on. She has cut all ties & there is no use crying over spilled milk. There are other girls out there, great girls who will crave your attention & love as you had showered unto her. Be strong Gav, because regrets will only bring more regrets.

 

y'all need closure, homie. you got any mutual friends? get them to ask what happened that she cut you out.

 

Basicly this, another option you could do is try and look for her and ask for explanation face to face

 

Thanks for all the help, is greatly appreciated
Any more help siggestions would be welcome thankyouu

 

Remember women are complicated don't play into her emotions always have the ball in your court. Act like it doesn't bother you and when she realizes she isn't going to get the attention she would like then she will come back to you and apologize. Give it time everything gets better in time.

 

Judging from my experience, you got to move on man. If a girl doesn't really like you that way, she wont give a shit about you. If a girl does, she will talk to you a lot trust me. Girls can be really irritating especially if they don't care about you in that way because they will never give a shit lol. You will just cause yourself problems and be hurt.

 

move on. then again asking real life advice on the internet is almost never a good idea.

 

If you were able to talk to her on facebook, you had time to get her number and arrange a date. It was pretty crummy of her to cut you off like that, though.

In any case, it's been three years. I don't know exactly what your feelings are for her, but you would probably be better off moving on and focusing on yourself.

 

The weird thing is, she gave me her phone number and would message me first on facebook and stuff.

 

When did she do this?

 

After i told her i liked her, she gave me her number and would message me on fb

 

this is starting to get complicated lol

 

just do you. no point in miming what people are telling you over sythe. if she's still talking to you, you're clearly doing something correctly.

 

Thats the thing i want to move on, but little things remind me of her all the time

 

Move on. If you keep dwelling on her, it'll make you feel worse. It'll take time, but you'll be better off, trust me.

 

im trying too lol

 

Find somebody else, when you want something you can't have you get caught up in it. You haven't talked to her in 3 years, you've probably made her out to be 20x better than she is, if you met her today there is a high chance your feelings would be totally gone. If you find somebody else that you can have, and you let her go, you should be fine. Dont go into another relationship thinking about her though, it wont work.