First steps to a relationship.

Title pretty much says it all. xD
So, I want t ask this girl to hangout sometime, however I've been "out of the game" for awhile now. So kinda just soaking my feet in the water, but what's a good way to start something up? I tried asking for coffee but seems like we both are busy at the times. Or she just doesn't want to overall meet me. xD Anyways, what's a good "first date/hangout place" that ask/asked your partner to?

Also, other people go ahead and post as well, just a general thread about relationships so question away!

 

Coffee meetup's are always a great 'first date/hangout' place. For your relationship issue, try scheduling something in advance, when you both are free to meet up. Don't try pushing her into going though. Let her decide whether she wants to go or not.

You'll know she's into you if she jumps at the open position, or avoids it/blows it off, and makes up an excuse as to why she cannot go.

 

Take her to a scary movie If she get scared, she will grab onto you or hug you for comfort (;

 

The best thing to be, assertive. Quit asking if she's busy.

Go up to her and tell her she'll be going to the movies, mall, amusement park, etc with you on this day, at this time. If she says no, have another day lined up. Do this in a confident way, not nervous.

This will do two things, make you sound confident and you'll get a real answer. She'll either A). have 0 interest, make up excuses as to why she can't make BOTH days or B). Go with you.

Life is too short to be a vagina, just head out there and take it by the horns.

If she has valid excuses for both days, don't write it off if she has interest she'll follow it up with another day or don't talk to her again. She'll contact you, because you're not coming off as pathetic and needy.

 

Hmm, that's what I will probably do. I'm really not looking for a serious relationship, just a nice, fun, drama free(hopefully) relationship. So, hopefully the coffee works out.

 

how old are you? asking girls out completely depends on your age

 

The place isn't as important as the connection. If there is a real connection the place shouldn't matter.

 

Make her laugh alot, and make her feel special then the place won't matter at all.

 

Well if I was you I would take her for a meal out somewhere and a romantic film most women live that combo

 

Going to a coffee shop or maybe ice skating would be a good option for a first date. Make sure you make it enough in advance that she probably has nothing going on/can't make an excuse. If she has an excuse for the first date make sure you have another day to fall back on. If she keeps avoiding the dates, maybe she isn't that interested in you or just doesn't feel comfortable. Try talking to her more and see why.

 

Plan in advance! Starbucks or Barnes and Noble coffee shop are two great places!

They're cheap!
They have coffee + pastries/donuts!

It'll help get the ball moving for you two!

 

Depends on age as loyal to da game said. If you guys are like 14 then coffee probably won't be the best idea. Going for coffee or something similar however is a great place for a first date though, ultimately if it doesn't work out then you are only down the cost of the coffee. The atmosphere is relaxed and chill etc also.

I'd generally advise not to go to the movies for the first date. It may sound like a good idea but ultimately you won't even get to talk with her much. A movie at her place/our place is a better idea because you can then chat at will.

 

Wouldn't know what to say. i am a total pussy irl. make it memorable? :c

 

Hah well we decided to go to the mall, and it's been going decently well I suppose. We are taking it SLOW, not really wanting to rush into anything right now as I have bills and such to pay. I am kinda worried though because supposedly her credit is terrible. X_X

 

Haha! I suggest you don't share any payment plans with her then. I was going to answer to your first post, If she likes you, she'll go with you. If not then moved on. Good luck!