I really like her, but I'm going away.

I met this girl, M, (who lives about an hour away) about 9 months ago, I had a girlfriend at the time, but me and this girl still clicked and became good friends. Shortly after me and M met, my girlfriend broke up with me for various pretty irrelevant reasons, M was always there for me, etc.

An absolutely awesome opportunity came my way, for me to spend 3 months in a poor area of Brazil helping to run an orphanage with my mum's friend, after my exams finish in early July.. Jumping at the chance I forked out about £1,200 for flights. Couldn't wait.

Me and M continued our friendship, never arguing, texting, phoning each other, meeting up for coffee and stuff quite often, but not regularly, she lives an hour away and I didn't drive at the time, only she did. We were only ever friends, nothing sexual. Then I started driving and we started seeing each other more often.. Then, about 2 months ago, we kissed, I realised I started to really quite like her..

Things kept on developing and developing until, now, they started to become pretty serious.. I'd never really thought of mine and her future just having fun and taking things have they came.. But the other night she brought up that she was worried about me going away in 3 months time, she ended up saying that she wants to keep things going and really doesn't want to lose me now..

I hadn't even thought about it, but since she's brought it up I can't help but worry about what's going to happen in the future between me and her.. I don't know if we can last the 3 months whilst I'm away or even what would happen if we did, she's going off to university in September (I get back on the 30th Sept) and I'm starting a gap year. I'm starting to think it'd be unfair on both of us to spend the next few months in an awesome relationship, just for it to end when we go different ways! But at the same time we've got 3 months of enjoying ourselves before I leave ahead of us!

I really have started to like this girl, we get on great.. And I get the feeling she likes me too. What do I do, maaaan?!

 

Enjoy and cherish the next three months, because things may never be the same again. Take every opportunity, and leave no regrets. <- I wish I would've done that when I was in a similar situation.

 

You guys are both at a kind of 'fork in the road' period of your lives, where life is throwing some pretty great opportunities at both of you which you cannot ignore. You with this once in a life time trip opportunity in Brazil, and her with her going off to University in the fall. This is a point in many relationships where things can easily fall apart, because life starts to get in the way and both people realize that its just not worth it to stay the course in the relationship and that its time to focus on themselves and their own lives.

I think you guys should both have a serious talk, and decide how serious your feelings for one another really are. Its one thing to like a girl alot, but girls come and go and you will surely meet somebody else. But if you think that you really love this girl and you might have a future with her, and she feels the same way, then with a bit of commitment and hard work I think you guys could make it work

Long distance relationships are not easy, but if your feelings are strong enough than 3 months really isn't that much time, and if things continue to get serious then its possible you could make things work while she is off at University. If you don't think this is possible and a break up in the fall is inevitable, and a definite thing, then you need to decide whether you should break up now anyways, or enjoy the last few months you guys have together.

"Follow your heart" is usually pretty cheesy advice, but in this case it is totally appropriate. If you really, really like this girl then maybe you should give the relationship a chance, and enjoy the 3 months you guys have together to the fullest, both knowing that it may be the only time you have together. And at the end of the summer, who really knows what might happen... alot can happen in 3 months, and you guys might be willing to make it work beyond that point even with the obstacles you both face.