Finding the right girl..

May sounds a little stupid here, aha..

First time opening up and discussing personal life here, but it seems pretty welcoming, Here hoes..

Okay so recently, I've learned a lesson, I got pissed off with my parents splitting up and living with my dad who blames it on me as i used to tell my mum to just walk away if you cant take it anymore, and college getting underneath me as I have under 40% attendance, it's been getting a little crap lately..

So i sold a few valuable things of mine, added up to around £80 nothing big and i started going out drinking, Im 16 so i had to be careful and I met alot of people around the local town and got to know them all, they're mostly nice people but still I realised I didn't fit in because they'd all been excluded at least 5 times and dropped out of school/college but their personalities were great i could get along with anyone.

So last week on tuesday I get myself drunk and end up flat out in mcdonalds, which was rather funny :') but nothing too major, met alot of girls and kissed a beautiful girl honestly she was beautiful, next morning i wake up and shes telling me ohh, your really fit etc etc, i was thinking great i could make a relationship here, next thing i know shes already got off with 15 other lads.

so then comes friday and i get out of it drunk again and i'm in a very rough state on some park with around 40-50 people and some people start arguing so i go over trying to solve the problem very drunk, and i said well just hit me, then i apparently kept shouting being an idiot and kicked a girl in the face, got beat up by 3 lads -.- so lesson learned there.. not to get too drunk..


so at this minute in my life, Im realising that i'm hanging around with the wrong people, i don't think im better than anyone else it's just that i don't fit in and the people on my college course they're all majorly into video games, like jizzing over skyrim etc, i really cant understand that. I saw a girl smiling over to me at the cantine and i thought it must be wierd to just walk over and say hi, to common thing is to just add people on facebook and try to chat them up its pretty stupid nowdays :/ if only it was simple..

all I want is to be happy, with a decent girl and have someone to talk to that can understand me, just one girl, i'd be so happy!

 

Well first thing is first, you have some problems in your life that need to be resolved. You seem to be skipping your classes very often which you should really try to stop doing. It will make your life less stressful and it opens up many social opportunities. Next semester you could try to get into study groups with your classmates and get to know them better. Worst case scenario, you don't find anyone you particularly like but it is a study group so you are at least being productive. You also seem to have issues with your father, maybe try to talk to him and have a serious man-to-man talk and resolve issues on both sides. A parent can be a close friend and a great person to talk to. Sadly I don't have this relationship with my parents but people who do always seem to be the happiest individuals.

Next, your drinking probably needs to stop (or at least be lessened). Drinking is typically not a good way to meet life-long friends or a life partner What happens is you meet people who are even more miserable than you are that are trying to fix themselves, just like you are. Two broken people just don't work!!!! Two broken people can try to help each other as much as they can, you two can relate because you understand each others' problems and it seems great, but that isn't what you need. You need someone to tell you what you should be doing and trying to help you get on the right path.

As for finding the right girl and not knowing how to approach girls...Just go for it. I used to be a very shy individual. I always avoided awkward situations, I was always afraid to ask girls out, I was that guy that would always day dream about a girl but never even talk to her. I had a friend who was similar to me in this way and then he got tired of it and he was like "Screw it" and he saw a cute girl and he just went and asked her out. She had a boyfriend already and my friend got turned down. He later told me that getting turned down was the most amazing thing ever. Why? Because he just didn't give a crap. He asked because he could, not because he was really expecting either answer. I thought this sounded weird at first until I found out it was true as well Don't be afraid to just go up to a cute girl and ask for her number or something. I mean honestly...who gives a crap? What's the worst that can happen? It is kind of awkward? I mean...the girl isn't going to get offended. You are basically complimenting her. If she has a boyfriend, how could you have known? You are just asking a cute girl for her number, nothing to be taken too seriously. So honestly, just go out there and try

 

Stop missing college, it is stressful when you think you're going to get kicked out of college, you need something to occupy yourself with.

Forget about your dad moaning at you, there is no super fast way to fix it, you;ll just have to wait that out.

As for girls, just do what you said, if they smile etc, go and say hi and talk to them, get their numbers, text them, you know how it works.
At 16 it's not very likely you will find your "perfect girl", but no harm in trying.

 

Imo, you expect Ms. Perfect to just walk into your life. It doesn't work like that, finding a girl is one thing, but a relationship is a two way street, you and your partner both have to work towards it.

If you don't like school, find something else to do. Education is the shortcut for good money, but there are a ton of other opportunities that you can have if you truly want to make a living, just find your niche.

 

Finding the "right" girl easy. Why? Well, as everyone says, its not all about looks, of course this doesn't mean every beautiful girl/women w.e is not your type, it's just that you must find common interests, get to know them better. An example is the girl you kissed, she obviously wasn't the right one for you as "she's been around the block"

Anyway, finding the right person takes time, it's not something which happens when you want it to.

 

Call it cheesy but you'll know it's her. If you have second thoughts at the beginning of the relationship that's not a good sign. For me I just saw her and talked for a few hours. I knew that I really loved her then, to bad it was only one way...

 

There is a hierarchy of needs here.

Level 1: Get your shit together.
Level 2: Dont worry about a girl.
Level 3: One will appear suddenly, NOT joking.

You cannot move on to the next level until you pass each level, call me hoke, but it works.